Pushkin once said: "Staying cold to women attracts their attention." ”
Indeed, when men pursue women, they should not be too entangled, and sometimes a little indifference can attract their attention more.
Many men mistakenly believe that pursuing women requires constant enthusiasm, fearing that their inadequacies will turn women off.
In fact, when women are flirted with by men, they usually deliberately keep their profile high, expecting men to pursue them. Therefore, the more humble you appear, the less she will care about you.
In such cases, women often wonder, "Why does he care so much, he won't leave anyway." ”
Faced with this mentality of women, men need to learn to subtly contradict it, deliberately creating a sense of tension that "if I don't care about her, she might pursue other girls".
In this way, she will pay more attention to you, dare not despise your pursuits, and will naturally care more about you.
In general, there are still some skills that need to be mastered in courting women, otherwise you may go astray and end up being taken seriously by her and thrown into the arms of others.
Therefore, men should understand that one of the tricks to guide a woman to pursue you is to be a little cold to her. By snubbing a woman in the following three ways, she will be more tempted.
1. Keep it as if you are leaving, arouse her interest When pursuing a woman, men must maintain a state of being separated and do not revolve around her all day long.
If you keep pestering her, it will only arouse her disgust, and she may think that you are a frivolous person.
Women are psychologically burdened when they are pursued, and she will think about many things inadvertently, observe your behavior, judge your sincerity, and constantly test your purpose.
If she feels that your feelings are insincere, or that she has not yet established trust in you, she will keep her distance and be reluctant to let you close.
Therefore, when a man is dealing with a woman, he needs to learn to distance herself from her in a timely manner and not leave a bad impression on her.
In short, it takes skill to pursue women. Once you've caught her attention, chill it off a little to pique her interest.
Usually at this time, women think, "Why didn't he look for me?".Is he interested in me?”
When a woman looks forward to you, she will pay more attention to you and especially want to see you again.
When you succeed in piquing her interest, she will take you to heart and will care more about you the next time she sees you.
Of course, men should not remain cold, but at the right time, approach her enthusiastically again. Your sudden appearance is sure to make her very happy.
Even if a woman doesn't show it on the surface, she already has a crush on you in her heart, and at this point you are halfway through your pursuit of her.
In life, many men don't know how to arouse women's interest and always pursue them with a humble attitude, which is really not a good way.
If you don't learn to stay at ease with her, she'll just take you less seriously and even treat you like a spare tire.
Therefore, when it is time to be cold, it is necessary to be moderately cold. When expressing enthusiasm for her, treat her with sincerity and sincerity. When you are sometimes cold and sometimes enthusiastic towards her, she will feel lost and unclear about your true intentions, and will naturally pay more attention to you and become interested in you.
Second, I want to catch her attention A colleague once said in the office: "My boyfriend sends me a goodnight message every day, which has lasted for a month, but I haven't sent it in the last two days, I feel very uneasy, does he no longer love me?".”
In fact, the boyfriend is using a trick to get away with it. He first made his girlfriend Xi his existence, and then suddenly became cold, making the other party fall into suspicion and feel sad.
A few days later, he resent a goodnight message and dated her again as before. At this time, the originally worried girlfriend was instantly relieved, and it turned out that her boyfriend still loved her.
The facts also proved this, and later my girlfriend said happily at work: "My boyfriend still loves me so much, so happy." ”
Therefore, when a man pursues a woman, he must grasp the timing to be able to arouse the interest of the woman and fill her heart with anticipation, and naturally she will care more about you.
Even, when a woman is faced with your coldness, she may involuntarily come to you, and when she has greater expectations for you, she may chase you back.
Men must learn to hide their intentions and not express their desires too obviously, so as not to feel disturbed by boring men.
Instead, approach her at the right time so that she can't find a reason to reject you. In this way, step by step, and then at the right time, win in one fell swoop.
Therefore, when a woman is Xi to your presence and builds dependence on you, she will be more motivated.
Remember, don't be overly obvious about your intentions, and have to move forward and retreat. It seems that she can't do without her, but she shows indifference moderately, and this state of seeming whether she is pursuing or not will make women full of expectations.
Moreover, at this time, she can't find a reason to reject you, which is exactly the trick to arouse women's attention.
Once she is concerned about you, the rest will fall into place, and I believe she will soon fall into your arms.
3. Reject women's unreasonable demands and maintain men's dignityA reader asked, "Why did I spend so much money on my girlfriend and she broke up with me?"”
He and his girlfriend have been dating for less than three months, and he has spent nearly 20,000 yuan on his girlfriend, but his girlfriend thinks he is not manly, so he proposes to break up.
In a relationship, as long as his girlfriend asks for it, he can always meet it, and he is always cautious, for fear that his girlfriend will be unhappy.
It is precisely because he appears so humble in love that he loses his male dignity that his girlfriend feels that he is not manly.
The girlfriend doesn't think of him as her boyfriend, he's just a mobile ATM, and the more he pleases, the less she cares.
As he said in the letter, once, his girlfriend took a fancy to a bag and asked for more than 6,000 yuan, but he didn't have enough money, and finally had to borrow a few thousand yuan from a colleague to buy it.
However, the girlfriend was not moved, but thought that he bought it too late, saying that he did not pay enough attention to her. This love was out of balance from the beginning, and naturally it couldn't last.
So I wrote back to this reader and told him: "It is precisely because you can't refuse, and you have been flattering her in every possible way, that she thinks you are unmanly." ”
In fact, women usually don't like men who only flatter them in every way, and they don't see such men as real partners.
If she is still willing to associate with you, she only values your money, and in order for a woman to really be attracted to you, she must maintain the dignity of a man.
A man with a backbone is often able to arouse the respect of women, and when she looks up to you, she will naturally favor you more.
Men should remember that pursuing women is not to be obedient to them, let alone to indulge them, and to say no to women appropriately, refuse their unreasonable demands, and she will admire you even more.
At any time, a man who will only grovel in front of women will not be able to win her heart.
It has been said, "Men have their own worth, women have their own stature." ”
In the past, men must not lose their dignity, and if they want to win the hearts of women, they really can't get it by currying favor in every possible way.
If you really want women to be attracted to you, you must master the skills and know how to be indifferent to women appropriately, so that she will have more expectations for you, and may even chase you.
Of course, all techniques must be based on sincerity, and men can use techniques when pursuing women, but they must be treated with sincerity.
Otherwise, even if you succeed in chasing a woman, if you can't really give, she can't really give to you.
Therefore, if you really like a woman, in addition to using love skills, you must also love her sincerely, so that it is possible to win her heart.