When I first episode of "The World", I was deeply impressed by the fearless Zhou family daughter. She is 19 years old, in the mood for love, and should be committed to self-improvement and learning, but she chose to start in the spring and travel thousands of miles to Guizhou to pursue true love.
At first, I mistakenly thought that her purpose was to provide a city hukou for my younger brother, who was not doing well in his studies, so as not to cause trouble to his parents. Because in the eyes of parents, everything is their own body, and it is difficult to make a choice. If she excels in her studies, she can go to the countryside with her own efforts and create a better future for herself.
What is surprising is that I learned from Cai Xiaoguang that she was pursuing a poet, what kind of man can make her so desperate and even willing to cut off all contact with her parents?
When Feng Huacheng appeared, his entire body, except for those thick eyes, could not show that he had the temperament of a literary and artistic youth at all. Moreover, his appearance is not outstanding, and he is twenty years older than Zhou Rong. This means that although Zhou Rong is still full of longing for love and the future, he is already a middle-aged man who has experienced countless ups and downs.
This kind of man quietly entered the palace of marriage with a young woman, it is really an extremely irresponsible act, he is too selfish, Zhou Rong once told Zhou Zhigang affectionately that she will not choose divorce in her life. She is a person who attaches great importance to spiritual enjoyment, and as long as there is love, no matter how many difficulties she goes through, she will gladly accept it. But unexpectedly, Zhou Rong chose to remarry, ending her marriage with Feng Hua for 20 years. Feng Huacheng's sentence "Zhou Rong is my everything" seems to still be echoing in my ears, this is really a ridiculous "love."
For many years in Guizhou, Zhou Rong was just a talisman.
Zhou Rong has had a strong interest in poetry since she was a child, and she herself has a book called "Three Hundred Tang Poems". In junior high school, she was attracted by the extraordinary talent of the Beijing poet Feng Huacheng and began to exchange letters with him. After receiving his response, she developed a deeper yearning for the legendary man and vowed to marry him only.
During the *** period, Feng Huacheng was wrongly labeled as a "counter-revolutionary" and exiled to the mountains of Guizhou to suffer. Zhou Rong saw this as a rare opportunity, and she did not hesitate to follow it, but she did not realize that this poet was not as perfect as she expected, he was not disturbed by the world, but more insightful than ordinary people.
When Zhou Rong was still in junior high school, Feng Huacheng began to communicate with her by letter, and even had face-to-face contact. Faced with a junior high school student, Feng Huacheng did not extinguish her emotional spark in time, but allowed the relationship between the two to gradually heat up. This shows that this person's moral concept is indeed problematic, maybe Zhou Rong has some kind of emotional thoughts about him, and there is also his guiding role.
Feng Huacheng was often admonished and monitored by people in Guizhou. When someone came to deliver a message, he always immediately put down the dishes and stood quietly and listened. He feels like a servant of the feudal era. I was very surprised to see him like this. A well-known poet was able to be so obedient despite knowing that he had been wronged. What is the reason behind this?Normally, even if he doesn't show a haughty attitude, he doesn't necessarily have to be so submissive.
At that time, Zhou Rong enjoyed a very high social status in Guizhou, and she was widely respected not only as the daughter of a worker, but also as a local educator. Completely different from Feng Huacheng, she is a beautiful girl who has become the most striking scenery on the photon film. For him, she is willing to go to Guizhou, a remote and barren place, to endure hardships. For Feng Huacheng, this is undoubtedly a great honor, and it also greatly satisfies his self-esteem.
Feng Huacheng married Zhou Rong, which not only brought him a noble status, but also provided him with shelter. Considering his living situation at the time, survival was always his primary concern. Especially when Zhou Rong came to him in a hurry, he agreed without hesitation. He even hastily married his daughter without the consent of her parents, fearing that her parents would object.
When Zhou Zhigang went to Guizhou, Feng Huacheng first knelt down to ask for forgiveness, and then he solemnly said: "Zhou Rong is all in my life." I knew he was thinking not of a person, but of a person, a man. It is often said that a man has ** hidden under his knees, but he can kneel down so casually, and he does not have the arrogance that a poet should have. It makes me feel that he is now acting as if he is subservient and compromising, and has no choice but to do so. In fact, all his kindness to Zhou Rong was to make her live a better life, to slap her up, and make her feel surrounded by love. But in fact, he was resistant in his heart, and it was only because the situation was better than that of people that he had to compromise.
