Higashiyama Changjiaxue Group 1-4
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Born into a well-bred family is lucky, otherwise?However, this is not an option. Every home is unique in the world. No home is perfect, and understanding and accepting and running your own home is what drives life.
Home has infinite power, can turn stones into gold, but also can harm people invisibleIt must be a long journey that is always on the road, all of humanity, and it will be different for different groups. Now, where have we gone?
How do I take the next step?Why?
1) A poem of vicissitudes.
Born at home, live at home, grow old at home. Home is the scope delineated by love, the language of love is the language of life, and the grammar of love is the pursuit of quality of life. Sometimes it's called "hate"?No one has ever said it, no one has ever left it!
Some people say that if you have a home, you also have the pain of a familyOthers say that this is the real pain.
Zhang Taozi is a mother of three children who lives in Yaoshan in the countryside of Guangxi, and today she took her daughter up the mountain to catch a five-colored snake, put it in a bamboo cage, and took it home. The next day, I went up the mountain with my daughter and let it go. Because her 7-year-old daughter Lin Qiao was scared by a male classmate with a snake, in Zhang Taozi's opinion, she wanted to "get back" the frightened soul with her daughter ......This grasp and release belongs to her family culture.
The wind rose and the rain stopped.
The grain is ripe, and in Hezhou, Guangxi, there are still young people who follow the old people to the big temple to make Jiao.
Someone is sick, someone is traveling.
After more than ten years of struggle, Li Qi, who has grown into a "net worth" person, always likes to enter the door with her right foot, which is a Xi she developed when she was a child dragging her mother's clothes.
As long as he is happy, Gzhiletu always Xi touches the scar on his right wrist, which is a memory left when he fell off a horse with Eji on the grassland of the Bari Tiger at the age of 7.
Birth, marriage, cooking, dressing, love ......Such ideas, motivations, behaviors, symbols, conventions, ......It all happens in the confines of the home, and it continues.
The story of home is the whole information of life, not to mention a thousand postures, not to mention a thousand words, as a language of love, how much do we know?
2) Maybe we don't know about home.
For thousands of years, human beings have been constantly on the move, constantly evolving ......We may not know what our luck and misfortune today have to do with our ancestorsWhat does it have to do with our parents?What does it have to do with our family life?What do we live in that lead to happiness and misfortune for ourselves and our children and grandchildren?
How many ethnic groups still live in their ancestral lands?In the language of your own ancestors?Read the family letters written from generation to generation by your ancestorsContinuing your own holiday rituals?When you walk into the ancestral hall, you can face the ancestors and ancestors.
A few years after Hong Kong's return to the motherland, the Qin family sister from Sichuan who came to Dongguan to work often had nightmares. I just opened a small shop and have used up all my savings. She has to get up early and stay late to make ends meet. I always feel that the burden on my shoulders is going to crush me. Wave after wave, it may be that he takes little care of himself, and he has never had to worry about it, but his son, who is in elementary school, suddenly began to be enthusiastic about online games ......One day I was packing up old things, and suddenly a string of southern pearls appeared in front of me - this was left by my grandfather to the Qin family sister before his death. She sat there and played with ...... for a long timeI recall my grandfather's 7 years of life in a wheelchair after his car accident. Every night, Qin Jiamei pushes her grandfather and walks in the ancient town, the moonlight is like water. Grandpa used to be the small leader of the Pao Brother organization, and the grandfather in his 90s always repeated, telling her about the old story of Brother Pao, which was so terrifying, but Grandpa talked about it lightly and ......lightlyQin Jiamei couldn't help but seem to have an understanding, and since then she has taken Nanzhu with her, and gradually has a stable sleep, and the small shop is becoming more and more "light and light".
At home, the seeds of love can be sown inadvertently at any time, and the harvest days are sometimes invisible, and some take a long, long time.
At home, if someone knows all about love, will he have a happy and fulfilling life?The evidence is sometimes the opposite. Will anyone regret their lives because of their lack of awareness of love?The answer is often yes, too.
