My sister died the year before last, and my brother in law is now in the advanced stage of illness,

Mondo Social Updated on 2024-01-19

My sister, who works in Nanjing, was unfortunately diagnosed with pancreatic cancer shortly after giving birth. After a long time, my sister finally passed away. At that time, the child was just learning to walk. However, between my brother-in-law, my sister's mother-in-law, and my mother, there was a difference of opinion on the issue of raising the child. Brother-in-law is busy with work, and there are many burdens at home for theirlifeIt's already hard. And although my sister's mother-in-law also wants to take care of the child, she is old and her physical condition does not allow it. My mother, who longs to take care of her niece, is nearly 70 years old and has to take care of my ailing father and the family's farm work. At the time, I had just gotten married and was working at a mall, working 12 hours a day. MineMarriageThe conditions and the family's financial situation are not particularly good, and it is not a realistic choice to quit your job to take care of your niece.

Although the brother-in-law's unit agreed with him to take the child to the security room, after all, the security guard could not take care of the child around the clock. Although I kept going to Suzhou to visit my niece and bring her snacks and clothes, as her aunt, my abilities and resources were limited. I really wanted to be able to bring my niece to me, but I couldn't do anything about it.

Shortly after New Year's Day this year, my brother-in-law went to the hospital for a check-up due to physical discomfort and was told that he had advanced liver cancer. He had to accept ** in his hometown city. It was a really deep blow to me. Recalling my sister's ** process back then, I did not hesitate to provide financial support to my brother-in-law, but until now his family still has many debts that have not been repaid. Although I am reluctant to comment on my brother-in-law's condition, I am well aware of the pain he and his family are suffering. Although I hope that my brother-in-law can ** as soon as possible, the reality makes me worry about my niece's future.

My brother-in-law consulted with his mother and told me that if he unfortunately passed away, my niece would be taken care of by me. My brother-in-law has an older sister who married in Longxian County, Gansu Province, and has three children in the familylifeIt's very difficult. So, after much consideration, I decided that I was the most suitable person to take care of my niece. However, I also have to face the reality of the problem. My husband and I both come from rural areas and our family conditions are average. Before we got married, we bought a house in our hometown county, borrowed money from many relatives, and now we have to pay off the mortgage every month. We also welcomed our daughter last October. I realized that raising a child is not just about providing basic food, clothing, shelter and transportation, but also a lot of expenses and responsibilities. If I take on all the responsibilities alone, I feel terrified.

I went back to my hometown on the tenth day of the Lunar New Year, and the next day I went to my brother-in-law's hometown to visit my niece. When I walked into my brother-in-law's house, my niece, who I was expecting, did not greet me as happily as I had imagined. She was dressed in dirty clothes, her little hands and face were stained, and she looked at me with a timid look. After a while, she slowly got acquainted with me, walked up to me, and said softly, "Auntie, can you take me to my mother?" The other children have mothers, and I miss them too. She took my hand and walked to the path outside the door. It hurt so much that I almost cried. At that moment, I made up my mind that no matter how many difficulties and hardships I encountered, even if I was in debt, I would bring my niece back with me.

My decision didn't go through much thought, it was a call from the heart, a commitment to my beloved sister and the bloodline she left behind. I understand that raising a child is more than just a meal or a pair of chopsticks, and the resources and support needed for a child's growth are enormous. However, I chose to accept my niece because it was a voice I couldn't resist. I will do my best and love to care for and support my niece and create a better future for her.

This decision was difficult but important for me. I understand that accepting my niece also comes with more responsibility and pressure. ParentingIt takes energy, money, time, and endless love. As a mother with children of her own, I had to face the challenge of caring for two children. However, this responsibility also gives me the courage and motivation to work hard. I will work tirelessly to give my children the best education and growth environment. I believe that love and perseverance are the keys to solving all problems. Although there may be many difficulties and challenges ahead, I am willing to work hard for my niece's future. I hope she can grow up happily and healthily and have a good life.

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