“I hope that my son will become a dragon, and I hope that my daughter will become a phoenixIt is the wish of every parent, parents get up early and greedy, cut down on food and clothing, and do their best to strive for the best living conditions and educational environment for their children, only hoping that their children can have a little chance when they grow up.
But often contrary to expectations, even if the child is a high-talent student who has graduated, after stepping into the society, he may not be able to achieve the achievements expected by his parents. Why?Sometimes the reason for bad luck is also the reason for the lack of talent, and the more critical reason is what will be discussed below.
For the success of an adult, "time", "place" and "people" are three indispensable necessary conditions.
More than 2,300 years ago, Mencius said: ".The time is not as good as the location, and the location is not as good as the people。This sentence speaks to the importance of "people".
68 years ago, the American success master DellAfter reading the biographies of hundreds of ancient and modern Chinese and foreign figures, and interviewing nearly 100 celebrities, Carnegie summed up a classic saying:One person'sSuccess is 85% based on relationships and 15% on professional skills.
In time and space, why do two people who are so far apart have such similar views?This is no coincidence, because no matter what career you are in, success in life is inseparable from networking, and good interpersonal relationships are the cornerstone of a person's path to success.
The following 4 excellent qualities are the key elements for a person to have a wide range of good relationships. People with these 4 qualities can show a strong personality charm in front of others.
In the school stage of children, if parents can guide their children to practice these qualities, after stepping into the society, children can quickly stand out, effectively avoid detours or hit a wall.
The first:
EnhancedSelf-confidence
On November 17, 2023, at the parents' meeting of a key middle school in Qingdao, a student's father's passionate speech was pushed to the hot search.
Here's what Dad said:
My son is a scumbag, but I still believe that he has the potential to become a pillar of the country. ”
I apologize for my son's serious delay in our class, but I still believe that he can have a bright future. ”
His grades are so poor, but he can drink, play and sleep, even I admire him. I am a senior counselor, and his mentality is stronger than mine. ”
In the eyes of this father, his son's shortcomings are also his cuteness.
This father's emotional intelligence is also very high, and after saying these words, he did not forget to thank the school leaders and teachers for their careful nurturing of the child.
It is conceivable that with this kind of parental words and deeds, the child's heart is full of sunshine, and he will definitely not feel inferior!
People with low self-esteem look down on themselves and feel that they are inferior to others, so in front of others, they always show a sad face and a depressed look, for fear of being ridiculed by others for saying or doing something wrong.
Confident people, on the other hand, appreciate themselves and believe in themselves, they are cheerful, optimistic and open-minded, and do not care much about the strange eyes and evaluations of others.
The second:
KeepOptimism
When I was in high school, there was a female classmate from the countryside in our school, because she failed the college entrance examination, she felt faceless, and she was counted down by her parents, so she couldn't think about it for a while, and committed suicide by drinking pesticides, which made people sigh.
Pessimistic people always look at problems from a negative perspective. The same thing, optimistic people, always look at things from a positive point of view.
For example, when a pessimistic person sees rain, he or she will be depressed and think that it is inconvenient to travel. Optimistic people will smile and think that the crops that have been dry for a long time have been saved.
Kazuo Inamori said"The path of life is drawn by the heart. Therefore, no matter how harsh the situation is, you should not be haunted by pessimistic thoughts. ”
The third:
Let the character become calm
People with a calm personality:
1. Emotionally stable, calm and calm, not flustered or impulsive, and able to do everything without being alarmed.
2. Handle things very rationally and solve problems in an orderly manner.
In daily work and life, the quality of composure allows a person to better control the situation, effectively avoid conflicts and misunderstandings, easily gain the respect and trust of others, and is conducive to creating a positive working atmosphere and interpersonal relationships. This kind of excellent quality is a quality that must be possessed in a leader.
Fourth:
Thicken your skin
There is an employee in our department who has strong work ability, and what is even more commendable is that he is also very obedient, down-to-earth and reliable. Because I admire him more, I am going to give him a salary increase, and I will promote him after training and training.
Before giving him a salary increase, I once quietly asked him, "Many people have taken the initiative to ask for a salary increase, why do you never mention it?"”
Guess how he answered?He looked very embarrassed and said: "Because of the salary increase, the boss finally agreed, and I don't want to embarrass you." ”
Actually, the salary increase is not as difficult as he thought, usually I only need to submit a salary increase application to the boss, describing the employee's daily work performance and outstanding achievements.
Thin-skinned people have a strong sense of face, are afraid of other people's jokes, fear of others rejecting, and dare not try boldly, so they often miss out on many opportunities and good things. You didn't try, how do you know it doesn't work?Only those who dare to put down their children can earn face for themselves.
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