The proverb "neighbors don't make friends, relatives don't leave" can be said to be a more accurate word in interpersonal communication.
In this society based on interpersonal communication, neighborhood and kinship have always been an integral part of people's lives.
However, neighbors and relatives around them are not all so easy to get along with, and some people's troublesome and troublesome relationships can have a negative impact on their lives that cannot be ignored.
If you can't handle the neighborhood relationship and family relationship correctly, it will bring a lot of unnecessary troubles and even harms.
Therefore, it is important to take the connotation of this proverb seriously and think carefully about the wisdom contained in it in order to better handle your social relationships.
This article will help readers better understand and apply this wisdom and resolve the dilemma in interpersonal relationships through the interpretation and observance of the proverb "neighbors don't make friends, relatives don't leave", as well as the analysis of the surrounding interpersonal relationships.
Neighbors are one of the most common social relationships, and how well we get along with our neighbors is directly related to our comfort and well-being in our family and community life.
However, it is precisely because neighbors are so close that once there is a problem with the neighbor, it will cause us more trouble.
1. It is a neighbor who "can't control his temper".
This kind of neighbor tends to have mood swings and is prone to temper tantrums over trivial matters, which can lead to conflicts with others, and in the face of such neighbors, too much contact will increase the risk of injury, so it is wise to "be far and near".
When dealing with such neighbors, we need to learn to be calm and keep our distance appropriately to avoid unnecessary conflicts and injuries.
If someone doesn't believe it, they can go and search for relevant news. In 2020, a family in Jilin was killed by a neighbor with a knife because he was disgusted and noisy by his neighbors.
In our dealings with such neighbors, we should learn to deal with them calmly. Avoid arguing or irritating them, and don't take the initiative to provoke or detonate the other person's emotions.
When communicating with them, try to maintain a calm tone and attitude, and express your thoughts and needs rationally.
At the same time, you should also pay attention to some safety precautions, such as making sure that the door of the house is locked, so that the impulsive behavior of neighbors does not threaten your own safety.
When dealing with neighbors who can't control their temper, it's wise to keep a proper distance, and not to overdo it can reduce the probability of conflict and danger.
Avoid too many conflicts and conflicts with them, keep a relative distance, and keep yourself and your family away from potential dangers.
Most importantly, if a conflict with a neighbour escalates or you feel threatened, seek help from the relevant security authorities, maintain contact with the local police or community safety agency, and seek help in case of danger.
2. It is an "unreasonable" neighbor
Such neighbors will face great difficulties in getting along with them, both in daily life and in neighborhood relations.
Such neighbors are self-centered, ignore the feelings and needs of others, and lack rationality and fairness in dealing with problems.
In the face of such a neighbor, even if we are reasonable, it is difficult to solve the problem through rational communication.
Once you are entangled by this kind of person, it is really a restless house. And everyone knows how high the house prices are now. No one wants to sell their house and move out until they can't bear it anymore.
Therefore, when faced with this kind of problem, we can only protect ourselves first, avoid being hurt by it, choose to remain calm and rational, not be swayed by its behavior, and not easily fall into a state of emotional agitation or quarrel.
Keep your distance, avoid frequent contact with them, and reduce the chance of conflict with them to avoid unnecessary harm yourself.
Then see if you can call for help from the relevant departments of the community and try to solve the problem, which can increase the fairness and effectiveness of the problem resolution by solving the problem collectively or through the intervention of an authoritative organization.
In addition, understanding and applying laws and regulations is also a way to deal with unreasonable neighbors. If the behavior of our neighbors has involved the bottom line of the law, we can protect our rights and interests through legal channels and seek legal protection and rights protection.
Although it is exhausting to get along with unreasonable neighbors, we must stand by our principles and protect our rights.
By staying calm, keeping our distance, seeking outside support, and using legal means, we can better protect ourselves from falling prey to such neighbors in our irrational behavior.
Although Chinese attach great importance to kinship, and it is common to visit relatives during holidays, not all relatives need to move.
Some relatives can maintain a face, but moving around often will harm themselves, especially these three types of relatives, it is better not to have too much contact.
1. It is a relative who "only promises externally and strikes hard internally".
Such relatives may make a good impression in social situations, they are gentle in their manners, they are good at communicating with others, and they seem to be very easy to get along with.
