The 63-year-old uncle angrily scolded his remarried wife for spending my life on mine, and asked me to prepare a wedding room for your son?
Whether it is necessary to find a partner in old age is a question that many older people are pondering. The reason why they are looking for a partner is usually simple, they want someone to spend their old age with and enjoy a good life together.
Meeting a partner with the same three views will undoubtedly improve the quality of life in old age. However, some elderly people do not remarry out of pure motives, but out of selfish considerations, wanting to take advantage of each other. Such a marriage will only exhaust the other party and may eventually lead to a parting of the ways.
Recently, Uncle Zhao in our community ushered in his remarriage life in his later years. He is very good to his remarriage partner, but alas, the other party seems to be an unsatisfying person. Not long ago, she actually proposed to Uncle Zhao to prepare a wedding room for her son. Uncle Zhao was furious when he heard this: "You enjoy my board and lodging, and you even want me to prepare a wedding room for your son, am I a fool?"Let's find out what this is all about.
Character: Mr. Zhao.
My surname is Zhao and I am 63 years old this year. When I was 55 years old, I lost my wife and an accident caused her to leave me. In the next few years, although I adjusted to living alone, I always felt that it would be better to find another partner. The worry of old age is that there may be a sudden illness at night, and if someone is around, at least they can be sent to the hospital in time. Therefore, I made up my mind to start looking for a wife after I retired.
Initially, a good friend introduced me to a lady and we spent a few months together. However, I think she is too profligate, spending five or six hundred every time she goes out, and frequently asks for expensive gold ornaments. I felt that I couldn't afford to live like this, so we didn't have a follow-up.
Later, I participated in a senior dating event, and last June, I met Ah Fen. The two of us talked a lot, and we walked around a lot after that. Although Ah Fen is a little younger than me, most of the time she is taking care of me. She even hand-knitted a sweater for me in the winter, which touched me.
In my wife's many years of marriage, she has never done anything like this for me, buying rather than making it herself. When I received the sweater from Ah Fen, I was so grateful. We got married in January this year and both of our children are very supportive. With the blessing of family and friends, we received our marriage certificate, and my daughter helped organize a few tables of banquets.
I think this twilight love is not easy to come by, and I cherish the relationship between us very much. In life, I can't bear to make Ah Fen work too hard, and always take the initiative to help with housework. Materially, I never treated her badly, and I provided all the money she spent. Since being with me, her life has become more privileged.
Ah Fen is gentle and considerate, good at making me happy, and I am happy with our marriage. Even though my daughter got married in the next city and couldn't go home as often, she always wanted me to remarry. She also respects Ah Fen very much, and every time she goes home, she prepares gifts for her, and they get along well.
However, I don't like Ah Fen's son Xiaoli too much, mainly because he is not self-motivated. After graduating from junior high school, he became a food delivery driver. Although as long as you are willing to endure hardships and run a few more times a day, the income is also good.
Xiaoli has a decadent personality, sometimes works hard, sometimes gets involved in mahjong games, has a meager income, and it is difficult to find a true lover. Ah Fen was worried about this, for fear that his son would not be able to start a family in the future.
In order to find a suitable other half for Xiaoli, Ah Fen worked tirelessly to arrange a blind date, which cost a lot. A few months ago, Xiaoli met his current girlfriend on a blind date, although his girlfriend was ordinary, older than him, and had two children, but it still made the two fall in love at first sight.
They quickly came to the decision to get married, however, a difficulty arose, and the woman longed to own a house that belonged to them. Ah Fen and Xiaoli are not locals, they just work hard in this city, and they have no plans to buy a house.
Housing prices in the city are acceptable, ranging from 4,000 to 5,000 yuan per square meter, with a total price of about 500,000 or 600,000 yuan. While it's true that a lump sum payment is a bit of a stretch, it's affordable to buy with a loan. As far as I know, Ah Fen still has some savings, and I also gave her a bride price of 50,000 yuan when I married her.
After I got married, I also helped Xiaoli with some financial needs, so I didn't plan to get involved in buying a house. However, I never expected that Ah Fen, who had always been sensible, would ask me to prepare a wedding room for Xiaoli.
One day, which also happened to be my birthday, Ah Fen prepared a huge birthday cake for me, as well as a sumptuous dinner, and even bought a bouquet of roses, which made me feel very flattered.
After my birthday, Ah Fen took advantage of my happy mood and mentioned: "Lao Zhao, I really need your help about Xiaoli's marriage room. As a mother, I can't afford to buy a house. I know that you still have a small house of more than 70 square meters in the east of the city, and now it is empty and no one lives in it, so it is better for you to give that house to Xiaoli!You only have this one daughter, and you will not have a son to take care of you in the future, if you are willing to give up the small house to Xiaoli, I will let him treat you as his biological father in the future, and I am grateful. After all, it's not easy for my family Xiaoli to find a woman who is willing to marry him, you can't hold him back, you must help!”
I was so surprised by what I said to Ah Fen, I never thought she would say such a thing. That house was actually purchased by my ex-wife for her daughter, and it has nothing to do with me.
I feel that Ah Fen's concept is really a bit outdated, and to be honest, I think my daughter cares more about me. Even though my daughter doesn't live with me, she always cares about me and contacts me every day through ***. She also often sends me groceries from the Internet, and I feel really lucky to have such a daughter.
As for my status as a stepfather and occasionally helping my stepson, I have no objection. But it really doesn't make sense to ask me to prepare a wedding room for my stepson.
Therefore, I felt very angry when I heard Ah Fen say this. I responded, "Ah Fen, you enjoy the accommodation and life I provide, and I never skimp on meeting your needs. I've been so accommodating with you as a remarriage partner. Now you want me to prepare a wedding room for your son, which is really too much. Don't you think this is an overkill?”
My words made Ah Fen feel very uncomfortable, and she had been sullen for the rest of the day. For the next few days, she was cold to me, and I tried to communicate with her, but received a cold response. She leaves early and returns late every day, I don't know what she's up to, and I can't get a clear answer to my questions. Days like this are unbearable.
The relationship between us became very stiff because of the house thing. I understood that Ah Fen was angry because of the house, but I couldn't compromise. If she still insists on this attitude in the future, it means that Ah Fen may not be my ideal partner. I really started thinking about ending this marriage. If it were you, how would you handle this situation?