Yesterday, a girl said that she broke up with her ex-boyfriend for four months, and her ex-boyfriend suddenly came back to ask for reconciliation, but the girl also had a little bit of a sense of letting go during this time period, so she was very puzzled why it took a few months for the boy to come back together. Break up and salvage
So what was he doing before?Many lovelorn girls come to me to analyze the boy's behavior and inner thoughts after the breakup, as an old scumbag, I think it is necessary to tell you what the boys are doing after the breakup.
The first week
After all, just broke up, the boy at this time is likely to appease or redeem for a while, of course, at this time the girl is not very calm, so it is generally not too stubborn, but for the boy it doesn't matter, because he is also in a tangled state during this period, most of the thoughts that the long pain is not as good as the short pain, and he will not particularly care about the girl's reaction.
When he feels that it is useless to say anything to you, he will take the opportunity to enjoy a wave of single life, whether it is a drunken meeting with three or five friends, or a crazy game, and he will hardly think of you during this period, after all, he is in high spirits, and he has not experienced this unscrupulous sense of freedom for a long time.
How long this phase lasts depends largely on whether he is having enough fun at the moment, and the emotional needs will be very low until he has had enough.
A month later
Basically, after playing all the things for a month, he began to feel a little uncomfortable, and from time to time he would feel empty in his heart, and he began to get tired of the pattern of this time. Because his original life pattern has Xi your participation, his emotions fall from peak to freezing point after revenge play, and this powerful sense of gap makes him feel dazed.
He realizes the problem, but his reason will suppress him from looking for you, he will start to look for the company of friends, and he will also try to make some friends of the opposite sex to divert his attention, and for the time being, he will use these people to satisfy his emotional value.
Two months later
His feelings became stronger and stronger, because he found it really difficult to get deep emotional satisfaction with his brother except for playing, even if he talked about you in front of his brother, his brother would immediately help him divert his attention;
If the conditions are better, he may have met a friend of the opposite sex during the period, but the opposite sex he met at this breakup node must bring him twice the spiritual experience of his predecessor, and he will have the desire to talk about it;The various encounters with poor conditions and the frustration deepened the nostalgia for the ex.
Three months later
He starts to concentrate on work, fitness, Xi learning something new, and he has to divert his attention in this way, maybe in the meantime he will improve in all aspects, but at the same time he will face the biggest problem.
He had Mane in his pocket, but he really didn't know how to spend it, to talk about eating, drinking, and having fun, he had already played it all in the first week of the breakup, and it didn't feel special to experience it again;
He looks handsome, but his brothers certainly don't praise him, and those from the opposite sex must be useful, but it's just a matter of listening;
He's starting to miss the old days, when you two stayed in the room and punched to decide who would order takeout, he gave you a present, your satisfied smile, and he sloppily begged for a kiss and hug.
Next
He began to find all kinds of reasons to persuade himself to contact you, he would think for a while that you would definitely not be happy after getting along with so many problems, and then he would think about whether he had not done well enough to cause him to be like this today, and he would also 'rationalize' some of your faults for you, and he would feel that 'you must be like that because of what you are'...
Thinking about it, he had already edited the text message, and his finger was on the send button, and he was about to make a final decision. He thought in his head, 'Then fight for it again, and don't leave yourself with regrets', and the next second, he closed his eyes and pressed send.
Then the rest of the matter is reversed, how chic he was at the beginning, how humble he can be now