Compassion is not in charge of the army, benevolence is not in charge, benevolence is not an official, and love is not a thing", this is the summary of the ancient sages for people's lives. To put it simply, to be a man, we must first know ourselves and others, know ourselves, know what position we should be in, how to be such a person, know others, and know how to treat others;The second is to tell a person to stay rational, not to be influenced by desires and emotions in his judgment, and to use reason to look at anything;Finally, it is necessary to follow the objective laws of nature, who should do what they should do, do their own work well, and must not go beyond it. And a successful person should have the following four personality traits: see accurately, be patient enough, be ruthless, and be stable in the aftermath.
First, you can see accurately.
Sun Tzu's Art of War pays attention to cautious warfare, to win first and then fight, do not fight first and then seek victory, if the judgment and decision-making are not accurate, one punch out, can not directly hit the vital point, one move kills, you are likely to be finished. The judgment of the situation and timing should be accurate, penetrate the trend, and hit the essence directly, so as to be accurate. The key to war is to count rather than fight, and the highest level of war is to surrender without fighting. The basis for judgment and decision-making is interests and the situation, and we must act according to the interests and follow the trend. First, it is necessary to combine it with objective reality, and not to talk on paper and stick to dogmaSecond, we must be far-sighted, think twice, and don't act rashly, because impulsiveness is the devil, reckless, blind and brutal, indulgence and loss of control will lead to mistakes and disasters. This should learn from the water, the water is clear as a mirror because of the stillness, the mind is clear because of the calmness, the right thinking, the right view, the right look, the good work, the wonderful work, often surprisingly winning, so there must be enough concentration, there will be the right ideas and good strategies, Su Xun "Heart Technique" has a saying: "For the way of the will, the heart should be cured first." Mount Tai collapsed in front and the color remained unchanged, and the elk was on the left and did not look instantly, and then it could control the interests and harms, and it could treat the enemy. ”
Second, the heart is forbearing.
The Sushu says, An Mo is not tolerant of humiliation, the situation and timing are not conducive to shooting, to endure, to wait, not to fight uncertain battles, not enough strength can not be frontal and tough, but should be like water to go around, fight if you fight, run if you can't fight, can't run and pretend to be dead, thirty-six plans to go up for the plan, can bend and stretch, first protect yourself. The water changes due to the terrain, the battle changes due to the enemy's situation, the enemy is strong, do not hit the stone with an egg, but wait for the opportunity, act at the opportunity, and guide according to the situation, only if you can do a moment of forbearance and humiliation, can you survive in good condition, and create an opportunity to become the final winner, that is, to be invincible first, in order to wait for the enemy to win. Only by being able to endure can we control our emotions, not be misled by emotional coercion and enslavement, will not be scratched by anger, and will not be humbled and arrogant, so as to make accurate judgments and correct decisions;Only by being able to endure can we stay calm and rational, not to be provoked, not to be arrogant, and not to be fooled and make mistakes.
Temper tantrums are not impossible, but it is important to remember that tantrums are only a means to an end, not an outward manifestation of emotional out-of-control. In the "Plain Book", it is said that those who are angry and have no authority will commit, and those who insult others will suffer. A person who likes to be angry, but does not have the power to deter others, will definitely be violated by others;Those who like to humiliate others in public will surely suffer because of this. Therefore, tantrums should pay attention to the conditions, environment and methods.
Liu Bei was killed by Sun Quan because Guan Yu was carried away by grief and indignation, and he couldn't bear this breath, so he poured all his troops into anger and raised the division, but as a result, the company camp was burned to the ground, and the momentum was like an avalanche;Zhuge Liang attacked Sima Yi's city, and he couldn't attack it for a long time, Zhuge Liang sent Sima Yi's women's clothes to humiliate, Sima Yi not only did not get angry, but put them on with a smile, so that Zhuge Liang **, he can bear it, not angry, the one who is angry is the opponent, Zhuge Liang's wishful thinking is in vain. Seeing through the will of the opponent and disobeying it, so that it can be realized in reverse, this is the greatest wisdom of war, and the basis of this wisdom is to be able to endure, and only when the ability to endure humiliation is enough, can we remain calm and rational;Under the vigilance and exclusion of the Cao Wei regime, Sima Yi endured humiliation, taoguang and obscurity, pretended to be sick and confused the emperor Cao Shuang, and preserved himself, so that he later subverted Cao Wei and achieved the imperial cause.
3. Be ruthless.
When the conditions are ripe, when the time comes, we must not be soft-hearted, we must be ruthless, vigorous and resolute, decisive in killing, and do not leave future troubles, because the opportunity is fleeting, we must not be too benevolent, and soft-heartedness is often bad. Xiang Yu and his husband sent the woman's benevolence, indecisive, a Hongmen banquet to let the tiger return to the mountain, missed the best opportunity to kill the rival Liu Bang, since then caused a trend of defeat, unable to return to the sky;The other was blinded by Gou Jian's pretending to be crazy and stupid, lost his vigilance, and was finally pretended to be a pig and ate a tiger. Therefore, to be merciful to the enemy is to be cruel to oneself, and it is necessary to cut down the grass and eradicate the roots, and not to take it lightly.
Fourth, the aftermath is stable.
The aftermath should be stable, and hidden dangers should be eliminated afterwards to prevent sequelae. As long as the level of aftermath is high enough, work safely, and leave no troubles, you can be invincible for a long time. The movement of the opposite is the use of the weak. The way of heaven is to make up for the deficiency when there is more than is lost. The water is full and overflowing, the moon is full and the moon is lost, everything can be stopped, too much, the words can not be full, things can not be done, everything leaves a way back, leaves a way out, to learn Zhang Liang, homeopathic wisdom, the whole body retreats, do not learn Han Xin, go against the trend, and have not been preserved. We must be cautious in our words and deeds, always like walking on thin ice, always like facing the abyss, and be careful to sail the ship of ten thousand years. We must have a sense of crisis, be prepared for danger in times of peace, take precautions, be born in adversity, and die in peace, because as soon as you take a nap, the opponent's opportunity will come, and if you are careless, the danger will be close.