What is courage?What is the child's courage?How can parents develop courage in their children?
It is better to know children than to manage children" The book reads: "The so-called courage is to be willing to work hard in the face of an unpredictable future, even when you are not sure, just because you believe in your heart that this is the right thing." In the search, courage is explained as follows: "Courage is the great motivation that people show in the face of difficulties and challenges. ”
In life, we can see that children with different personalities will behave differently in the face of difficulties and challenges. Or face the difficulties, or be timid. Personality will be affected by genetics and family environment, but no matter what kind of personality a child is, it can also effectively improve the child's courage through the difference in family environment and education methods.
Why are children afraid of difficult, dangerous and uncertain things?In fact, this is the child's fear of the unknown, but also the survival instinct of creatures in nature, and the awe of life. The younger the child, the less things they experience, the more obvious it will be.
My daughter was especially noticeable when she was about three years old, she tried several times, her hair grew long, she went to the barber shop and cut her hair short, and when she came home my daughter would stare at me curiously, and when I got close to her, she would cry;When I took my daughter to the supermarket, she would stare curiously at the rocking car, and then I would throw in a coin and pick her up, and for the first time she would tremble with fear and cry profusely. Many of my daughter's first encounters are particularly intimidating. I tried many methods, even trying to reprimand her to force her to be brave, but she cried more fiercely and less courageously.
My daughter's performance made me distressed for a long time, until I saw my lover, from a slim girl to a fat man, and then plucked up the courage and made up his mind, and finally lost from a 160 pound fat man to 100 pounds. When my lover was about 120, he shouted ** every day, but he was afraid of losing a few pounds, and he would get fat back after eating. So I was afraid of failure, and then I pretended not to care, so I got fatter and fatter, until the physical examination said that I had fatty liver, and finally made up my mind to start acting.
When my lover mustered up the courage to make up his mind to do it, I knew that this was an extraordinary road, and it was said that the success rate was only seven percent. I was shocked that every day since she mustered up the courage to start moving, she was able to get up at six o'clock in the morning and do exercises, and she used to be the one who slept until ten o'clock every day;In the face of the food on the table, although his heart was restless and entangled, his face was still indifferent and he could not help but eat.
From my lover's experience, I saw: "If you don't have the courage to take on challenges, you won't stand still, you'll get worse." "Later, I started to take my daughter to challenge things that she didn't dare to touch, and she didn't dare alone, so I held her and challenged together. From rocking bikes, slides, bicycles, and more. After each challenge, I ask my daughter how she is feeling at the momentAt the same time, he encouraged her to try again, and also shared with her how she felt when she played for the first time.
Slowly, I saw the change in my daughter, she became more courageous in whatever she did, and she became braver. Even I regret it a little, now she is the park which place is high, just climb to the **. In fact, the courage of children is better than that of their parents. When parents guide their children to overcome the fear, fear, and difficulties of the unknown, parents should take practical actions to show their children, take their children to do it together, and share their feelings with their children at the moment after completion. When a child succeeds in a challenge, parents should praise the child, and the child will be more motivated to challenge the next time he faces a difficulty. When a child fails in the first challenge, we can tell the child how he was afraid of doing the same challenge before, and even how many times he did it to succeed, so that the child will be more patient to try.
In the process of guiding children, we should not only lead by example to children, but also share the mood of success or failure, you have to tell children that no one is superhuman, everyone will be afraid of unsuccess in the face of the unknown and difficulties, afraid of being laughed at, and will have no courage. "But isn't it courage to do the right thing with fear?”