The child is not sensible", should he be beaten?If all your actions let the child know that you love him, on the basis of clarifying right and wrong, without hurting health and dignity, there is no evidence that it is not positive?Does "hitting a child" necessarily mean negative?It's better not to judge by formality. Because home is "complicated", the language of love is what home is all about - across too many dimensions, the weaving of random days and nights of life, so far, we don't know much.
Home, worth looking into.
No matter how talented a researcher is, he has no right to write a script for his family's life!Moreover, the researcher is also a member of the family to which he belongs, and cannot have the personal observation of several generationsBesides, is it still a "home" if there is a home for an outside observer?
Therefore, the understanding of home often comes from self-reflection
Common sense shows that any knowledge about home is inevitably generalized. The connection between family members is closely related in all aspects, and it is a silent and sound dynamic forward. We often have the ability to focus on the superficial surface, the logic of family life, not always a curve, in fact, the language behind the phenomenon is the key?
Li Tai's great-grandmother is a well-known local lady with a wealthy family. Although my grandmother's childhood was turbulent, the family led by my grandmother was always calm. So much so that Li Tai has never seen his mother speak in a rough voice. Even in the days of financial constraints, the home is always clean and orderly, and there is even the sound of the piano passed from my grandmother to my mother. As a result, as a sensible executive of a cutting-edge technology company, Li Tai, in the ups and downs of the company, he is always seen pampered and humiliated, driving a slightly old domestic car, sometimes wearing a denim suit, so that a little-known small company, standing at the forefront of the world, has stood tall for more than 20 years. In Li Tai's words, it was his mother's pampered smile that forged himself.
In fact, just like Li Tai, there is a well-bred grandmother, she may just "unintentionally insert willows", and she has made Li Tai's mother and Li TaiWhether it is "Jiangsu, Zhejiang, Qianshi" or "Xinhui Liang", ......Family upbringing, starting from attitude, is manifested in the ability to love - to love oneself and one's family. Educated family members are often not "sacrificing themselves" (which may become a guilt imposed on other members), nor are they "only taking care of themselves", but the beauty of self-interest and others--happy life, so that the healthy birth of holograms can naturally be produced.
Some parents who are not very good in economic conditions use selfless dedication and sacrifice to let their children live a life of "poor and rich" and be admitted to the best universities, but sometimes they have an insurmountable "personality" barrier, and then pay "tuition" after entering the society
Love is so narrow and selfish, but so brave to sacrifice?...... make people's IQ questionableUtilitarian and anxious?Under the conditions of market economy, in the working life of quick success, some people will spend money on everything when they return home, and they will settle the ......When I woke up many years later, I was in the twilight of my life!
As long as there is a home, there is a life that belongs to the family, and there must be love.
Born with love, born with beauty, love and beauty are the expression of the character of life.
Encouraging yourself to live well, and at the same time letting your family live well, is a complementary happy life. Some people say that you can only choose one of the twoIn fact, this may be a sign of cowardice (fear). The preciousness of human upbringing lies in the fact that, in the long run, it is necessary to have both, which is obviously imperfect and requires long-term, even multi-generational progress!However, this is the meaning of life - it is challenging, and life is deliciousEasier choice, the result may be to get caught up in the **??? you give yourself
Once you choose the "best of both worlds", you will have twists and turns, and you will gradually get better, and you will not live in vain. At this time, what children's education, family finance, and even birth, old age, sickness and death, the relationship between husband and wife ......All of them are becoming more and more beautiful and natural—all people are "persecuted" by themselves. Even the less fortunate or frustrated the times are, the more they translate into real growth. A real home has the ability to turn evil into good fortune and auspiciousness in distress. Home also has the ability, so that we can be surrounded by any wealth, etc., and still be mentally poor and happy, and not be afraid of danger, such as not moving.
A family life that can only be settled with money is not a real healthy life"Settled", is it just an illusion?
In the ideal, homely intention, the road to simplicity.
