Control your temper, treat people and be angry, and be generous.
Zhuangzi said: "The life of man is the gathering of qi;Gathering is life, and scattering is death. ”
The root of human beings is qi, and when qi gathers, people survive, and when qi disperses, they die.
Qi energy determines the luck of a person, and it also constitutes a person's feng shui.
Controlling one's temper, treating people and being generous, is the best "feng shui" for a person.
Keep your temper in check
"Caigen Tan" has a saying: "Those who are dry are blazing, and they are burned when they encounter things." ”
An irritable person is like a ball of fire, and wherever it passes and everything it encounters, it will be consumed by the flames.
The world is complicated, if things are difficult to satisfy, it will be difficult for oneself, and one point will not only hurt others, but also harm oneself.
In the Romance of the Three Kingdoms, after learning of Guan Yu's death, Zhang Fei was furious and determined to avenge his brother.
He ordered his subordinates to make 100,000 white flags and armor within three days, and the whole army hung filial piety to fight Wu.
At that time, the productivity was backward, and if you want to complete it in a short time, it is more difficult than climbing to the sky.
Therefore, his subordinates Fan Jiang and Zhang Da said: "I am afraid that such a large number of flag armor will be difficult to make within three days, and it will take some time." ”
After hearing this, Zhang Fei burst into a rage and said: "The revenge of killing my brother, I can't wait to rush to Dongwu immediately, you dare to disobey my orders!."”
Subsequently, he whipped Fan Jiang and Zhang Da fifty lashes each.
After beating them to the blood, Zhang Fei said: "Prepare well!."If you can't meet the deadline, you two will wait for your head to hit the ground!”
Fan Jiang and Zhang Da saw that Zhang Fei was so unreasonable, and the two of them were seriously injured and destined to die.
simply didn't do anything, and while Zhang Fei was drunk that night, they secretly killed him and fled to Soochow overnight.
Zhang Fei died tragically at the hands of his subordinates, all because of his short temper.
If you can't control your temper when something happens, not only will it be difficult to achieve great things, but your life will also be difficult to go smoothly.
Once a person has a temper, the blessing will slip away.
If you want good fortune to come often, you must learn to control your temper and act calmly.
Tao Zhu once said: "People have depression, first use a forbearance word, and then use a forgotten word, which is to reconcile and breathe." ”
The reason why the real wise people have a smooth life is because they all have a good temper, and their lives are full of good luck because of this.
Be kind
Zeng Guofan said: "Harmony can eliminate people's grievances, and endure enough to retreat from disasters." ”
Treating people with kindness can turn hostility into friendship and hostility into friendship.
In the early years, Zeng Guofan was irritable and often offended people.
During his stay in Beijing, everyone avoided him;When he returned home, his servants were very afraid of him.
was dubbed "blatantly unkind", and he made up his mind to change his mind and treat people kindly.
In the siege of Qimen, the enemy army pressed the border, and the army of Zeng Guofan was difficult to ride a tiger.
In this crisis situation, many soldiers are trying to escape.
When Zeng Guofan found out, he was not angry, but announced in public:
Those who have this idea can advance three months' salary, and if the incident subsides, they can still return to the army again. ”
Zeng Guofan's kindness and tolerance made these soldiers feel ashamed and uneasy, and none of them mentioned the matter of escaping again.
In fact, Zeng Guofan could have been furious and disposed of the rebels in accordance with military law, beheading them for public display.
But instead of that, he chose to forgive, and in the end, the soldiers were convinced.
Choosing to be inclusive is not the same as indulgence;Knowing how to forgive does not mean that you are incompetent.
It is a kind of wisdom to greet people with kindness.
Treating others kindly can make each other like a spring breeze and a warm sun, and can make the ice melt and the dark clouds dissipate.
There is a saying in "Caigen Tan": "Those who have a peaceful heart and a peaceful spirit, Baifu is self-collecting." ”
Harmony is precious, with good thoughts, can be harmonious and auspicious, and blessings will come.
Handle things with atmosphere
As the saying goes, "Those who seek great things are the first priority." ”
The pattern is the magnanimity, and the atmosphere can become a great tool.
During the Spring and Autumn Period, the prince of Qi competed for the throne with the son Xiaobai, and the later son Xiaobai defeated and became the king, known as the Duke of Qi Huan in history.
In order to repay Uncle Bao's kindness all the way, Qi Huan Gong intended to support him.
However, Uncle Bao felt that his strength was still shallow, so he politely refused to be promoted to the rank of knight, and strongly promoted Guan Zhong as the prime minister.
Everyone knows that Guan Zhong once assisted Gongzi Jiao, and also shot Qi Huan Gong's sword.
Qi Huan Gong had a bad heart, but after the persuasion of Uncle Bao, he chose to release his previous suspicions and accepted Guan Zhong as a courtier.
Later, with the assistance of Guan Zhong, Qi Huan Gong was like a fish in water.
The country of Qi prospered, and the people lived and worked in peace and contentment, becoming the head of the Spring and Autumn Five Kingdoms.
It is the atmosphere of Qi Huangong, regardless of previous suspicions, that can achieve the hegemony of Qi State.
Similarly, in more than 200 years BC, the Qin king wanted to unify the six kingdoms and conquered everywhere.
South Korea panicked, so it sent water engineers to Qin to encourage the construction of water conservancy to weaken Qin's manpower and material resources, so as to contain Qin's eastward advance.
Other nations followed suit and planted several spies to Qin.
Later, Korea's original intention was exposed, and the ministers admonished and asked the king of Qin to expel the foreign guest.
Li Si also faced expulsion, so he admonished the King of Qin:
"Mount Tai does not let the soil, so it can become big;The river and the sea do not choose a trickle, so it can be deep. ”
The height of Mount Tai lies in the fact that the soil is harvested;The river has a long history, and it is because it does not choose a small stream.
If you want to achieve a career, it is necessary to deal with things in an atmosphere and recruit talents.
After weighing the pros and cons, King Qin adopted Li Si's suggestion and immediately canceled the eviction order.
Therefore, he reused Li Si and made him a court lieutenant.
Li Si served as an auxiliary government in the court for decades, and Qin Wangzheng achieved the hegemony of annexing the six countries and dominating the world.
It can be seen that only by doing things can we achieve a career and have a smooth ride in life.
As the saying goes, "If you are generously compatible, you will be able to do both." ”
In life, only by treating others with generosity can we be compatible with others and thus fulfill ourselves.
Atmospheric people, forgiving, not careful;Take a long-term view and don't stick to the subtleties.
In life, with a generous mind, to accommodate others, in order to all things harmonious, everything goes smoothly.
"Caigen Tan": "Zhang Ben, who makes one step higher in life, and regression is progress." ”
Control your temper and prove one's cultivation;Being kind and angry, reflecting a person's generosity;Doing things is atmospheric, and the pattern of a person is achieved.
Be calm and keep a good temper;Approachable and adds a sense of harmony;The sea is inclusive of all rivers to become an atmosphere.
In life, treat others kindly, do not lose your temper, have an open heart, and make good connections, in order to bring good fortune.
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