Whether in ancient times or in modern times, marriage is a big deal. After all, marriage is a very important thing, although divorce is not impossible, but many people still want to be with their beloved. So, what exactly made you find your other half?The ancients had a saying that said it well:"The adopted son climbs the poor relatives, and the adopted daughter climbs the high door".
The implication is that if you want to find a wife for your son, you must also find someone with a lower status than yourself, and if you want to find a husband for your daughter, you must also find a high-status husband. So, what's going on?In fact, this is mainly because of the idea of male superiority and inferiority of women since ancient times.
In ancient times, the marriage of a man and a woman was blind and dumb. The two have not met, but the parents and matchmakers of both parties have already decided. In this way, it is difficult for the personalities of two people to get along. If she is a spicy woman and a man is a ***, it will definitely be a disaster for this family. Even if it's not that serious, there are many couples who are dissatisfied with each other.
In order to avoid this phenomenon to the greatest extent and ensure the happiness of the two to the greatest extent, matchmakers are generally from men to women, from men to women. For example, a man has to find a woman with a lower status than himself, so as to ensure that he can control her in the future.
If a woman is taller than a man in all aspects, then in the future married life, the man will be in a weak position, and a broad-minded person will be fine, if you encounter that kind of machismo with a serious inferiority complex, it is easy to cause family conflicts, so that two people will spend their future lives in complaining. Even in modern times, there are many people who look down on their son-in-law, thinking that he is useless and depends on women to eat. If it was in ancient times, it would be even worse.
Of course, if a man wants to marry a wife, he must first have enough strength. In today's society, the requirements for men are even higher. For example, if a student at a rural university wants to marry a girl from the city, if he doesn't want to marry a rich man, he must buy a house to prove his ability. This also raises the threshold for men to get married, if it is not true love, then they can only find a woman lower than themselves.
The same is true for women, under the influence of feudal thinking, many women believe that men must stand up to the sky, and husbands must be better than their wives. When a woman marries a man, she wants to live a good life, not to jump into misery. This is also the reason why many women are better than themselves in choosing a mate.
After all, women generally don't have too many negative emotions compared to men who are excellent to themselves. If her husband is worse than her in all aspects, no matter how strong she is, she will not be reconciled. Many women love beauty, and if their man is excellent, it is also a very face-saving thing, and it is also a face-saving thing.
In fact, whether it is a high climb or a low marriage, the right person is the best. If a man is a cowardly man who likes to follow the advice of others, then everyone will be happy to marry an assertive wife and follow her husband's wife. If this woman is a strong woman, busy with her career all day long, and then find a good husband to take care of herself, and the two of them work together, why not?
So, in modern society,"The adopted son climbs the poor relatives, and the adopted daughter climbs the high door". The concept is still there, but the concept of the family and the concept of male superiority and inferiority must be eliminated, and the husband and wife must be matched, regardless of whether they are rich or poor, they must be the right person.