When it was almost time for dinner, my mother *** came over again, and her tears flowed with her snot:
My dear, I really can't stand the situation at home, your brother and sister-in-law don't let me have a good life at all!
We've discussed it, and we want to stay at your house for a while, what do you think?”
Xu Yanqiu was cooking, and when she saw her mother's sad appearance, she frowned:
Mom, please don't cry, we can talk about it. But you have to know that my family has limited conditions and can't accommodate so many people.
We only had three bedrooms, one for ourselves, one for our two children and one ......for my mother-in-law”
Alas, I really can't live anymore, what's the use of raising children?The son is disobedient and listens to his daughter-in-law, and the daughter is unreliable, so now she can only suffer ......”
Mom, please don't cry just yet. I'll figure it out and give me two more days. ”
Xu Yanqiu hung up **, knowing that if she didn't do this, her mother would keep nagging.
The mother-in-law walked in with the fruit: "Qiu, what's wrong with your mother?".”
Alas, I quarreled with my sister-in-law again!She had to come to our house for a while, and it was really a headache ......”
In fact, Xu Yanqiu knew in her heart that this quarrel was most likely caused by her mother.
My father is very weak and has always been dominated by my mother, and everything in the family is arranged by my mother.
My brother often said that although he was not afraid of anything, he was afraid of his mother's nagging.
Xu Yanqiu had a similar experience.
What a mother is best at is magnifying one thing infinitely, and she can keep nagging all day long, using different words.
After the elder brother got married, the sister-in-law had a strong personality and often clashed with her mother.
The son married a daughter-in-law, but the mother still wanted to take charge of the family's affairs.
But how can young people blindly accommodate her?
Fortunately, my brother had a lot of ideas, and contracted 20 acres of wasteland on the mountain, built two huts, and let his parents move to the mountains to live.
It has been calm for more than ten years.
Last fall, my father broke his leg and had trouble moving, so my brother had to take them home to take care of them.
But although the mother has grown older, there is no change, and when she comes home, she wants to regain power, disgusted that her daughter-in-law is not pleasing to the eye everywhere, and thinks that they coerce their parents to go up the mountain and find fault everywhere.
At first, my sister-in-law endured it, but after a long time, who can bear it?Finally opened his mouth to confront his mother.
So the quarrels continued, the elder brother became the one caught in the middle, and life became indescribable.
Since then, Xu Yanqiu is most afraid of picking up her hometown's **.
The sister-in-law's ** is always one thing, complaining, describing the mother's strength, unreasonableness, and arranging right and wrong.
The mother's ** is the same, crying, saying that the sister-in-law is not filial, the eldest brother does not help, how hard she lives, raising two children but raising ...... in vain
All Xu Yanqiu could do was to go with the flow, comfort her sister-in-law and then comfort her mother.
She once tried to persuade her mother that when she was old, she needed to know how to bow her head and take a step back in case of trouble:
My brother and I are your biological sons and daughters, and we will not be angry with us no matter what you do to us.
But sister-in-law is different, you neither gave birth to her nor raised her, why should she put up with your anger?
If you think about it from another perspective, if she is a mother-in-law, you are a daughter-in-law, she will take care of all the bags of salt you buy, and she will also take care of the bottles of vinegar you buy, will you feel uncomfortable?”
Seeing that her daughter was not on her side, the mother lowered her head, nodded a little reluctantly, and said that she understood.
But how to deal with things after that depends on the specific situation, and the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is deepening day by day.
Xu Yanqiu looked worried, and her mother-in-law sighed. She knows her mother's temper very well, and it will be no problem to follow her, but if she offends her, she can provoke conflicts between the family and the clan
Maybe so, if she's willing to come and stay here for a while, we'll let them come......”
Mom, as soon as they come, we won't be able to live in our house......”
I still have an empty house in my hometown, so I can go back and live there. ”
Mom, why do you want to go back to your hometown again?As soon as Li Mo entered the door, he heard his mother say this:
Don't mention this matter in the future, we haven't been back for seven or eight years, and the house in our hometown is estimated to be no longer ......”
Xu Yanqiu understood that what her husband said was not an exaggeration.
Her eldest son is 13 years old, and before he was born, her mother-in-law came to help. My father-in-law stayed alone in his hometown for four or five years.
When the second child was born, his father-in-law died of illness. Since then, my mother-in-law has never returned to her hometown.
When Erbao went to kindergarten, her mother-in-law proposed a desire to return to her hometown to live, but neither of them agreed.
There is no one at home, and going back will only add sadness and is meaningless.
The two children hugged their grandmother's legs tightly and cried for her not to go.
