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My name is Li Chun, I am 50 years old and I am a housewife. My husband's name is Wang Xiaohui, and he is the same age as me. We have been married for many years and have a son who is in college. My husband is very busy at work and often works overtime, so I basically take care of the affairs of the family alone. I have just completed my retirement procedures, and from today, I can officially retire at home. This is the moment I have been waiting for for a long time, and I can finally take a good rest from my years of housework. I happily said to my husband, "Husband, I have finally completed the retirement procedures today, and I can officially retire at home from now on!" We can finally enjoy life together at a leisurely pace! But my husband frowned and said with some dissatisfaction: "According to me, you are in good health now, you should go out to work, and at home you are eating and drinking, wasting more time." ”
When I heard my husband's words, my heart suddenly fell to the bottom. I thought my husband would be happy for me, after all, it meant we would have more time together. But his reaction was the opposite of what I expected. I immediately felt a wave of loss and grievance in my heart. I tried to persuade my husband: "I've been at home all these years taking care of the children and taking care of the housework, and it's time to take a break." Our son is about to graduate, so I'll have more time to spend with you. But the husband still didn't think so, he said firmly: "Because of this, you should go outside to see the world, idle is idle, it is better to go to work to earn some pocket money." I don't spend more time at home than I do at work. "I was even more sad when I heard this, my husband didn't understand my hard work over the years. I thought that at this age, he would be happy to have someone to accompany him; But he was visibly tired of me being at home all day and wanted me to go out to work. It made me feel that he didn't really understand my thoughts, and I silently cleaned up the table with red eyes. A few days later, my husband said to me, "I've already helped you find a good job, let's go to the interview tomorrow." ”
I was surprised and asked, "What job?" I have no work experience, so wouldn't it be humiliating to go to the interview? My husband said as a matter of course: "It's a fast food restaurant nearby, you go and give it a try, maybe they will hire you." Fast food restaurant jobs are hard, but they can't be better for people with no work experience. "I was even more sad when I heard this, it turned out that my husband didn't consider my feelings at all, so he arranged for me to go to a fast food restaurant without authorization. I felt like an unassertive child, led by my husband. Actually, I really don't want to work in a fast food restaurant, it will be very hard, and I also think that with my experience and experience, I should be able to find a more decent job. The next morning, I plucked up the courage to say to my husband, "Honey, I know you want me to work and not stay at home, but I really don't agree with you letting me go to a fast food restaurant." I also have my own ideas and choices. My husband seemed surprised that I would object to him, and he hesitated for a moment and said, "Then what kind of work do you want to do?" ”
I seized the opportunity to tell my husband that I would prefer to find an easier job where I could use my eloquence and rich life experience, such as being a tour guide or customer service. I also told him that I very much wanted him to respect my ideas and not decide my career path on his own. When I said these words, I looked my husband in the eye and said in an unusually firm tone. I straightened my back, correcting my old submissive look. I took the initiative to hug my husband, as if I had regained the courage to take charge of my life. To my delight, my husband did not force me to go to the fast food restaurant for an interview, but said that he would consider my ideas, which has made me breathe a sigh of relief. After a few days, I found an opportunity and calmly said to my husband, "Honey, I know that you are thinking about me, but I also hope that you can understand my thoughts. As we get older, we should take care of each other rather than force each other to make concessions. The husband nodded and said, "You're right, we should be more understanding and considerate of each other, rather than acting according to our own ideas." This time I was wrong, too impatient and didn't take into account your feelings. ”
I was relieved to see that my husband finally understood my thoughts. I suspect that maybe my husband is in a hurry to let me work because he is worried that I will feel empty and bored when I retire. We're both approaching retirement age, and we're both caring for each other in our own way. Now I feel that our relationship is finally based on mutual understanding and cherishing again. I took the initiative to shake my husband's hand and expressed my gratitude and understanding for him in a soft voice. We sat quietly on the rooftop, watching the sun set, the afterglow of the setting sun shining on our clenched hands. A sense of security that I hadn't felt in a long time filled my heart. I know that if we are considerate of each other, we can get through every stage of life. Later, I chose a job as a tour guide. When I put on my guide's ** and stood at the entrance of the attraction, I felt sincerely happy and satisfied. I will work hard, but I will cherish every moment with my husband even more. Just like the scenic spots we visit, after the vicissitudes of time, our love will become more and more refined and noble. I hugged my husband, kissed him on the cheek, and said, "Honey, come with me, I'll show you my work today!" We walked hand in hand on the scenic trail, our eyes overflowing with love. Here, we will look forward to the future together while reminiscing about the past. I took my husband around the scenic spot, and while explaining the history of the attraction to him, I joked with him from time to time. My husband is also very devoted, and from time to time he asks me some questions, and I give him science popularization in a rambling manner. I can see that my husband is very supportive and appreciative of my new job. 
At noon we found a picnic area and opened up the simple meals prepared in advance. The warm spring sun shines on us, and I feel the warmth that I have not felt for a long time flowing between us. "Thank you, husband, for finally understanding my thoughts, and I feel like we're connecting again. I said with a smile. My husband nodded and said, "I figured it out, in fact, you have done enough all along, I shouldn't force you to go out to work." Retirement means something different to everyone, and I should ask you what you think, not take it personally. "Yes, maybe it can be seen as a new beginning in our relationship. I said, "We have to learn to understand each other and accept each other in the midst of change." "That's right. My husband held my hand and said, "No matter what happens, we will get through it hand in hand." ”
At this time, I saw an old couple walking slowly. They were in unison, looking at each other tenderly. For the first time, I felt that old age can also be a blessing. "Honey, we'll be like that too, right? "I said for no reason. "Of course. My husband replied with a smile, "We will grow old together and reminisce about the bits and pieces of our lives together." As long as you're there, I feel like everything is good. "That's good, I thought to myself. Maybe every relationship will inevitably encounter phased problems, but as long as it is run-in, it will become stronger, just like a waterfall hidden in the depths of a canyon, the more it goes through wind and frost, the more turbulent and magnificent the water it falls. At this moment, I am once again convinced that as long as we understand each other and cherish the present, we will be able to go through every part of our lives. 
In the afternoon, I continued to take my husband to visit other attractions. On the way, we talked about our son's recent situation. He is about to graduate and is planning for the future. "My son has grown up and it's time to start living independently. I said with emotion. "Yes, we should also learn to give him a certain amount of space to decide the future for himself. My husband said. "But we will always support him. I said. "Yes, we will always be his strongest support. My husband shook my hand and said. 
I nodded, feeling like a tree whose canopy had grown more and more over the years. And the love between my husband and I is the intertwined root system of this big tree, which makes it stand tall in the wind and rain. This day was the most special day of my life. I re-examined my life and my relationship with my husband. All the unpleasantness of the past has disappeared, and this may be the best state of life. After that day, I noticed a subtle change in the way I looked at my husband and life. I started to care more about my husband's thoughts and feelings. In the past, I was always busy, putting housework and parenting first, and didn't pay much attention to my husband's inner needs. Now I spend time chatting with him, asking him about his work and preparing his favorite dishes. My husband has also become more talkative, telling me interesting stories about his childhood, and sometimes hugging me out of the blue. I was relieved to find that we had regained the sweet feeling of talking about marriage when we were younger. I've also learned to value myself more. I will arrange my working hours reasonably and ensure that there are enough rests; After work, I will go for a walk in the park, take a deep breath and relax; Outside of work, I spend some time reading, writing, and doing things I love. These days, I feel more grounded and satisfied than I have seen in a long time.