Love, whether it is the tacit understanding between husband and wife or the passion between lovers, requires time to run in and mutual understanding.
However, in a relationship, it is inevitable to encounter situations where the other party does not contact each other for a while.
At this time, we must learn to stay calm, give space, and avoid excessive guessing, frequent contact and excessive interpretation, so as not to cause unnecessary misunderstandings and contradictions.
Below, let's take a closer look at three stupid things we must not do in this situation.
Don't over-guess and stay calm
In a relationship, when the other party suddenly does not contact us, the easiest thing to come to mind is all kinds of speculation.
We begin to think about the other person's emotions, whether they are angry, whether they are dissatisfied with themselves.
However, this over-guessing often only complicates things, and it may be that the other person is busy and has other arrangements, rather than what we think.
Therefore, staying calm and not getting into trouble is the first step in dealing with the situation.
Staying calm is not about running away from the problem, it's about getting the hang of things better.
We can think about whether there is any fault in our behavior, whether the other party has encountered any difficulties, and face the problem with a rational attitude.
We need to be tolerant and understanding of all the reasons that may occur.
Don't contact too often, give space
When we realize that the other person is not in touch for a while, remember not to disturb the other person too often.
Too much contact can be counterproductive and irritating for the other person. Everyone needs some personal space, and sometimes silence doesn't mean not caring.
Giving each other enough space to allow each other time to think calmly is very important to maintain the relationship.
Space is a kind of respect, but also a kind of care.
In a relationship, a moderate distance can make both parties think better and cherish each other better.
Frequent contact can not only make the other person feel suffocated, but it can also make you lose some of your ego in the relationship.
Therefore, learn to give space for feelings to thrive in freedom and respect.
Don't over-interpret to avoid misunderstandings
In a relationship, it is easy to over-interpret because of some small things, which can lead to unnecessary misunderstandings.
The lack of contact is not necessarily due to dissatisfaction with us or other circumstances, but may simply be tired, busy, or in need of some alone time.
Therefore, when dealing with this situation, we must learn to think rationally and avoid some overly sensitive interpretations, so as not to cause unnecessary tension and contradictions.
Rational thinking is not indifference to feelings, but to better understand the other person and avoid unnecessary misunderstandings caused by subjective assumptions.
We need to understand that everyone has their own way of living and thinking independently.
Therefore, over-reading the other person's behavior can easily disturb the relationship and bring unnecessary distress to both parties.
Love needs to be managed, and in the process of management, we often encounter various difficulties and challenges.
Don't do these 3 stupid things when the other person doesn't contact you for a while: don't over-guess and stay calm;Don't contact too often, give spaceDon't over-interpret to avoid misunderstandings
On the contrary, we should learn to trust, understand each other, and give enough space and time to let the relationship slowly warm up in the flatness.
Love needs understanding and tolerance, not excessive suspicion and misunderstanding.
I hope that every couple and couple can move forward hand in hand on the road of affection and create a better future of their own together.