A few days ago, I talked to a friend, and he and I chatted about several signs that a girl doesn't like you, which add up to several categories, one is not sharing daily life with you, one is too independent and doesn't ask you for help, and the other is that everything is with you AA, and said that this is a summary of his analysis of n emotional bloggers.
Every point in each category seems to be correct through his explanation, because there is a logical chain that can be supported.
But these statistical laws may not necessarily be applied to specific people, 100 girls, there are 100 ways to express their dislike, and you can summarize a truth by choosing 10 at will.
But this principle does not necessarily apply to the remaining 90 people, and we are faced with specific people every day, how do you know if you meet the tenth or the remaining ninety?
Gary Chapman's "The Five Languages of Love" was once a global bestseller, and as a counselor for marital health, he counted so many couples' ways of expressing love for each other, so as to summarize these five languages, so is there only these five?
Of course not, there may be 95 species that cannot be classified.
Even these five may not be suitable for everyone, many people who have been traumatized in their original families, or who have a biased understanding of love, may have a different understanding of receiving gifts
It's the same AA, some girls think that this is the principle when they haven't entered the relationship yet, which doesn't mean rejection, and some people think that this is a sign that I want to draw a line with you, you should understand.
In fact, there are too many summaries on this kind of Internet, we often see ten manifestations of him not loving you on the Internet, three signals that she likes you, and five reasons why this job is not worth it.
Over time, the brain will form a pattern of passive thinking - according to the point of view, automatically memorize, and then self-proof the prediction.
This is a very terrible thing, your opinions, your emotions, your cognition will be torn back and forth again and again, unable to precipitate, unable to focus, and naturally unable to form your own independent thinking tree.
Since the advent of Weibo, fast-paced expression, short and fast views have quickly occupied a large part of the online world, which is not to say that there is any magic in short and flat content, but we humans naturally hate thinking.
Once someone puts the three truths, five methods, and ten reasons that have been summarized in front of you, who doesn't want them?
Isn't that true?The truth is all right.
When everyone sees this truth, those who tend to agree will automatically evoke those memories that confirm this truth, and relevant knowledge points will also appear in their brains, so the truth is correct.
But the truth is also wrong, but if you want to refute a truth, you can also think of many, many things that are unreasonable, and you can also find a lot of things to prove it.
Truth can be right or wrong, but we are afraid that we will always feel that it is right or wrong.
If we always feel that it is right, it means that we have lost ourselves, and everyone else is the same.
If we always think it's wrong, then we've also become a bar.
There are so many opinions, there are so many truths, life is so more than 30,000 days, and there are actually very few people who can get up at this level every day, what time do you get up in the morning, what to eat, what car to take to work, whether to confront the boss in a meeting, what to eat at noon, what to eat at night, whether to study when you come back from work?
These choices, these questions, how many of them do you really think about whether you should or shouldn't, right?
It doesn't seem to be, all the ten dry goods on the Internet, five strategies, and 100 are basically still there, and you will still be touched after you see it, but it's useless.
The only purpose of those truths is to give your emotions an excuse to explain.
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