However, when it comes to getting along with their family members, they often show the other side, they may exert severe pressure on their family members, exercise mental and emotional control over family members, and even resort to immoral or even nasty means to achieve their own ends.
Such kinship can easily have a negative impact on the mental health of families and individuals, so it needs to be treated with caution.
It is said that those who are close to Zhu are red and those who are close to ink are black, and excessive contact with such relatives may exacerbate conflicts and conflicts within the family, leading to psychological exhaustion and injury.
Therefore, it is very necessary to maintain an appropriate distance to avoid unnecessary harm by controlling the frequency and content of communication, as well as maintaining a certain level of vigilance in getting along.
Don't think it's a trivial matter, some things are not strange and don't necessarily mean it's the right thing, like domestic violence, divorce, etc.
In the eyes of the older generation, it seems to be a heinous code word, as if it is a heinous crime to say it, and it is precisely because of this secrecy that women who are victims of domestic violence cannot find a way to escape in economically underdeveloped areas.
Because this kind of area is often dominated by large clans guarding the local rules. If the clan is not right, then the woman who marries in it will really go to hell.
2. It is a relative who "steps on the high and praises the low, and sees the money and opens his eyes".
This kind of relatives often regard money as the core of everything, they look at money in life and do things, and any family care is a fart, as long as they are given money, they can say that black is white, and a deer can also be said to be a horse.
In the face of interests, sacrificing their interests for their own interests is a very cost-effective thing in their hearts.
However, such people often lack social status, which leads to extreme humility and flattery in front of the so-called "rich people", which also creates the arrogance and arrogance of such people in front of their relatives.
This kind of person is particularly greedy for small and cheap, ** where to go if there is a cheap, regardless of whether this benefit should be taken or not, just uphold a kind of "I will take it, what can you do with me" idea, the whole is a dead pig is not afraid of boiling water.
The closer you get to this kind of person means that you become a bargaining chip in his hands, and when you exchange you for your own interests, it depends on whether anyone makes a bid.
Take one of the most obvious examples, blind dates, everyone who has girls knows that most blind dates are introduced by relatives.
At this time, if you have such a relative by your side, and the other party introduces you to someone, if you really dare to agree to anything, then you really don't know if you sell your girl.
Although the current society pays attention to the equality of men and women, it is undeniable that the idea of preference for sons over women still occupies the mainstream position, which also leads to the fact that families with only one girl in the family are easy to be targeted by some scumbags.
It is said that in the face of interests, this kind of person runs the fastest, and his brain turns fast, and he brings his children and grandchildren to visit the door from time to time, saying how good it is to have a man, etc., saying that he can "pass" and "retire".
At this time, it is necessary to guard against this kind of relatives, they are here for profit, if they can't see their wishful thinking, then wait for their pension money to be scavenged.
3. It is a relative who is "addicted to gambling and unrepentant".
Such relatives are often deeply involved in gambling, unable to extricate themselves, and will even do anything to relatives and friends for the sake of gambling.
In the face of such relatives, we must first ensure our financial and emotional security and do not provide financial support for their gambling problems, as this will only encourage their gambling behavior.
At the same time, be careful not to borrow money from them or involve transactions in which they are co-invested, so as not to cause financial losses due to their gambling behavior.
And as long as you lend it to the other party once, the other party will rely on you and bite you to death, if you don't lend it to the other party again, who knows what these losing gamblers will do.
If there was a monetary exchange before the other party gambled, after noticing that the other party may be involved in gambling, you should also stop the transaction as soon as possible and clear the tail.
In addition, we can also seek the help of professionals, such as finding a gambling addiction** institution or a psychological counselor, to provide them with the necessary help and support.
However, it is important to understand that changing the behaviour of a gambling addict requires a strong will and determination on their part, and we can only give appropriate support and encouragement, but the power to decide to change still rests with them.
Although people with gambling addiction generally have little determination and perseverance, some only have a wild nature, and it is difficult to call them human. Spring and Autumn help is just a kind of help for relatives and friends, but staying away from each other is also a way to protect yourself
By keeping our distance from such relatives, not having too much contact with them, and avoiding the influence they may bring, we can choose to build healthier and more positive relationships with other loved ones and pursue a happy and harmonious life together.
At the same time, if necessary, consider joining a support group to share experiences and seek support from others who have similar experiences.