One of the most hateful emotions is:
A person who obviously doesn't love you, but keeps coming and going in your life, refusing to get close to you or letting you go.
Maybe he didn't mean it, but being in your position is extremely torturous, not giving you a clear answer, good or bad, just making you guess over and over again.
In fact, the people who stay with you all the time do not necessarily love you, and the reason why they are unwilling to let go of you completely is only because you can meet his three needs.
You are his companion when he is lonely.
My dear, I don't miss you because I'm lonely, I'm lonely because I miss you.
Because I miss you, I find myself alone, without your company, very lonely.
Therefore, the only person who wants to be close to you and use it to relieve loneliness is yourself, and you will feel extra comfortable with you, even if you don't do anything but sit quietly.
On the contrary, a man who does not love you will never contact you when you are free and take the initiative to give you time, but will instead find your company when you are lonely.
At this time, you are not the other party's first choice, it may be that he rummaged through his contacts, looked for friends around him, and did not have a suitable partner, and finally remembered you.
You should choose someone who finds you because you feel you are lonely, not because you are lonely.
Second, you are taking advantage of his emotional world.
A man went out to dinner with a friend when it was raining heavily.
After dinner, the man didn't want to pay, and his friends felt that the rain was too heavy and there was no way to go home, so the man smiled and secretly called the girl who loved him, and the girl was eating with her parents at home, but she didn't ask when she received **, so she opened the door and came out to find a man.
Upon arriving, the girl discovers that the date he had rushed to was just a bet between his boyfriend and his friend. They bet the girls would come, and they would pay.
The girlfriend suddenly realized that her secret crush for many years was like a joke, and the man not only did not love her, but also trampled on everything she was willing to give.
In fact, a man's reluctance to cut off contact does not mean that he is unwilling to give up in his heart, it may just be because he has a high use value for you, so that he can use you when needed.
Perhaps, such a man will give you tenderness, but he will always love himself, and all the good things you give have a purpose.
In fact, a person's energy is limited.
Knowing that a person doesn't love you, but he has always occupied the position next to you, he didn't promise you anything, but you gave him your whole heart, which means that he can withdraw anytime and anywhere, and you have no way to let go of him.
Your heart is always filled with his presence, and you can't tolerate anyone else anymore.
While it's voluntary, it's really not fair to you.
Because of a person who doesn't love you, you lose more possibilities and waste time on not treating you as the only person, maybe this is a predestined fate, there is no right or wrong, but the ending is easy to sigh.
Be sober, don't be a miserable person in love, if a man doesn't love you, give up bravely and believe that you deserve better.