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Maslow's hierarchy of needs theory tells us that everyone has clear needs in life, including in love, such as material needs, emotional needs, etc.
In fact, in love, men's needs are usually simpler, but there are not many people who can meet these needs.
If you can meet these needs of his, he will cherish the relationship more and cannot do without you.
Next, we will conduct an in-depth analysis from three aspects: internal emotional needs, external image needs, and individual freedom needs, and discuss how to meet these needs of men, so that he becomes more and more dependent on you.
1. Intrinsic, emotional needs
A normal and healthy love is not only romantic and passionate, but also the satisfaction and resonance of each other's inner emotions.
For men, satisfying their inner emotional needs is the key to building a strong and lasting relationship.
Emotional value. Men crave a woman who can understand, support, and share their emotions. They want a safe haven, a partner to confide in and share their inner world.
When they experience setbacks, confusion, or pain, your care and support will make them feel understood and valued.
To meet a man's emotional value needs, you must first learn to listen. Listening is not only about hearing them, but also about understanding their feelings and needs. When they share their inner struggles or confusions with you, give positive feedback and support to make them feel accepted and important.
By listening and understanding, you will become their emotional sustenance, they will love you more and build a deep trust with you.
Respect and understanding. Although men appear to be very strong and self-reliant on the surface. But a man, when he comes home to face his lover, he is just a member of the family, and he also needs your respect and support.
Whether at work or in life, he needs you to believe in him and encourage him. When he is struggling, he needs your support and encouragement instead of blaming and complaining. This will make him more confident and cherish you more.
Second, the external, image needs
People often use the phrase "love at first sight" to describe the beginning of love.
But in fact, it is not the emotion itself that is loved by love at first sight, but the overall sense of atmosphere exuded by the other party.
When we don't know enough about a person, there is a limit to what we can observe, so we tend to infer more "latent information" about that person through some outward manifestations.
For example, a well-proportioned person tends to have regular Xi and does not overeat;A fair-skinned, delicate and silky person often comes from a family with better family conditions and rarely engages in manual labor or prolonged exposure to the sun.
However, some people may think that since the appearance is so important when they first meet, can they not bother to dress up in the future?
In fact, the appearance always plays an important role in a relationship. Because time is constantly passing, and the human experience is constantly changing.
Therefore, in the process of subsequent relationships, even after marriage, women should not ignore their image value.
When women become more and more beautiful and attractive, they can not only improve the "value" of the men around them, but more importantly, it will make men more and more emotionally inseparable from them.
A man's greatest flaunting of wealth is not to show off his luxury car, mansion or watch, but after many years, despite the vicissitudes of life, his partner is still that person, and she is still beautiful. Such a man is undoubtedly the real winner.
Therefore, women should always pay attention to their external image and keep themselves attractive, so that the love is more stable and lasting.
3. Individual, free needs
Each of our bodies is like an energy field that absorbs energy at a given time.
For example, during sleep, while reading, or when thinking deeply. Likewise, it has moments of energy consumption, such as at work, in social situations, or when dealing with various tough problems.
Therefore, in the world of emotions, people also need a proper reserve of energy. Satisfying the individual's need for freedom is one of the effective ways to reserve energy.
The so-called "individual freedom needs", in simple terms, are men's needs for space and freedom, and they desire not to be bound and restricted. If you can respect and meet this need of his, and give him the appropriate space and freedom, he will appreciate and cherish you even more because of it.
"Giving each other space" is a crucial part of this process.
You need to understand and respect his personal space so that he is free to do what he likes, rather than blindly asking him to accompany you or restricting his movements.
Take Luo Zijun in "The First Half of My Life" as an example, after she found out that her husband Chen Junsheng was abnormal, she chose a series of radical behaviors and forced her husband to do something he didn't like, which made Chen Junsheng, who had no intention of divorcing, have the idea of divorce, which undoubtedly accelerated the breakdown of their marriage.
On the other hand, "supporting his hobbies and interests" is also an important way to meet the individual's need for freedom.
Everyone has their own hobbies and interests, and if you can support him and give him the freedom to pursue his interests, he will appreciate and cherish you more for it.
Of course, satisfying his need for individual freedom does not mean that you have to let him go freely.
While satisfying his needs for freedom, it is also necessary to establish mutual agreements and Xi to form a long-term tacit understanding. In this way, your relationship can be more harmonious and long-lasting.
Love is a process of mutual understanding and mutual satisfaction, which requires the joint efforts of both parties in order to promote the healthy development of the whole family.
Men, in particular, often bear the burden of their families in silence but rarely express their needs.
When we truly understand them, we satisfy them;We will find that the love they give us will be far greater than we expected!
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About the author: Xiao Wanqingqing, a post-90s self-leading creator, loves life philosophy, focuses on emotional writing and self-leading dry goods. Thank you for your attention