Good things can be done, but some good things can't be done too much, because some people's troubles are their own. If you help them, you also need to fear cause and effect to go with the sky, and you need to think carefully about whether you want to help the following three good things. Otherwise, if you help others, others will not appreciate it and become hostile to you, so why bother
It's good not to always be kind enough to persuade others to help others, but you also have to know a 'degree'. It's like pouring tea, pouring it full and overflowing, it's not good. To persuade people and give advice, it depends on the timing and the object. Sometimes, someone else may just need an audience, and they don't really need you to solve the problem.
.In the Book of Changes, it says: "The first confession, repeated blasphemy, blasphemy, blasphemy, no accusation." ”This means that when you see someone having a problem, you can remind them. But if you remind them once, twice, or three times and they still don't listen, then you don't say it again. Why?Because they will only believe what they want to believe and see what they want to see. If you are always trying to wake up someone who does not want to wake up, then your mental energy will be greatly drained. Your vitality is damaged. If your vitality is lost, your luck will not be too good. 'Good intentions do bad things' happens all the time. Well-intentioned, but not necessarily as expected. So, be sure to think twice before you decide to give advice to someone else. Don't let your kindness become a burden. Remember, good things are grinding, but you can't overgrind them either. Good intentions should be done in moderation. It's good to help others, but you also need to consider the other person's acceptance and your own abilities. There is a saying, "If you help someone a thousand times, you don't remember your gratitude, and if you don't help once, you will hold a grudge." This is true. Helping others should be done in moderation, not everyone knows how to be grateful. If you do a good deed, not only do you lose money, but others don't appreciate it. As the old saying goes, "people are good at being bullied, and horses are good at being ridden", and sometimes, your kindness is taken advantage of. Therefore, there must be principles to help people, and there must be standards for doing things. Your time, energy, and resources are all precious, and you can't do everything at once. Helping beyond your own power is a disaster. Let's not help people without a bottom line. Some people are not content by nature, and the more you help them, the more they get in. Your rejection is sometimes the greatest help to the other person. Just like a child learning to ride a bicycle, if you always hold on, he will never learn, some wrestling, he has to fall on his own, if we always solve problems for others, they may never learn to be self-reliant. Therefore, when helping others, you must know what to do and what to retreat. In this way, you can not only help others, but also maintain your health and balance, and don't put your feet in other people's shoes. When people complain to you about family matters or their own private matters, it would be nice for you to comfort them. Don't give an idea, otherwise you will spend a long time trying to make people annoy you, and you will become a sinner, why bother?Guan Zhong in the Spring and Autumn Period once said: Inseparable relatives. That is, those who are estranged should not get involved in the affairs of those who are close to them. Every family has a scripture that is difficult to read, how can we outsiders understand it clearly?Many times, people are one thing outside, and they are different at home. You only see one side of them, but you don't necessarily see the other side. Concern without a sense of boundaries is often fanning the flames.
Stay out of the way, everyone knows the merits. Being generous is not necessarily a good person. Imagine a situation where you, out of kindness, get involved in someone else's chores and help out. It was also solved at that time, and the other party was grateful to you. However, as time passed, the feeling of gratitude slowly faded, and the rest may be the mind that you know about their private affairs. You may be confused and don't know what's going on, but the other person has quietly become hostile to you. Because he thinks you have his secret, so don't worry about family and private matters, you originally had good intentions, but in the end you have to suffer the consequences.