You don't have to worry about everything about your child every day – do things for him, raise money for him, worry about him, your fears may hurt him. You don't need to sacrifice yourself too much
If you are on a healthy path, your child will be able to be a lifelong "growth partner" in coping with your entire family life, making them feel free and self-reliant. All human feelings are sophistication, and they are calmly faced.
This is a "one-size-fits-all" choice, but some people just don't want or disdain to make this choice. Because such a choice means a higher life requirement for yourself.
Poor scared" let everything be utilitarian?If you are rich, will your IQ decrease?I always feel that I can only be "relieved" by finding the feeling of "superiority over others" - in fact, I fall into deep fear?And life can't be repeated.
The aesthetics and character of the home are the parenting and lifelong growth, including order, color, spoken language, behavior, and humor ...... belonging to the homeThe whole of life.
Our Chinese family love has its own culture and personality, extending from "do unto others what you do not want to be done to yourself", which is the tempering of self-serving life.
In the Chinese style of LOHAS, home is not a vassal!
Love is mutual fulfillment, not mutual separation and tearingThis is the rule of love.
This is undoubtedly a subjective measure, but it is especially important. This is the law of family love, love, need to surpass each other, in order to achieve each other, reduce damageTurning stones into gold - is one of the personalities of love.
Obviously, love is not a skill at all, the skill that grows from attitude is the real skill, the ability to constantly Xi in life!This is a lifetime of knowledge and charm, and it takes the actions of one generation to another.
3) As a husband and wife of "birds of the same forest".
Husband and wife are the core of the home, and this is a limited choice. Some people start from the beginning, some people can't remember how many times they have been divorced, and some people live alone.
When it comes to love, the text is very superficial. Without male and female love, there is no continuation of the family, including the birth of all people. And those who "love men and women" are easy to "rot" when they are free, and oppress if they are not free
In a rural village in Northeast China in the 70s, a village party secretary named Liu Shilun had two daughters-in-law, who were very affectionate and affectionate. They are Xi to other people's doubts and jokes, including the ridicule of rural cadres. Because of the policy at that time, it was conditionally permissible for the "wives and concubines" who "came from the old society" to live in peace. Liu Shilun said that when the liberation was first made, there were attempts to separate them, but they were unsuccessful.
Xie Nong is a female bettor in her early 40s, who has been married six times, loves to collect thangkas, and now lives with her son from one marriage and her daughter from three marriages. Someone asked her, do you want to find another one?She said, who knows?
In fact, whether it is a husband and wife as the core of the home, or other forms of home. All the same, the horizontal is optional for couples or singles, and not for siblings. Vertical is not optional, upward is by the father (mother) and grandchildren, and down by the son (daughter) and grandchildren.
The love of the family, the world often pays attention to the integrity of the form, but they know that the love is in the heart. We may have to accept the fact that man is imperfect in order to explain the ups and downs of life
Every living family comes from an ancestor and then passes it on to its children and grandchildren, which is a longitudinal reference to love – we sometimes call it "filial piety".Couples with limited horizontal options have children who do not have children – brothers and sisters – for whom the children are brothers and sisters, which is often the norm of life. No matter what the state, the love of husband and wife - love, has the ability to be a source, and any wind and rain of love may bring about an overall and even far-reaching impactSo, the "quality" of love is very importantAnd "love", how inexplicable is it?
or Liu Shilun in the 70s, or Xie Nong in the contemporary era, they are all choices made in the direction that they are most satisfied with. Their current situation is the best they can do – and how different are they?There are so many differences in life.
Perhaps, for the love of home, we should not pay too much attention to forms and phenomena, unless it is for the sake of insight into the spirit of homeIn the depths of the consciousness of love, how vast is the world?
In other words, life is built in order to have the proper character of family love
In fact, even if one person "forms" a family, at the ideological level, other "members" are often presentParticipate in the spiritual life?It's rich?
It can be seen from this that the status of husband and wife in the love of the family, up and down, left and right, if these two are growing up and have excellent self-reflection ability, this indicates what kind of life prospects?There are several people in the family, divorce or not ......It's not as important as you think?
