Hello friends, I'm Kaka.
A post-80s mother who heals her life with reading and writing.
Dong Yuhui's "small homework" incident basically came to an end at the moment when Dong Yuhui became a partner of Dongfang Xuanxuan.
Dong Yuhui's "mother-in-law" likes him, and his strong stickiness also makes Yu Minhong realize that Dong Yuhui is irreplaceable.
Yesterday's article "Why is Dong Yuhui irreplaceable? said, because Dong Yuhui's attraction is not talent, but character, and his fans are the same frequency of his values.
Today, I would like to add one:Because we have all been ** by Dong Yuhui.
Someone on Zhihu asked: Why do so many people like Dong Yuhui?
One replied: "Not only because he is eloquent, simple and natural, but also because he has a strong ability to empathize, which can directly hit the depths of everyone's soul and bring warmth."
In the live broadcast room, he always inadvertently let us break the defense, so that we can find a first-class energy and inner peace in the face of the hardships of life.
In 2023, I was ** by Dong Yuhui's words.
If you are also suffering from life, you may wish to read these words and start again.
01."True growth isn't a night of crying
It's the night I held back and didn't cry. ”
The more I grow up, the more I envy when I was a child, and sadness and grievances can turn into tears in an instant, and I can cry when I want to.
Sadness and grievances don't have to be left for the next day.
I don't know when we learned to disguise, even if our hearts are miserable, our expressions are not half revealed.
We couldn't hold back our crying and put on our masks, which turned out to be "growth".
From a certain day, it suddenly became clear that it was useless to cry. Crying doesn't change any predicament. So, keep the smile for others and the tears for yourself.
A mother posted that her most devastating moment in 2023 was when she worked alone in a strange city with her five-year-old child after her family passed away.
In case of sudden acute gastroenteritis, fever, colic, vomiting. After leaving the child to someone else to help take care of the child, I rushed to the hospital to see a doctor.
You can't leave after seeing a doctor, because during the epidemic, fever needs to be tested for blood to rule out new crown infection.
She said that it was very cold that day, there were many people in line, and she was very hungry that day, and her muscle hunger was mixed with colic and vomiting, which was very uncomfortable, but she wanted to cry but couldn't cry.
Until the doctor said to her, "Let your family bring you a porridge." ”
The saddest thing is not how bitter the pain is in front of you, but that there is no one around you who can rely on it, but that the person you love the most around you is no longer there.
The grief, helplessness and grievances welled up in her heart, and tears instantly wanted to erupt, but she still held back.
Finally, I ordered takeout, and when I squatted in the corner and drank porridge, I quietly shed a tear. There were tears in that bowl of porridge, drop by drop. She buried her head in the bowl, tears mixed with porridge, and swallowed.
That resolute and resolute look is to want to swallow the bitterness of this life with broken teeth mixed with blood.
Dong Yuhui said: "Real growth is not the night when you cry. ”
In the adult world, nothing is easy, but "the heart can be broken, but the hand cannot be stopped." ”
02."There is a road in life, and you must go by yourself. The pre-dawn period was the darkest, but if you stayed up a little longer, it would be dawn. ”
On the long road of life, there is always a dark time when you can't see your fingers, we call it the darkest moment in life.
It's like the night before dawn, with no stars in sight, and the feeling of hopelessness is the most desperate.
In the early days of the live broadcast of Dongfang Yingxuan, Dong Yuhui also despaired, he often walked from after work to four or five o'clock in the morning, and walked around Peking University.
When he looked up at the starry sky, he comforted himself: don't sink into adversity, no matter who will have a darkest time.
During a speech, he talked about the nights when he had a breakdown, and he said:
Years later, when people asked me, did I feel lonely and long that night? I said the opposite, what I saw was starry sky and singing along the way. ”
He himself said that he repainted the picture in a particularly glamorous and poetic way.
He didn't tell everyone the full version of the story because he was afraid that they would lose their courage and enthusiasm when they knew the reality of life.
It was also Dong Yuhui himself who had gone through countless nights of despair and collapse, so when the live broadcast room was broadcast all night, he saw the suffering of all living beings, and he was also very empathetic.
He said to everyone gently, "Just stay up for a while, and the sky will be bright." ”
He used his own life experience to slowly say the freedom of "the light boat has crossed the ten thousand mountains", and the comfort of "the sky will be sunny after the rain", bringing a little warmth to countless people struggling in the dark, and this warmth is the healing moment of others in this life.
03."Working hard is not to prove how good you are, but when unexpected and uncontrollable factors come, those cultivation and ability that you have accumulated through ordinary efforts can become the confidence to resist all the wind and rain. ”
This time in the small essay turmoil, Dong Yuhui responded: In this storm, I was like a little grass, I could only lie on my stomach and let the wind and rain end.
He laughed at himself that he was very unproductive, but in fact, although Xiaocao was weak, he was tough. "The wildfire burns inexhaustibly, and the spring breeze blows and grows" grass, who dares to say that it is weak?
Dong Yuhui once compared himself to a small grass and said: "I am as mediocre as a small grass, but I have a big river in my heart, mountains and rivers between my eyebrows, and a ravine in my chest." ”
He is not only the grass lying on his stomach when the storm comes, but he also has mountains and rivers in his heart, and he is the grass of all rivers, which is the confidence that he can resist the wind and rain.
Accidents and difficulties always arise without a plan, and it is going to rain, and there is nothing we can do to stop it. All we can do is prepare for the storm in advance.
Ornando, the author of Say Yes to Life, said: "Fear is the same, as if it is going to rain, and all we can do is bring an umbrella in advance. ”
Learn to allow everything to exist, learn to accept everything, and accept the worst; Learn to be strong, learn to protect yourself, and try to change for upward growth.
Those self-cultivation and ability that have been accumulated through ordinary efforts can become the confidence to resist all wind and rain. ”
We use our own strength to resist impermanence, we who seem to be weak, and we who are inconspicuous in the long river of the universe are also the brightest and most dazzling pearls in our own lives.
04.Write at the end
Dong Yuhui said: "You didn't hide when bad luck came, and you can only bump into your arms when good luck comes." ”
He warmed you and me in front of the screen with his kindness, wisdom, and integrity.
This square-faced boy, from an ordinary rural family, survives the darkness of life step by step through reading and hard work, and blooms the graceful flowers of life.
We bless him as well.
Thank you for those dark moments, and his warm words ** my 2023.
He used his own strength to let us get the strength, get rid of confusion and hesitation, and see the sun, one day, we will also "cross the ten thousand mountains in a light boat".
On the road to healing, we are together.