Although birthday and birthday are both ways to celebrate personal birthdays, the difference is that life needs to be celebrated every year, and there is a certain sense of ritual and celebration scale. According to the old saying "there are three longevity, but the children and grandchildren are blessed", there are three situations in which it is best for the elderly not to celebrate their birthdays with great fanfare.
The first is when the parents are still alive or the children are not married. In this case, longevity will be considered a sign of unfilial piety. If the parents are alive, the elderly will be treated as children, regardless of their age, so it is not appropriate to celebrate the birthday in front of the parents. Mothers in particular can't celebrate their birthdays, because mothers have endured endless hard work and dedication in a family, and on their birthdays, she doesn't ask for anything in return, only hoping that their children can live happily. In the same way, children should not celebrate their birthdays before they start a family, because they still have many responsibilities and obligations to fulfill, and the rush to celebrate birthdays shows an evasive and irresponsible attitude towards the future.
The second case is for people under sixty years of age and over ninety years of age. InConventional wisdom, only one every sixty yearsJiaziyears of reincarnation, so the elderly over sixty years old will be regarded as precious beings, worthy of celebration and birthday feasts. However, if a person is not yet sixty years old, or has already exceeded ninety years old, it seems somewhat unreasonable to celebrate a birthday. For the elderly over 90 years old, their physical functions are not as good as before, and the longevity may bring them physical burden and discomfort. Moreover, after the age of ninety, the elderly themselves may not be willing to celebrate their birthdays with a feast, because it means that they are one year older and one step closer to death. Therefore, trying not to live as long as possible after the age of 90 is a sign of respect for the elderly and avoiding regrets.
The third case is the seventy-three and eighty-four-year-old. According to folk proverbs and legends, the age of seventy-three and eighty-four are two critical moments in the life of an elderly person, and they are also very dangerous ages. According to legend, these two age groups are at risk of dying at any time and are therefore worth treating with care. At the same time, these two ages correspond to the age of the death of Confucius and Mencius, and people avoid these two ages for longevity, also to avoid offending the sages. After all, it is already rare for a sage to live to this age, so living a long life may be seen as a challenge.
In summary, the elderly should avoid celebrating their birthdays with great fanfare when their parents are alive, their children are not married, they are under 60, 90 or older, 73 and 84 years old. Only under the right circumstances can we achieve the good wish of a long life and full of blessings. As children, we should respect the wishes of the elderly, follow traditions, and pass on filial piety as much as possible, so that the elderly can live happily and healthily.