4) The power of "pain".
In the name of love, the harm that belongs to the family is a huge basket, and even you can hold all the suffering of the world!It depends on how big the circle you draw, and how far you measure backwards or forwards
Silent and thrilling, uncomplaining and difficult to choose, sometimes difficult to speak, inexplicable, not all love?The pain of the home, sometimes, is incomparably "cruel", which cannot be avoided or thrown away.
Almost all people who are considered unsuccessful or even black sheep can be traced back to an unhappy childhood and family life!No matter how bad a person is, we generally only need to go back three generations to find that his feelings are pitiful, and even "forgive his evil deeds"?If we can press the reverse button, if we can live again, maybe, there will be no need to use prisons and courts to "exclude dissidents"?
How much good is the achievement of home, then, what about sin?
Originated in the West, the market economy under the progress of science and technology and the rule of law has promoted the "super-speed" economic development and innovation inertiaScience fosters cognition, and technology perfects life. However, in the end, when it comes down to the strength contest of "capital", the growth of people and the value of the family will be "accidentally" forgottenThe importance of the family is marginalized and overdrawn, can the direction of society be satisfactory?Technology is also often used first in the militaryMutual distrust?It mainly relies on "strength" to resolve disputes ......The faster you run, the happier you areWhy are you alive?In the future?
We need our own modernization and build a "community with a shared future for mankind", what kind of family construction do we need?What kind of civil society do we need to build, which requires the nurturing of the family, and more importantly, the "imperfections" of the family?Why has our culture survived to this day?There is a home here for achievement. Since the beginning of reform and opening up, our achievements should be flaunted in the annals of history. There has also been a noticeable change in our family - is the home overdrawn?Do you want to give home and more nurture?
Running too fast makes people afraid to live an ordinary lifeHow does the distortion brought about by such fear "involution" enter or affect life?Tempting the law of love?
At this time, what kind of "love language grammar" does the home have?
There are some enviable "big names" and "big coffee" ......But you don't necessarily have a perfect family?Someone mentions family as a "heroic shortness of breath"?Is this the life we want?
As ordinary people, for ourselves, for our families, and for the sake of the country and future generations, can we do better?This is a ability that can be Xi, and first we need to do it!
If you run faster, can you not hurt your family?Phenomenally, for the sake of home, it is appropriate to slow down the pace, in fact, it may be to move forward faster.
There is a civil society with a family.
The miniaturization of families, the increase in single-parent families, the aging population, the hundreds of millions of single-child families, all kinds of violence in individual families, and the ...... divorce rateCircles are getting smaller, roles and structures are becoming singler, and growth and stability are decliningSome of the unsatisfactory and even occasional disturbing news events that we have been able to see, although they are few, may have something to do with themLong-term effects are more likely to occur, such as the "fertility problem".
To do a good job is to serve the country and the people.
Especially the contemporary adult population. Some of us may be "undergrown", and some may be beyond our predecessors. After all, we have been imposing suffering and tossing for more than 100 years, and we can't help but leave something behindThe meaning of recognizing ourselves and looking back is not self-pity, but refining our cognition, so that we can transform it into our growth and spiritual wealth, and then move forward more firmly. After all, home, has this ability. The construction of a home is the most important path for human growth. For today's adults, how can the pain be transformed?How to face the ...... prosperityStart with the rejection of fear and self-interest......Our culture is to "save ourselves and save others", as long as we wake up and do not complain.
For the family, no one can help except yourself?For China, no one can help but yourself
How can it be better, everywhere there is "intellectual relief" about family life and education - all sorts of training, experiences, and even ...... universities begin to offer coursesThese are certainly not for nothing.
However, at this time, we should be wary of a tendentious dynamic logic - too much emphasis on spending money and knowledge and skills to change the status quo, and not paying attention to the self-cultivation and introspection of adults themselvesEven, the more dissatisfied you are, the more you spend money, and the more you spend money, the more dissatisfied you sometimes be"Going to school" every day, but life at home is a messJust want to be a little lazy and make the home better, is that possible?
