Jimmy expressed: "When you are deeply in love, remember the symbol of love on the tree, and when you break up, you mercilessly erase those faded vows." ”
For young people, love may have a touch of romance, after all, when you are young, it is easy to mistake it for an eternal life in just three or five years.
However, for middle-aged men and women who have passed the age of 40, the difficulty of feeling love has greatly increased. This is because middle-aged men and women have experienced many twists and turns in life, and have long been polished by the grinding of life to be more mature and rational.
While they may be more invested in love, reality also makes them more rational in recognizing that some loves don't end up going into the future.
In the face of love, they use rational thinking in order to be able to withdraw from love sensibly and with dignity. However, in real life, there are always middle-aged men and women who can't get rid of the entanglement of love, they don't know how to handle their feelings correctly, and they end up paying a heavy price for the behavior of both parties who cross the line.
Therefore, for men and women over the age of 40, if they have a relationship and want both parties to be safe and return to a peaceful life, they need to learn to properly handle their feelings and avoid falling into an uncontrollable situation.
Usually, middle-aged men and women are wiser to adopt the following methods when dealing with relationships:
1. Don't entangle, don't evade, and actively face up to the problem. Vasilev said: "No matter how many love adventures a man has experienced, often there is only one irreplaceable woman who will remain in his memory forever." If this affectionate love is not realized, it can lead him to behave abnormally and thoughtlessly in the relationship between husband and wife. The same goes for women. ”
This reminds middle-aged men and women not to be stubborn about that kind of "affectionate love", otherwise, it may lead to problems in the relationship between husband and wife.
Moreover, both men and women, once involved in cross-border heterosexual relationships, it is easy to have abnormal behavior, and if you indulge in it for a long time, it will inevitably bring a lot of trouble to both parties.
Most middle-aged men and women have matured, and when facing heterosexual relationships, they should be more rational and never escape.
If the relationship really happens, both parties must face it bravely, break up well, not make noise, and not shirk responsibility, so that both parties can leave with dignity.
If you don't understand this, you will eventually reap the consequences if you continue to dwell on it.
After getting married, my colleague Mr. Wang met a woman, and the two sides had a crush on each other, so they became friends.
At the beginning, the two just chatted briefly, and went out for tea and dinner when they had time, and the relationship was normal.
Soon after, Mr. Wang and his wife had an argument over trivial family matters and felt very troubled, so he found the woman to share his thoughts.
In the process of Mr. Wang's narration, the woman has been comforting him and giving him the greatest understanding, and her patience and gentleness have made Mr. Wang feel uneasy in an instant.
As a result, Mr. Wang became more devoted to her, and couldn't help but ask her out once, eager to experience the warmth that he had never had before.
After the two had a relationship, both Mr. Wang and the woman regretted it a little, but since it happened, they decided to face it positively.
After in-depth communication, the two thought that it was better to restore the relationship to avoid unnecessary trouble.
The two parties deleted their friendship, hugged one last time, and went home separately, and there was no longer any concern.
Therefore, if middle-aged men and women have a relationship, they cannot be noisy like children, let alone constantly entangled in the relationship.
Correct attitude towards each other, do not evade, face and solve it positively, and then break up with dignity, this is the responsibility and dignity that an adult should have.
2. Don't make noise, don't retaliate, and know how to stop in moderation.
In life, many middle-aged men and women fail to properly handle subsequent relationships after having a relationship, resulting in the situation being made public and losing face.
Some have lost their jobs, some have lost their families and partners, and some have become destitute and have paid a heavy price for it.
In fact, middle-aged men and women need to be calm after having a relationship to avoid the escalation of the situation in order to better solve the problem.
If both parties can't let go, or feel that they have suffered a loss, arguing loudly or finding ways to retaliate against the other party will inevitably complicate the relationship.
The relationship between middle-aged men and women is usually no longer as simple as when they were young, and more often they take what they need. In this case, there is no need to dwell on it.
After getting what you want, you have to learn to let go and know how to stop in moderation so as not to get yourself involved in a bunch of troubles and pain.
Therefore, for men and women over 40 years old, if they have a relationship, do not be naïve like young people, and must stop in moderation.
In the matter of your affection and me, there is no loss to say, let alone sorry for anyone, you have to treat it indifferently, so that you can gather and disperse.
Otherwise, the two have ghosts on each other's minds, constantly quarrel, and even retaliate against each other, which will only make the relationship more complicated.
If the relationship is exposed, it is no longer possible to turn back, and adults must know how to weigh the importance and not be impulsive.
When dealing with feelings, you should behave more maturely and steadily, and if you want to be safe, you can't be stubborn in this relationship, but you must stay sane and quiet, and let each other say goodbye as soon as possible.
Feelings that are not worth missing, don't entangle, come quietly, and leave quietly, so that both parties can be decent and can also ensure that their relationship is safer.
3. Use money to solve the troubles in the relationship, and give up the small to take care of the big.
In life, many middle-aged men and women will inevitably involve money problems after having a relationship.
In fact, adults are usually more realistic, and it is a good thing to solve problems with money, after all, it is difficult for adults to have that kind of pure true love.
After understanding this, both men and women should understand the principle of sacrificing the small and taking care of the big, and in order to maintain their own family, it is the responsibility of adults to spend some money to solve unnecessary relationships.
If you don't want to spend money and don't want to suffer, but you keep pestering the other person, over time, it may expose the matter, which will bring you more trouble.
In this world, there are almost no problems that cannot be solved with money, and if they cannot be solved, it can only mean that the money spent is not enough.
Middle-aged men and women cannot be stingy with money after the relationship has occurred, in order to end it safely and in order to maintain their dignity.
Otherwise, who makes you unable to control your feelings, through this experience, you will get a profound lesson, and you can also more clearly understand who is the person you should really cherish, and maybe it is also a kind of growth for you.
Therefore, if a middle-aged man and woman have a relationship, it is best to avoid falling into an abnormal relationship and remain faithful to their feelings, which is more important than anything.
A person must live a frank and upright life, and only by sitting upright and acting upright can he truly have dignity.
True happiness can only be achieved when we are calm in the present moment. Therefore, for middle-aged men and women over 40 years old, they must understand these truths, even if they are confused for a while, they must be solved in time.
The so-called love on the outside is often not as simple as it seems on the surface, and most of it is mixed with some calculations.
It is hoped that middle-aged men and women can end undesirable relationships as soon as possible and return to normal life through these three safe handling methods.
Yishu wrote in "The Story of the Rose": "What you have lost has never really belonged to you, and you don't have to regret it. ”
For middle-aged men and women, it is necessary to understand that some feelings, no matter how beautiful they are, do not really belong to them, and they do not need to be entangled, let alone persistent.
Instead of consuming yourself in abnormal relationships, it is better to cherish the people around you, because that is the true source of happiness.
The best decency for adults is not to pursue the so-called true love, but to know how to live in the moment and be at ease.
When you can truly live with peace of mind, this is actually the greatest happiness. Therefore, why get involved in late-blooming love?
After all, those seemingly true loves are often illusory and cannot stand the test of time. I hope that middle-aged men and women can understand these three safe ways to deal with it, end the relationship as soon as possible, and return to a normal life.