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"Hollow heart disease" was first discovered in college students, as early as 7 years ago, Professor Xu released a set of data in "The Economics of Hollow Heart Disease and Anxiety in the Times".
Among the freshmen (including undergraduate and graduate students) at Peking University, there are 304% have an aversion to learning, or don't think it's meaningful;There are 404% of students don't think it's meaningful to be alive.As the pride of the sky, Peking University bully is in such a state of mind, which is surprising.
But what is even more disturbing is that hollow heart disease has spread to teenagers, and there are many primary and secondary school students who feel that life is meaningless, and they can't think about it when they encounter a little thing.
Why is this happening?
It has an inseparable relationship with the individual, family, school, and society.
The child's brain development is not mature enough, and he cannot express himself correctly and in time when he encounters problems, resulting in depression that cannot be resolved. Parents are busy with their livelihoods, give their children less company, pay too much attention to academic performance, and don't care about their children's feelings. The school evaluates the children's strengths and weaknesses based on their grades, and the amount of extracurricular activities and exercise is insufficient.
Many children are coerced into believing that studying hard to be admitted to a prestigious school and getting more material things is the only pursuit. When there is a situation that does not satisfy parents and teachers, I feel at a loss, as if the whole world is against me, and I have lost my attachment to life.
A lot of kids are tangled:Not to live for yourself, but to live as your parents, teachers, and others do. When I was admitted to university, I reached the end of my life and lost my sense of direction.
This phenomenon is terrible and not our real desire.
Don't wait until the child has a problem to seek medical advice, but intervene early to let the child realize the meaning of life, learning is important, but there are many most important things to look forward to.
If you don't know how to change the situation, you can use books, for example"Talk to your child about the most important things in life".
This book talks about it all20 things, very simple and realistic, reading and communicating with children, and working hard to practice, you will find that life, life is actually very colorful. The following is my rough feeling after reading it, and you will definitely have a deeper understanding after reading it yourself, so that your child will become happy and happy.
Mom may be chattering, complaining and dissatisfied, but that's the most important person!When the child is weak, it is the mother who holds it in the crook of the arm, when the child is waiting to be fed, it is the mother who feeds it with milk, and when the child encounters great troubles, it is the mother who helps to get rid of it.
Maybe when the child is angry with his mother, he can't understand his mother, forgets his mother's good past, and thinks that his mother is not so important, thenFind comfort in a friend, another person who thinks he understands, for a while.
A person usually doesn't have a lot of friends, but he must have a friend, who may be a child of the same age, or an older ** than himself, when he can't resolve his emotions, he can confide in him without any guilt, he may not be able to give you any good solutions, but say it, the burden in your heart is removed, and everything is fine.
When you reach a certain age, it's time to fall in love, and you will get a kind of power from the person you love that neither your mother nor your friends can giveMake people stronger, happier, and freer。It is not a betrayal of family and friendship, but the inevitability of growth.
On a certain day, there may be a very common food that is always remembered. The small meatballs I ate when I was sick, the delicious chicken soup made by my grandmother who loved me, the large pieces of meat I wanted to eat in my embarrassed life, and the fried potatoes with eggs and ham that I invented when I was alone.
The food may look unremarkable and the taste is not great, butWhen it brings back a beautiful and satisfying memory, the food becomes soul and the mood brightens.
On a special day, you may wear a dress that is appropriate to the occasion, and every time you think of or see this dress, a beautiful picture will come to mind.
New clothes printed with zodiac patterns are worn during the Spring Festival, princess dresses are worn on birthdays, performance clothes are worn at New Year's Day parties, and bachelor's uniforms are worn at graduation ceremonies.
Because the days are unusual, the clothes have become extraordinary.
When mom can't give more hugs, she may need to find a replacement. Soft things like blankets, quilts, stuffed animals, etc.
Holding soft things, I regained my sense of security in my mother's belly or in the crook of my arm.
People need material nourishment, but spiritual pursuit is indispensable.
When many people feel sad or hopeless, they can get rid of their troubles and feel comfortable by listening to it. The more beautiful thing is, of course, to play it yourself, or to learn an instrument, or to create the conditions to strike the sound yourself.
If you are studying, you don't have to be utilitarian, and the exams, promotions, etc. are secondary, mainly to get spiritual pleasure and have the means to release when you feel difficult.
I feel very difficult, far away from myself, I can read books, listen to stories, and watch movies.
Many of the plots are fictional, but they are deeply related to our lives and exist in our world. It may be that our hopes, dreams, and hobbies are parts that we can't express or are inconvenient to show.
Every time it resonates, all emotions dissipate in laughter and tears.
No one's life will be smooth sailing and win to the end, and the road of life is full of ups and downs and bumps.
Even light can't walk in a straight line, even the Yellow River has nine bends and eighteen bends, how can life not go around in circles?
Many outstanding people in history are not like this, we are familiar with the poet immortal Li Bai, the poet saint Du Fu, and the poet god Su Shi, in their era, did not get a good opportunity to display their talents, but were full of grievances and unwillingness. They put their thoughts and thoughts on poetry and texts, which have been passed down through the ages.
So,It's normal to feel pain and failure when encountering things, it's not a shameful thing to worry and cry, and it's not a shameful thing to hope for tomorrow and have a firm belief that you will definitely overcome stupidity and dark times.
If you think you've worked hard, but you still can't make others 100% satisfied, you may be frustrated and angry, but you can think differently about whether you still have the ability to do better, and he is motivating rather than belittling.
Jump out of your shadow and challenge your own demonsIt is quite possible to transcend what you consider to be an insurmountable boundary and reach another apex. Thinking is only difficult, and doing can have the answer.
That's all I have to read"Talk to your child about the most important things in life".After that, there is a kind of pleasure that cleanses the soul.
There are no advanced theories in this book, just plain descriptions of daily life, plus vivid and interesting illustrations, which is easy to read.
Parents will change the practice of focusing only on learning, and children will understand the diversity of life, enrich life, and will not step into the trap of hollow heart disease.
"Talk to your child about the most important things in life".Suitable for children over 6 years old, you can click the link below to place an order.
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