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Brother Zhang's retirement story Retirement should be a good time to enjoy your old age, but in reality, many people find it difficult to do it. Some have to continue working to earn a living because of their small pensions, while others are not in good health and are unable to enjoy their retirement to the fullest. Even with wealth and health, many people are unable to retire because of an elderly family member. Brother Zhang is 58 years old this year and has two years to retire. In fact, he could have retired at the age of 55, but he wanted to work for a few more years to earn more money, so he applied to the employer to postpone his retirement until the age of 60. However, just as his retirement was approaching, he received the news that his mother was sick in his hometown, which disrupted Brother Zhang's original plan and even made him resentful. "I've been with the unit for almost 30 years. I could have retired at the age of 55, but there was a vacancy at the time, so I discussed it with my family and applied for a postponement of retirement, intending to wait until I was 60 to enjoy my life. Brother Zhang recalled. At the time, his colleagues did not understand his decision. They persuaded one after another: "Wouldn't it be nice to retire early and go home and enjoy life?"If you don't work, you can get money, so why suffer this sin again.
In Brother Zhang's industry, occupational diseases are widespread, and cervical and lumbar spine problems are more serious. However, considering that the son is going to buy a school district house and the grandson is about to get a better education, now is the time to use the money. Add to that the fact that he has struggled to work in a leadership position for many years, although it will not be as hard as it used to be for a few more years, and even his superiors may see that he stays and performs well, so as to increase his salary. Therefore, he eventually chose to stay and continue to work. Sure enough, he was as he thought, he still stayed in his original position, and the workload was reduced, he was mainly responsible for technical guidance, no need to work overtime, and he could rest on weekends. In addition, the leader was considerate of him and raised his salary by 1,000 yuan. He firmly believes that he made the right decision, and as long as he persists for a few more years, it will be time to truly enjoy life. However, unexpectedly, just over a year before Brother Zhang was about to retire, the news of his mother's illness came from his hometown. Therefore, he took a day off from work and made a special trip home to visit his mother. Brother Zhang's story may be a true portrayal of what many people face.
Retirement is supposed to be a turning point in life, but many people encounter various uncertainties on the road to retirement and cannot achieve their wishes. Because of various factors such as family affection, responsibility, and life, people are often forced to make concessions, which also makes us lament the impermanence of life and the difficulty of choosing between family and career. Perhaps, we need to think carefully about whether we should give more companionship and care to our family members while pursuing our careersWhile struggling, should we arrange more time and cherish our short life?In your opinion, how would you choose?Leave a comment and share your thoughts with us. My mother has been suffering from diabetes for a long time, which has always been a matter of concern in our family. Although she had been insisting on medication, I recently returned home to find that my mother had been hiding the medication under her bed and had not taken it. She claimed that she had listened to the village elders and was afraid that she would not be able to stop once she started taking the medicine. It made me so angry that I wanted to tell her she was so confused!So, I had to help my mother pack her bags, drive her back to the city, and take her to the hospital for further examination. After more than 10 days in the hospital, my mother resolutely refused to return to her hometown and insisted on staying with us.
In the face of this sudden change, I really felt a headache. For many years, because my wife and mother did not have a good relationship, I did not let them live together and kept a certain distance. Now my mother suddenly offered to live with us, and I really didn't know what to do. The wife proposes that, considering the mother's health, she can live at home for a while, but once she has **, she must return to her hometown immediately. I said yes again and again, because the two women really have their own difficulties. At the same time, my wife also told me: "It's okay to let her live here, but you have to take care of her yourself, and I won't help you." ”。Given that my wife suffers from migraines and often suffers from insomnia, I really don't dare to let her take care of my mother, fearing that if she has emotional problems, her mother and wife will start a war of words, and I will eventually suffer. When my mother came home, I felt the feeling of lingering palpitations. I needed to go to work, but my mother expected me to be there for her all day because she was afraid that someone would hurt her. I persuaded her that the doors of the house were closed and that no one could come in and hurt her. But her mother insisted that someone was trying to harm her. The doctor told my mother that it was better not to be excited, and that it was better to follow her in everything. In desperation, I had to take two days off to stay at home with my mother.
My mother finally smiled when she saw that I had agreed to stay at home with her. However, this peaceful atmosphere did not last long before it was broken. Since my wife is Xi to taking a lunch break, she goes to bed at 12:30 punctual every day. But my mother likes to watch TV, especially to listen to dramas. She has some hearing loss and needs to turn up the volume to hear clearly. Sure enough, the wife rushed out after hearing the movement, saying that there was no peace in the house at all, and her head was about to explode. My mother refused to compromise, saying that my wife didn't want her to stay at home at all, and was always trying to get rid of her. I hurriedly reassured my mother and took out my phone for her to see. I took my phone to her bed, opened the software, the drama she liked, and turned the volume up to moderation. The mother looked at it a few times, nodded in satisfaction, and intoxicated herself in the play. I walked to the bedroom door and smiled at my wife: "She won't leave again, let's be patient." The wife also laughed and said, "You are such a good son." ”。I think what my wife said is very reasonable, and I should have thought more about my mother. The mother is currently living in the city, also to take better care of her health. But I don't want my wife to suffer because of this. I decided to maintain a tolerant mind and a peaceful attitude to deal with the difficulties in front of me.
