There is a saying: the meaning of life is not to have a good deck of cards, but to play the bad cards in your hand. ”
Life is bumpy, and the more people who can play the bad cards in their hands, the more they will become strong in life.
On the contrary, there are some people who have a good hand in their hands, but they play it in a daze, and instead of reaping full happiness, they make their lives worse.
This is especially true for a woman, if you want to have a happy, fulfilled and wishful life, you must do as little wrong as possible, so as to reduce the misdirection and make yourself more miserable.
After all, one wrong step, one wrong step, every step in life will not be in vain.
Each choice you make will doom you to a different path in life, so be cautious.
Specifically, the more bitter a woman's life is, the more she likes to do four "wrong things", and I hope you don't.
Hemingway once said a sentence:
The essence of marriage is love and responsibility. ”
In a relationship, if you always have no bottom line and always have unlimited tolerance for the other party, then what you get in exchange is not necessarily happiness, but connivance.
In previous reports, it was said that a woman in Hunan was subjected to several domestic violence, and the local people's court issued a personal safety protection order to her.
The most surprising thing is that this is the second time she has been subjected to domestic violence after she remarried.
When she first got married, men began to beat women, and she endured it for more than ten years, and finally chose to divorce.
But I felt that for the sake of the growth of my children, I remarried again.
What people didn't expect was that what was waiting for her was not family harmony, or a man's painful change, but domestic violence again and again.
The woman still chose to endure it, let herself be injured, and did not take care of the child's growth.
If a woman has no bottom line and always gives in everywhere, in addition to the other party's intensification, her own fate will also deteriorate.
If you want your relationship to last a long time, you must be clear about the bottom line that you can't touch each other, and you must also clearly know that once you cross it, the marriage will collapse.
There is a saying: Only when you love yourself well will you have the ability to love others better, and you will be treated gently by the world. ”
In reality, there is such a type of woman, whose life is getting rougher and rougher, and she is reluctant to buy a piece of clothing if she wants it, and all the focus of her life revolves around her family, husband and children.
really dedicates his youth and time to the people he cares about in his heart, and he will not treat himself well and let himself relax.
In fact, when a woman is Xi to loving others more than herself, tragedy is doomed.
Qiao Zhen in Lu Yaozhong's "Life" is such a typical representative.
Her love for Galin, a young man in the countryside, has long surpassed her love for herself, and she can even give up everything for the sake of the other party, and she can also fight against her family.
When Garin went to work in the county seat, in order not to let him have worries, he took the initiative to help Garin's family do farm work, and she didn't let go of her tiredness and hard work, because she only had Garin in her heart.
But what she didn't expect was that although Garin felt guilty, he still got along with his female classmates.
When a woman loses herself, then others will not love you well.
The Irish poet Roy Clift, in "I Love You", wrote:
I love you, not only because of the way you look, but also because of the way I am when I'm with you. ”
In life, too many women who don't love themselves often live very hard and tired, because they have never cared about themselves, and they have never listened to their inner voice, so that suffering has become the theme of life, and they are not cherished by others.
Don't care too much about others and ignore yourself, listen to your inner needs, don't blindly please others, be your true self, if you bloom, butterflies will come;If you are wonderful, the heavens will arrange it.
Zeng Guofan said: The mediocrity of the world, ancient and modern, is defeated by a lazy word. ”
Laziness is the beginning of ruining a person, no matter how much wealth he has, he will eventually lose in his own hands.
For women, this is even more so.
As the saying goes, there are no ugly women, only lazy women.
No matter what age you are, if you can keep yourself diligent and self-disciplined, then you can keep yourself young forever instead of always envying others.
I have seen a report that a woman has reduced from 200 pounds to 90 pounds, and the inspirational experience has attracted a lot of onlookers.
The reason why she made up her mind to go to ** was because she went on a trip and saw that she was obese and ugly, so she began to work hard through self-discipline, arrange her work and rest reasonably, and finally her dream came true.
Lazy women will always find all kinds of excuses for themselves, not only because of their laziness that leads to the deterioration of their physical condition, but also because of their old age.
Only by bidding farewell to laziness and living in a self-disciplined way will you not be easily defeated by the years, but will be able to gain full confidence and calmness in time.
Only such a woman will not have a tragic fate, but will shine brightly, and she can shine when she walks to **.
As the old saying goes: you can't eat poorly, you can't wear poor, and you can't calculate that you can't be poor for a lifetime. ”
In life, if you don't have a reasonable spending and plan towards money, you will often end up being poor.
Some women have never had a sense of saving, once they are Xi to spending lavishly, and they do not have a sense of crisis, then they will not only make themselves poor, but also let the whole family go downhill.
Life is full of hardships and challenges, no one can guess what risks will be in the future, if you develop the Xi of spending lavishly, it is to lose the preparation for a rainy day, once the storm hits, often let yourself hurt very much.
A truly wise woman has long recognized the importance of saving money, because it guarantees the foundation of life and is also an ability to withstand wind and rain.
Women who can save money often have higher requirements for themselves, have a clear plan for the future, and will never have problems with spending money indiscriminately.
They have a long-term vision and the wisdom of life, and they will not let themselves fall into trouble because of early consumption, let alone count one day at a time, only in this way will they lay the foundation for their old age.
After all, you won't realize the humility of borrowing money from around until you really want to use it but don't have itWhen you never save money, you don't feel embarrassed until you reach out to your children in your later years, and even cases of children turning their faces because of this money abound.
A truly smart woman has long learned the good Xi of being diligent and thrifty, and has also improved her ability to resist risks, giving herself a solid guarantee for the rest of her life.
On the road of life, we must clearly understand what mistakes are, so that we can lose less and gain more, and learn to use the right way of life to love ourselves, so that life will shine!
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