[Day Update No. 1728].
We all have that direction to aspire to, but ultimately we need to ask ourselves.
Who am I and what kind of life do I want to live?
When I come out to study, I often see that it is worth learning from, and it is inevitable that there will be a thought that I can become him
This is normal, first of all, the other party we want to learn must be the same kind as us, and secondly, the other party has achieved the state we yearn for, or rather, even we have not expected it, and then the state beyond our imagination - wanting to be the other party is essentially a kind of strong mentality, and there is an ideal template, when it really exists, we will inevitably benchmark.
This is the "shape".
We often ask: how to do what I envy, but the experience of that kind of "he" is completely different, we have no way to reproduce it, and there is no way to imitate it.
We think about how we can be "godlike"?
Is it to open the same store as him?Does he have the same abilities as him?Is it to dig out quality customers like him?
In fact, we should ask him what his current state is, and whether he enjoys his state
The root of this state is: what kind of life did he choose?And can you live this life?Is it choosing to devote a lot of time to work and be busy?Or do you want to figure out what you want and are willing to give up some?
Everyone's choice has made him who he is at the moment, and this is what we are more worthy of learning. The other party's relaxation, the other party's freedom, the other party's self-consistency, the other party's thinking, the other party's comfortable state, the state of enjoying life, the state of enjoying work, and the willingness to give up some and let go of some of these states are the most charming parts of him.
Behind everyone who becomes the person to look up to, there must be many years of accumulation, deep experience, in order to become that "he", and finally precipitate, at the moment, what we see each other, what is the most envious of him?
Is it his wealth?Is it an asset he owns?Is it his fame?
Not really.
It's that he thinks about what kind of life he wants to live and the final choice behind it.
He understands how capable he is, and then he will give up what he can't do and find the right person to work with.
He understands that he attaches more importance to his family and children, so the balance between his life and work is to focus on the family and children, try to spend time with the children, and the children go to school, so he will focus on his work and do not give up his work, but he will have clear boundaries and know how to make trade-offs and what to focus on
He also understands that he needs to be healthy, so he will also take care of his body, keep exercising, and stick to a healthy diet.
These are the lives he wants, so he will work hard for them, and whether we are chasing money or fame, these things are actually the natural products of what we really want to live after we have figured it out.
These are the "gods."
The living state of others that we envy, the working state of the other party that we envy, in fact, what we need more is to sort out the state of life we want:
Who am I?What do I want?What kind of life do I want to live?What kind of person do you want to be?”
Go and find the true yearning of your heart, there is no distinction between high and low in life, what we ultimately lead to is our own heart.
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