"Great wisdom and foolishness" has always been regarded as the highest state of wisdom in life, and it is possible to look at the cold and warm with a "rare and confused" mentality, and to behave in the world with a low-key attitude, in order to be invincible on the stage of life. And the reason why people can be "wise and foolish" is often inseparable from a tolerant mentality. Be able to tolerate the shortcomings of others, so as not to highlight your own edge;Only by being able to tolerate the advantages of others can we hide our wisdom in our hearts and make ourselves feel at peace everywhere and at all times.
A philosopher once said: Tolerance is the manifestation of the wise, and the wiser the person, the more he understands the truth that "let one point be high, and one point wide is a blessing". Tolerance is not only a favor to others, but also kindness to oneself.
Meng Shanjun was once expelled from the country by the King of Qi, and those who had been friends with Meng Shanjun were cut off from him because of their loss of power, which made Meng Shanjun very angry. He engraved the names of these people on the board one by one so that he could remember them.
Later, Meng Weijun was recalled to the court because of his success. He met Tan Shizi, a Qi man, at the border, and Tan Shizi asked him: "Do you hate those who are close when you gain power and estranged when you lose power?"”
Meng Weijun nodded yes.
Tan Shizi persuaded: "Actually, you don't have to be like this, people in this world are like bazaars, there are always more people in the morning than in the evening, this is not because people love to hate the morning and hate the late, but according to their own needs and decide to act." Therefore, it is normal for most people to stay close to whoever is rich and rich, and stay away from whoever is poor. So, I hope you don't hate those people anymore!”
After hearing this, Meng Weijun felt reasonable, so he cut off all the names engraved on the wooden board. Meng Weijun tolerated those snobs and won a peace of mind for himself, and thus established his prestige and consolidated his position.
Understanding and tolerance are the greatest treasures, and the more understanding, the less the separation of the heart;The more tolerance there is, the more peace of mind there will be.
The world is composed of contradictions, no one or anything can be perfect, if you encounter unpleasantness, you must compare, grasp it, not only can not heal the scars in your heart, but also put yourself and others on top of hatred, so that the fight and hurt will go on endlessly.
People, shuttling in the vast sea of people, will inevitably encounter some troubles and stumbling. It doesn't matter who is right and who is wrong, what matters is whether you can be considerate and tolerant of others with a tolerant heart when encountering problems. Take a step back, give the other party a step, and also broaden the path for yourself, why not?
A teacher asks a student, "Do you have people who are disgusting?"Some of the students nodded slightly, while others remained silent. So he gave each of the students a bag and said to them: "When you go home, go and find some stones, and for every one who is disgusted in your heart, put a stone in your bag, and then bring the bag with the stones to class every day." ”
The students listened and went back and did so. Every day after that, they would be seen carrying bags of varying weights to school.
As the month passed, the students had more and more stones in their bags, and some of them couldn't lift them themselves. So, I couldn't help but ask the teacher, "Why do you have to carry these stones to school every day?"The stone is so heavy, it's really hard to carry!”
The teacher smiled and said, "If you feel tired, throw away the bag tomorrow, you don't have to carry it to school, and you don't have to add stones to it." ”
The students were surprised and didn't understand the teacher's intentions.
The teacher went on to explain, "Every stone in your bag represents a person of disgust, and the more people you dislike, the more weight you have to carry, and the more tired you will naturally feel. So, try to forgive and tolerate others, so that your hearts will become more and more relaxed. ”
In life and work, we often encounter some people and things that disgust us, and even a person who disagrees with us or a small thing will make us feel disgusted and angry, so we will put stones into our own bags like those students. As a result, things didn't change much because we put a burden on ourselves, but rather made us feel exhausted.