My love for Zhou Rong is from the heart, how can I be willing to let the young Zhou Rong accompany me to endure hardships in the cave for many years. How can you be so cold to your love?How could he ignore the conflict between Zhou Rong and his family because of him?What he loves is often only himself who is admired by others. The "love" he refers to is actually marrying Zhou Rong when he needs protection.
Once you leave Guizhou, there will be constant disputes.
After returning to Beijing, Feng Huacheng was rehabilitated, and his status in society rose with it. Feng Huacheng also specially invited him to the stage to give a recitation, and was successfully appointed as the deputy director of the district library, a position equivalent to a deputy section cadre.
Despite this, he still believes that this official position does not match his talent. He thinks he's an amazing guy and thinks he's the most suitable. He always feels that he is the most suitable, and hopes to take his daughter Yueyue to his home as soon as possible and live together.
About ten years ago, Feng Huacheng wrote a poem of nostalgia on the way home to visit Zhou's mother. The poem was recited in a large audience, which sparked many recitations and discussions. As a result, the poem was judged a political event and arrested on the spot.
Zhou Rong sent her daughter to her brother's house and arranged for her to live in the child's junior high school, until Zhou Bingkun's family could not continue to live, so she chose to move to Hao Dongmei's home.
Incredibly, for the past dozen years, the couple has not been able to bring their daughter back. When Feng Huacheng was on his way home, Zhou Rong chose not to pick up her daughter, but decided to return to Guizhou to engage in educationAfter that, I managed to get into Peking University, but in Beijing, I didn't bring back my daughter. Even though I had started working, I was not able to bring her back. I always say I don't have a place to stay, only a single room, it's just too small.
However, it seems to me that even beggars can bring their children with them to beg. Compared to the beggar, she seems to be living better, but in reality, what the child really needs is not only basic living conditions, but more importantly, spiritual sustenance with his parents. However, the couple never understood that they had been trying to allocate a slightly larger two-room home to their children, hoping to create a better living environment for them. However, the reality has disappointed them many times, and the contradictions between the two are constantly intensifying.
Feng Hua excelled in the poetry contest and won the prize, so the Writers' Association allocated him a room. He bought all the houses, then rented the car as well, and rented a bicycle. He did something for Zhou Rong that she was deeply ashamed of - not only gave gifts to the judges, but also gave gifts to her mentors. This made Zhou Rong feel very embarrassed. Although he managed to win the first prize in the 5th Songshan Poetry Competition, Zhou Rong did not show any smile on his face, and even looked very unhappy. She walked home alone, and she didn't even want to sit on Feng Huacheng's bicycle.
After Feng Huacheng returned home, he eagerly displayed his medal, and quickly found a place on the cabinet, hoping that Zhou Rong would hand him the award. But Zhou Rong didn't take it to heart, just handed it to him absentmindedly. Before Feng Huacheng could catch the award, she let go. As a result, the certificate was shattered, which made Feng Huacheng very angry, and he not only criticized Zhou Rong's hypocrisy, but also accused her mentor of "turning over the stinky old nine salted fish".
The emotional Zhou Rong picked up the award certificate and was about to tear it up, but Feng Hua suddenly pushed her, causing Zhou Rong to accidentally scratch her hand by the glass.
A new subdivision arrangement for Zhou Rong's unit has been announced, and although she asked Cai Xiaoguang to help resolve the relationship issue, she was not involved this time. Zhou Rong, who was in a depressed mood, found the director of the sub-room and directly retrieved the sea cucumber given by Cai Xiaoguang. Feng Huacheng was very angry when he learned of this situation, and scolded her for losing her mind and incomprehension, and even bluntly said in front of Cai Xiaoguang: "This person is too self-centered, and once he is impulsive, he will not take others to heart." ”
One of them can't imagine why he would run in front of others and say that you gave me back the gift I gave you, and the other person can't imagine how he can run from house to house with the gift and say that he wants to vote for my poem, the two are already people of two worlds, or that they have always been people of two worlds, but Zhou Rong has been blinded by worship and has not seen clearly.
When Feng Huacheng heard Zhou Rong criticize him for being vulgar, his heart was full of anger. He clenched his fists and glared angrily, trying to suppress his anger. Cai Xiaoguang noticed that the atmosphere was a little bad and immediately pulled him away. However, Feng Huacheng looked motionless, his gaze locked tightly on Zhou Rong. When Zhou Rong said the word "dirty", he bumped into Cai Xiaoguang without hesitation, rushed in front of Zhou Rong, and wanted to hit her with a wave of his hand.
