Why can't you sleep in the dead bed?Non-superstitious, taboos increase due to closeness
It is often said that there is nothing special behind life and death, and separation is the inevitability of life, that is, people will cease to exist in this world after death. When a loved one dies, the living can't help but feel nostalgia and flock to that place to see what the deceased used to commemorate their loved one.
However, after death, there are many instructions, and the older generation will tell people: clothes must be burned, beds can no longer be slept on, and the more relatives there are, the more taboos there are. Burning clothes is easier to understand, but the bed is furniture in the room, and it is also difficult to handle, why can't loved ones sleep?It sounds superstitious, but it's not entirely illogical!
The question of the fate of life and death is not a human problem, but a natural law that no one can avoid;People know that this day will come, but when it does come, they may not be able to accept it. When a loved one dies, it often takes a lot of time for spouses and children to let go;At the same time, those who are still alive are often overwhelmed by grief.
In this world, the bond that binds loved ones together is a kind of love that only deepens over time and cannot be severed even in the event of death. After the death of a loved one, not only will the people who are left behind never see their faces again, not only will they be remembered temporarily, but the things they leave behind will also cause them to miss.
The more people who are in a relationship, the more sad they are, especially the closest spouses and children. When a person is accustomed to never leaving, and a person who has been with him for most of his life suddenly leaves, his eyes open and close, how can he not know the life of another person in the world?Knowing that he will leave this world forever, knowing that living well is the best way to live, but it is even more sad to actually do it.
Parents are here, and there is still a place to come in life;When your parents go, there is only one way back in life"This sentence sums up the sadness of children when their parents leave. From the moment they open their eyes to see the world, they are with their parents, and their love does not diminish even if they are not common when they grow up. No matter how hard it is outside, they always feel happy and included when they return home.
The grace of birth and nourishment is heavier than the sky, and it is difficult to return it in a lifetime!Many children often feel regret and self-blame: regret not being there for their loved ones while they were alive, blaming themselves for not taking them for a good walk, and not preparing a hearty meal for them!That's right"The tree wants to be quiet but the wind does not stop, and the child wants to raise but does not wait"！
Therefore, when a loved one is in the living environment of the deceased, they will miss the deceased, and even hurt themselves because they are too worried. At this point, it's best not to touch the deceased's belongings: choose a few items you want to keep and put them in a storage box or cabinetSome other items can be cremated or donated.
Don't sleep in the bed where the deceased slept!It is often said"Nightmares come true"If you think of your deceased loved one before going to bed, then you may dream about him or her at night;Good dreams are nothing more than that, and if you dream bad scenes, this will further affect the quality of your sleep. It's hard to control your thoughts, and daydreaming about bad scenes afterwards will only make you feel more guilty.
Not sleeping on the bed of the dead is a taboo handed down by the ancestors, so many people think that there is a superstitious color: for example, the first seven will come back to see, and they will not leave until the seventh day of the first month, so they cannot occupy the bed of the dead. The old man said a lot of superstitious things, in fact, if we remove the superstitious color, we can prove that such a preaching has a certain scientific basis.
From the point of view of modern medicine, many people die either from infectious diseases or from natural aging. In short, the immunity of people after death is very low, and there are also a large number of bacteria, viruses, etc., which have the ability to reproduce. These microorganisms have a strong ability to reproduce, which is invisible to the human eye and cannot be completely removed even by washing.
There is such an incident in the Qing court drama "The Legend of Ruyi": After the noble concubine died of illness, her greatest wish was to see the emperor again, but he really couldn't let go of the emperor, but he deliberately didn't want the emperor to live a good life. He gave his second-hand pillow to the emperor, so that the emperor also suffered from the same disease as him, and finally the monarch became seriously ill and could not afford to be sick.
It seems that the bed that the deceased slept in, the towel used, the utensils that held the water and other items may have been contaminated with germs, so it is actually more superstitious and calculating to burn the items used by the deceased after death. It is better to burn items that harbor microorganisms, and some items that cannot be destroyed are better to be disinfected repeatedly and stored rather than continue to be used.
The bedding that the deceased slept on before his death was often too bulky to be immediately incinerated or thrown away, and if it was continued to be used, it was likely to be contaminated with residual microorganisms and thus infect healthy people. In short, don't run into your loved one's room and lie on the bed to see what is going on because you miss your loved one.
The ultimate end for everyone is death, and there is no one after death, but the living are easily trapped: trapped by their own thoughts and feelings, trapped by their own past regrets. You can't leave because you didn't do your best while your loved ones were alive, and when you don't have the opportunity to do your best again, you will be left with regret that you didn't do your best.
After the death of a loved one, it is difficult to live a better life if you cannot come out of the grief. If they are really in heaven, they also don't want their loved ones to live in misery. The dead are great!In order to comfort them, the living should also let go of their grief as soon as possible and cherish their loved ones around them.
Lives are often lost before they can be regretted, so it's hard to forgive your loved ones when you see them mourning for something they've used before. In fact, they can choose to let go of the past, otherwise it will be difficult to start a new life, but it will make people nostalgic. If you don't want the tragedies of the past to happen again, you need to spend more time with your loved ones!
Don't think it's too long to come, so there's plenty of time to do anything. Remember, life is inadmissible, and no one knows what will happen in the next second, so every moment should be cherished. In this way, even at the end of our lives, we can have fewer regrets and more calmness and satisfaction.
Life and death are a big event, and for the sake of peace after death and a better life for our loved ones, we need to adapt to the environment we are in. It is better not to take the experience of the older generation seriously, and not to sleep while the deceased is asleep in bed. It's taking responsibility for your body and it's a kind of recovery to free yourself from worry, otherwise you'll get sick easily.