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It is important to listen to the elderly, because their lessons can prevent us from suffering. As we grow up, we will find that there is truth to many old sayings, but we need to experience them first-hand to really understand them. One example of this is the problem of borrowing things. Borrowing things usually happens between people who are close to us, and we often have a lot of hidden dangers because we are embarrassed to refuse. However, we must understand that even if the relationship is good, there are some things that cannot be borrowed, even in ancient times. The first is the marriage bed. In both ancient and modern times, newlyweds have their own marriage beds, which are usually covered with peanuts and dates, implying that the couple will have a precious child early. This is a blessing and expectation for them. Obviously, this bed cannot be borrowed.
Even if a friend needs to stay overnight, a guest room should be provided instead of having them sleep in the matrimonial bed. Because it will affect the relationship between husband and wife. The family was originally harmonious, but suddenly there was interference from outsiders, which the ancients thought was very unlucky. To make matters worse, problems between husband and wife can ripple through the entire family. The second is incense. Incense is mainly used for worship and is therefore a very sensitive thing. It feels strange to borrow someone else's incense, and they feel that the borrowed incense is not religious enough and may affect their own prayers. In addition, the cost of incense is also very low, and there is no need to borrow someone else's. Finally, there is the medicine jar. Although a medicine jar is an ordinary item that doesn't have much value, it is fragile. Many families don't buy a new one right away after accidentally breaking the medicine jar. They are usually only remembered when they are sick.
As a result, there will be cases of borrowing other people's medicine jars. However, in ancient times, medicine jars could never be borrowed. Especially for older people, they don't think medicine jars are a good thing. At that time, people used to decoct medicines, and they did not like others to use their medicine jars, and they were also worried that their family members might be infected. Ancient people had a certain superstitious concept about this. In their view, if a family member is sick, they need to spend money on medical treatment, which is not good for the prosperity of the family. Therefore, these things would never have been borrowed in ancient times unless there were special circumstances. While we may think of it as no big deal now, as times change, so do ideas and practices. In fact, in modern society, we also have a lot of things that we are not willing to lend.
Although this situation will not lead to the bankruptcy of the family, we will also feel uncomfortable after lending it out. Therefore, on the issue of borrowing things, not only ancient people have such a concept, but modern people will also have similar doubts. In short, the problem of borrowing things has existed in different eras. We should respect the wisdom and experience of the ancients, while also understanding the changes in modern society. When dealing with borrowing things, we need to be careful and respectful of the wishes of others to avoid unnecessary disputes and conflicts. Finally, let's think about it: What do you think is not to be borrowed in modern society? Why? With the rapid development of the economy, vehicles have become an indispensable part of people's lives. Many people believe that owning a car has become the standard for getting married.
Although it is not mandatory, it has developed a social Xi. Men love vehicles more than women. Some people call the vehicle their second wife. This is a testament to how much people love their vehicles. As a result, they are reluctant to lend out their vehicles. In addition, they believe that it is very convenient to take a taxi now, and there is no need to borrow a car. When you go out by car, you will inevitably encounter problems, and once a problem occurs, who will be responsible? If the vehicle is damaged, how much do you need to compensate? It is easy to affect the feelings between friends. As a result, many people turned their faces and stopped interacting. Therefore, it is better not to borrow someone else's car. If you really need it, you might as well save up for your own car, or choose to take a taxi. In addition, borrowing money is also a very tricky problem.
Although most people take the initiative to borrow money because they are in urgent need of funds, borrowing money is often prone to conflicts. If you don't have extra money, you can't lend it to others. If you lend to someone else, you will also face two situations: one is that the other party does not believe that you have no money and thinks that you are unwilling to borrow; The second is that once the other party does not repay the money, you take the initiative to ask him to pay it back, and he will think that you are calculating. Therefore, people have summed up a sentence: if you are going to lend money to someone, you must be prepared to return the money and it will not affect your normal life. If you can't meet these conditions, it's best not to lend money to others. Relationships between people are fragile, and a small thing can make people hold a grudge for years. Therefore, if you want to be a good friend for life, it is best not to lend your own things lightly.
In the absence of competing interests, the longest friendship can be established. After all, a friendship shouldn't end hastily over a small matter. Finally, the question we need to ask is: Have you ever hurt your friendship by lending something? How can this be prevented?
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