If Zhou Rong hadn't dodged in time, she might have been hurt. She probably never imagined that the man she had loved for so many years, the man she had insisted would never divorce, the man she had given up everything for him since she was 19 years old and traveled thousands of miles to pursue it, would one day take action against her.
What shocked her even more was that in addition to the ongoing quarrel, she also had to face Feng Huacheng's betrayal.
There are infidelities both mentally and physically, which leads to the end of the marriage.
It is often said that the family is harmonious, but the family relationship is not harmonious, and various problems often arise. Feng Huacheng, a man who often declares that "Zhou Rong is my everything", makes the situation even more complicated after meeting Wang Zi. For a young poet, worship is probably more important than anything else. What he really needs is more than just a lover or family, but more reverence for women. Because deep down in his heart, worship is the cornerstone of love, and without worship, the love he spoke of does not exist.
After some hard work, Zhou Rong finally got her own house, and her daughter came here to live with her. Zhou Rong gradually realizes her predicament and begins to work hard to improve it, and her life seems to be about to change for the better. But Feng Huacheng ruined all this. When Wang Zi praised his talent with "I like your poems", her fan-like expression and affectionate eyes looked at him, and found that Feng Huacheng was already drunk and unconscious, and he no longer needed to drink red wine, because red wine was just an excuse he made for his infidelity.
After spending an intimate night with Wang Zi, when he returned home, he found that Zhou Rong had been waiting for him on the sofa all night. He felt very guilty and offered to cook for her. After Yueyue moved home, he may have also considered returning to his family, hoping to live a happy life. But on Chinese New Year's Eve, which was supposed to be a day for family reunion, he decided to knock on Wang Zi's door.
After a Spring Festival, he decided to be honest with Zhou Rong and specially prepared a sumptuous dinner for her. When Zhou Rong returned home, she praised his cooking skills for still being excellent. However, Feng Huacheng just kept drinking, which made Zhou Rong aware of the problem, and she did not hesitate to propose a divorce. Despite this, Zhou Rong did not get angry, but poured two glasses of wine for their past days.
Zhou Rong smiled and asked Feng Huacheng when he had such an idea, because some people divorce just to get married, Feng Huacheng confessed that that person was Wang Zi.
Zhou Rong's eyes were full of tears, and she flowed silently. She deeply regretted that she was too young and impulsive to think about the consequences. Eventually, she discovers that this man is simply not worth her so much effort. She was hospitalized for more than a month and never returned home. Feng Hua resolutely slammed the door and left, only to let Zhou Rong eat with tears in her eyes, and then cry silently.
At first, Zhou Rong held Feng Huacheng too high, a teenage young woman traveled thousands of miles to find him, such a starting point was too high, and the current situation made Feng Huacheng feel as if he was covered in dust. His mood became unstable, and Wang Zi just filled the imbalance in his heart.
He did not hesitate to choose Wang Zi as his partner, ending his decades-long married life with just one meal, and at the same time abandoning his wife and his only child who were willing to give everything for him, it was like losing a loved one.
Reading this, I realized that Feng Huacheng, as a poet, is not only talented, but also good at socializing and speaking. However, such a poet who can both speak and express has become a joke existence, and his biggest flaw is the sentence "Zhou Rong is my everything." His life is to live for the youth of others. He has never really loved anyone, all this is just the pressure of life, what he really loves is always himself, such a person, and no one can last long.
Unsurprisingly, instead of enjoying a happy life abroad, Feng Huacheng chose to return to China to become a monk, and he returned to Guizhou, the place he had tried so hard to escape, became Master Puzhao, and spent the rest of his life in the land of the ancient Buddha's green lanterns.
He eventually realized that he had a high opinion of himself, a high opinion of himself, and the abandonment of his family and loved ones. He finally understood that he was a thinking person. This is also a clearer understanding of oneself and how to love others.
Sanmao mentioned in his work "Dear Sanmao" that if a person does not know how to love others in this world, then how can he really be loved.
In a marriage, being grateful to your partner for every effort you give and trying to give her more love is the foundation of a lasting marriage.
Instead of hurting each other, covering themselves in the name of love, repeatedly claiming to love you, hypnotizing each other for your good, in fact just a wolf in sheep's clothing. I always thought my heart was soft. There are always its own unique twists and turns.
Instead, let go of the emotion for a while to avoid hurting others and yourself.