If married men and women like each other, my advice has always been to see the consequences of crossing the line and cut off the mind as soon as possible.
But in fact, the ideal is very plump, the reality is very skinny, emotions do not need a reason, and emotional restraint will make both parties feel very uncomfortable. Sometimes, even because of deliberate suppression, once the emotion is impulsive, it is easier to do things that are difficult to control.
There is this point in the book "Seeing the Child".
Any ideas you have are real in real life and should be respected.
After marriage, there is no need to blame the other person for love, except for the opposite sex of the partner, and from a realistic point of view, it is recommended if the two want to develop a stable romantic relationship.
1.Don't ask for something you shouldn't ask for.
If you like someone, you are possessive, but if you like someone else when you get married, it is doomed, and possessiveness is not fully satisfied.
If two people are together and want to desperately occupy each other, this kind of extramarital affair will end up in two ways: either divorce and then be together;Or end the relationship and return to the family.
When both fish and bear's paws want to get it, it will always be uncomfortable.
Married men and women who fall in love, even if they are true love, have long lost the freedom of normal love.
So figure out what you really want, if you're just finding comfort outside of marriage, you don't really want a divorce, you don't want to break the relationship, you accept the reality and accept the need to share the same partner with other people of the opposite sex.
Doomed to a person with a full heart and a fair future.
The truth may be painful, but it's for the best.
2. Don't interfere in each other's lives.
Married men and women like each other, and the best attitude should be to go with the flow.
If you're not satisfied and want to take the relationship to the next level, you'll upset the balance in your partner's life.
If you truly love someone, you should first achieve peace and happiness in each other's lives.
Just like in "Waste Capital", Tang Wan'er and Zhuang Zhidie are both family people, but the two love each other and have an intimate relationship of love outside of marriage.
However, they have been hiding well, only talking about love in the space that belongs to each other, doing what husband and wife should do, enjoying the endless sweetness of being together, and in the shared space with their partners, each sticking to the superficial boundaries and not wanting to disturb each other's life for half a minute.
Love in marriage is not free, but the essence of love is the same, that is, if you fall in love with someone, you will hope that the other person can live well.
If it is not necessary to live with a lover with a lonely voice outside of marriage, to love someone, to maintain the stability of his family for the other person, and to satisfy the happiness of the lover, it should be some behavior.
3.Be aware of your shortcomings.
If, after marriage, you will be attracted to others, there is a reason.
The first reason is the inherent absence of marriage. Not getting what you want in a marriage, such as two people being too dull together and lacking passion, is not the obvious fault of the partner, but it is the lack of interest that can make life sweet.
I can't satisfy my heart, so I have to ask about the outside, and it's only when I meet the right person that I'm easy to be moved.
For example, Xu Moshan in "Thirty Decades" will be like Lin Youyou, very obsessed with the ease of being with each other, unlike with his wife Gu Jia, who always needs to pay attention to a lot, and dare not relax for a moment mentally.
The second level is the lack of ego, not daring to go deep into intimate relationships, even if you meet someone you trust very much and get married, the lack of heart is still not healed, and you need to find the feeling you want in different people.