So, the mother-in-law stayed.
Li Mo said that the old man felt that the children had grown up, and she was useless here, and he was worried that he would become a burden.
Xu Yanqiu picks up and drops off her children from school, and also gives her some small handicrafts to do from time to time.
It will ensure that she will not be too tired, and it will not let her be idle.
Sometimes, Xu Yanqiu can't help but think that if only her mother could have half the reason of her mother-in-law.
Yes, Yanqiu's mother had a quarrel with her sister-in-law again and wanted to come and live here for a while.
I was thinking, there is still a ready-made house in my hometown, and if I am homesick, maybe I can go back and live for a while. ”
Is the house still habitable?”
Why is it not suitable, I discussed it with the neighbors and asked them to take care of it more.
They planted some vegetables in the yard, and the house would open the windows every few days to ventilate. Yesterday I asked your aunt, and she said that the house was about ...... when your dad was there”
But ......"Don't hesitate, I'll hear it. Your father-in-law and mother-in-law raised their daughter, do you want to come to your daughter's house for a while and not let you?
Put yourself in your shoes, Yanqiu is as filial to me as she is to your own mother, and you should also be as filial to your father-in-law and mother-in-law as you are to your own parents.
This matter was decided. It's too late today, I'll tidy it up tomorrow and leave the day after tomorrow.
Autumn, let your parents come too......”
Li Mo listened to his mother's words and saw his wife's frowning brows, and finally chose to remain silent.
That's right, even if the father-in-law and mother-in-law have shortcomings, they are the biological parents of the daughter-in-law after all.
Parents want to come to visit their daughter, they can't stop it, right?
After dinner, my mother-in-law went out for a walk.
She said that she had been here for more than ten years, and that her upstairs and downstairs neighbors had known each other, and that if she wanted to leave, she should say goodbye.
Xu Yanqiu finished the housework, went to the basement to take out a suitcase, and prepared her mother-in-law's clothes:
Li Mo, go to the bank tomorrow to withdraw some money for my mother to bring, life in the countryside is not as convenient as in the city, I think it's better to bring some cash. ”
Okay, how much to take?”
When I got home, it was like starting a new life, and all the daily necessities needed to be re-purchased ......
Okay, listen to you. Do you know how long your parents plan to stay here this time?”
I'm not sure either!Considering my mother's personality, if I really lived in our house, I started to worry about it......”
Thirteen-year-old Dabao leaned against the door, watching his parents busy, and suddenly said:
Mom, I don't want to get married when I grow up, and I don't want to marry a daughter-in-law anymore......”
Xu Yanqiu was stunned for a moment: "Son, how can you have such an idea?"”
Getting married is too complicated. You see, Mom, if Dad doesn't get married, he can always live with Grandma, and if you don't get married, you can always live with Grandpa.
There is no need to worry about who to live in.
My grandmother has lived in our house for more than 10 years, and whenever my grandfather wants to come, she has to go back to her hometown.
In fact, you think, she hasn't been back to her hometown for more than 10 years, and there may not be many people there who know her, is she really willing to go back?
I don't think so!But if she continues to stay here, there will be no place to live when grandpa comes, so you will be unhappy, you will be unhappy, and your father will be unhappy.
Dad was unhappy, and Grandma was distressed.
So she had to propose to go back to her hometown and make way for her grandfather.
In general, she feels sorry for her father and for you, and she doesn't want to embarrass you.
If my brother and I grow up and get married, there will also be fathers-in-law and mothers-in-law and so on, and what will you do if you encounter this situation again?”
Maybe at that time, I will be like my grandmother, in order not to embarrass my brother and me, I can only choose to leave our house and live alone.
Although my brother and I will feel sorry for you, for the sake of our own small family, we can only wronged you.
You can't let these things disturb the whole family.
Therefore, I think it is better not to get married, so that I can always do my filial piety to you and my father......”
After listening to their eldest son's words, Xu Yanqiu and Li Mo glanced at each other.
They didn't expect that a young child would have such a long-term idea and analyze it so thoroughly.
That's right, my mother-in-law hasn't been back to her hometown for more than 10 years, and in the past 10 years, she has experienced countless days and nights, and her deep feelings have gradually faded.
Xu Yanqiu put down the work in his hand: "Li Mo, pause, my son has a point, we can't let my mother leave ......."”
So what are your parents going to do?”
Perhaps, we can rent them a small house in the neighborhood so that they can live as long as they want.
To be honest, I was a little scared considering my mom's personality and really living with us.
She could mess up my brother and sister-in-law's lives, and if she lived in our house, we wouldn't be able to keep ...... peaceful”