I will take my family relationship seriously and work with my wife to improve my mother's living environment and make her more comfortable and happy here. As a son and husband, I believe that I have the ability to take care of everyone in my family and make them feel warm and happy. After all, family is the warmest harbor and the place we are most attached to. Through this experience, I became aware of the complexity and importance of family relationships. In the face of my mother's illness and needs, I need to take care of her more carefully, and at the same time, I need to think seriously about how to balance the conflict between my wife and mother. In the process, I also gradually understood that as a man in the family, I need to show more understanding and care, and run a warm home with my lover. Now, I have to learn to be more patient and considerate, and use more love and understanding to fill in the conflicts and deficiencies in the family. Finally, I would like to appeal to society to pay attention to family relationships. In the fast-paced life of modern society, we may often overlook the importance of family relationships. But in fact, family is our most fundamental harbor, and it is the most affectionate hug that gives us. We should pay more attention to every member of the family, maintain warm affection, and let every member feel love and warmth.
In this way, our society will also be more harmonious and beautiful. My mother always complained that the screen of her mobile phone was too small to see clearly, and insisted on watching TV. In order to meet my mother's needs, I spent thousands of dollars to buy her a tablet, but she just glanced at it casually and ignored it, saying that she didn't know how to use it and still wanted a TV. So, I had to go to the second-hand market and buy an old TV and put it in my mother's room. Since she lived in the second bedroom and there was no internet cable, it took me two days to fix the installation of the cable and TV. However, the wife was not satisfied with this, she stood at the door and said, "Mother is not a long-term resident, why should she install a TV, is there no place to spend this money?"When I heard that, I was very upset. My mother has been staying there for many days, and I have been taking care of her, including doing laundry and cooking, taking her out for walks, and even helping her with the urine bucket, but my wife has never offered to help. In fact, my physical condition is not optimistic, years of work has had an impact on my cervical and lumbar spine, especially my lower back, these days it is even more dull pain, and it is difficult to turn over at night. As the days passed, my mother seemed to have no intention of leaving, and said that the weather was getting colder and colder, and she needed to put a heater in the room.
I proposed to turn on the air conditioner, but my mother was reluctant, saying that the air conditioner was making her uncomfortable and that she had to heat it. I had to buy her another heater, but she was too dry to use and asked me to lay an electric blanket for her. I found the electric blanket at home, but she said she wanted a new one, not an old one. I hurriedly said that I would buy it tomorrow, but that night, my mother suddenly felt unwell, with a stuffy pain in her chest, dizziness, and a tingling sensation in her arm. I looked at my phone, it was already past three o'clock in the morning, isn't this tossing people?I looked back at my wife, and she just said, "Don't count on me, I'll have something to do tomorrow!".Hearing this, I was also anxious: "What do you have tomorrow!".You're 50 years old, you're already retired, and you don't have to go to work, what else do you have to do?"I realized that I was almost 60 years old, and I had to work to earn money and take care of the elderly, but there was no one around me who could lend a helping hand, and my anger was growing in my heart. This series of events made me feel very anxious. Responsibility and care are not an easy task, especially when faced with some unspeakable challenges. I had to face my mother's needs and try my best to meet her needs, but at the same time, I also needed my wife's support and understanding.
Striking a balance between family responsibilities and personal life has become a major problem on my mind. In this modern society, we need to think together about how to better solve family conflicts. How to better coordinate family relationships and balance various responsibilities is a question that needs to be pondered. Perhaps, this also requires us to seek more comprehensive and in-depth solutions at the institutional and cultural levels. At the same time, there is a need for greater attention and attention to these family issues, especially in the area of care for the elderly and family responsibilities. This is an urgent social issue that requires more people's attention and joint efforts to solve it. My wife was also angry, she sat up and yelled at me, "This is your mother's trouble, don't be angry with me!".With that, she rolled over and lay down, determined not to help again. My heart ached. I still have to go to work at eight o'clock in the morning, but my mother is still there screaming. When I was nearly 60 years old, I realized that the saddest thing was not a lack of money, but that I was already at this age, but I still had to serve the elderly. Who doesn't want to be a filial son?However, the reality is in front of us, and even the most filial children will feel distressed. I don't know how many others are as related to me as I am.
People, health is the most important, and the health of the elderly is the blessing of their children!My wife was also angry, she sat up and said loudly to me, "This is your mother's own trouble, don't lose your temper with me!".With that, she rolled over and lay down, determined not to help again. My heart ached. Even though I had to go to work at 8 a.m., my mother was still moaning there. At the age of 60, I finally realized that the saddest thing was not the lack of money, but the fact that I was at this age and still had to take care of my elderly parents. Who doesn't want to be a filial son?However, the reality is in front of you, and even if you try your best, you will feel tired. I don't know how many others are like me. People, health is the most important thing, and the health of the elderly is the happiness of their children!The above is a true story about taking care of elderly parents. I'm sure many will resonate with this as they read it. As society ages, more and more children are taking on the responsibility of caring for their parents. Whether it's material support or spiritual care, patience and love are required. This is an unshirkable responsibility, but also a kind of selfless dedication. With a healthy body, you can take better care of your parents and let them enjoy their old age in peace.
Therefore, let us cherish our health together and work hard for the health of our parents, because their health is our greatest happiness!In this story, we see the sadness and helplessness of caring for our elderly parents. In today's society, the change of family structure and the aging of the population have brought more responsibilities and challenges to children. What are your thoughts on this topic?Do you have a similar story around you?Feel free to leave a comment to share your views and experiences.
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