Is the accumulation of knowledge alone a real positive change?It's easy to "operate", it's easy to "spend money to settle it"?It's easy to "get results"?After being taught, learned, is there a reason to "lie flat"?
When "Xi" is just a reason to "lie flat", the reason behind it is real fear or depravity
Home is not preaching, it is completely some small mortal trivia that cannot be smaller. Immersed in it, whether you know it or not, whether we are satisfied with it or not, some things may have been cultivated
The location and color of the house, the shape and material of the foyer, the placement of furniture, the smell of the kitchen, the location of toilet paper in the bathroom, what clothes each person wears and what they do every day, what they say, ......It's all about the interactivity, the diversity of facing and coping – it's everything in the home, superimposed with amazing power!Hidden amazing hurts that together shape every person, every family!
Zhang Taozi went into the mountains to take her daughter to catch snakes and release snakes. It is possible to turn the fright and fear of the daughter into the growth of rare love!Zhang Taozi did not preach. The possibility of a healthy growth of a child who is no longer afraid because of maternal love is not something we can describe in words. What if Zhang Taozi doesn't do this?What could happen?What would happen if Zhang Taozi lived in a big city and had enough money and time to ask a psychological counselor for counseling......
Living and facing every day, if the inner attitude remains the same, relying only on skills and knowledge, and relying on spending money to "dodge" the work you should do, it is not credible, and even reduced to a performance - this debt is getting deeper and deeper.
How terrible is such a "performance" every day, every moment?Will there be a "two-way" or even "multi-directional" distortion?Isn't it usually just a lie?Because the message conveyed by all your words and deeds does not necessarily conform to the logic of your spoken wordsOr even far richer?Spoken language is not even the tip of the iceberg of all information, but it has always been regarded by some people as everything
5) The growth of the home.
The power of love is quality, and the power of quality lies in the growth of a lifetime!
What is swallowed is suffering, and what is given is auspiciousness!
Every day we wave our hands to the lives that have passed away, and then we embrace the newborn life with joy!
Or educate people in the end, or destroy people in the invisible. However, once the home is "positive and elegant", it will be able to turn decay into magic and glow with amazing power - this is where the hope lies, that is, the growth of family members, and the positive transformation of all "unsatisfactory".
In the life of the family, the more "unsatisfactory", the more it can be transformed into spiritual growth. Quantitatively, the more "unsatisfactory", the greater the amount of positive transformation – as long as family life is positive.
The ability to love is mainly manifested in building a healthy relationship between husband and wife. From this to the other, all blood relatives are not chosen. No one but death can disconnect from it—not even death. How much power does such a long-lasting close connection contain?
There are many talented families who continue their own learning from generation to generation. In addition to heredity, there is also the language of love that has been passed down from generation to generation – behavioral teachings from generation to generation, worship, reading, sacrifices, skills, life symbols, and so on. Especially some families who have lived together for several generations. Some people say that being alive is not only the existence of natural life, but also the concern of some people. This is evidence that love transcends death!
Not only is it "a kind of lovesickness and two sorrows", separation can't give up love, and invisible thoughts are often more heroic!
The love of home, without reciprocation, refuses to trade. Transform in growth, grow in transformation!
Love is only between family members, and other loves are the logical end of family love
Time flies, and we have come all the way to where we are today. This is a time when more light needs and can be condensed - we don't need to "drill wood for fire", we just need to start from our culture, do ourselves quietly, have our own family pursuits, and converge into a lighthouse - first of all to illuminate our own lives - to have the growth of love. A home that you can feel growing up in must be a joy - happy and long!
This is the flamboyant and unparalleled energy of love.
In human society, the family has its own dance steps, we have come from many crossroads, and now, we need all adults to work hard again to make the quality of life, for themselves, for their families, and then for the country, for mankind, and refuse to "lie flat" - because the trip is uneven.
Not extraordinary, not in vain, to become an ancestor that can make the descendants of a thousand years from now proud.
December 11, 2023.