As the saying goes: the water is silent, and the person is steady.
The more mature a person is, the more humble he is.
The more capable people are, the more low-key their style of action is, and they tend to "stand aside" when encountering problems, so as to better judge the situation and adjust themselves in time.
"Standing aside" is the wisdom of life, but also the rule of survival.
Be humble, don't show superiority
The Ming Dynasty philosopher Wang Yangming said
Some people wait for the flowers to bloom in excellence, while others destroy themselves in pride. ”
If a person is arrogant and has no one in mind who does not understand humility in his dealings, then what awaits him will be defeat and calamity.
Seen such a story:
The famous French painter Beroni went to Switzerland for a holiday, and he shuttled around the country every day to paint.
One day, he came to paint on the shore of Lake Geneva, and then three female tourists came, and when they saw his paintings, they gave various guidance and criticism.
Instead of getting angry at their actions, Beroni listened carefully and made changes, thanking them at the end.
The next day Beroni came to another place, and met the three female tourists, so they asked him:
Sir, we have heard that the great painter Beroni is on vacation here, and we have come here to pay a visit.
Do you know where he is now?”
Beroni bent slightly towards them and replied:
I am Beroni, but I dare not be the name of a great painter. ”
The three female tourists were taken aback, remembering yesterday's impoliteness, and ran away one by one with a red face.
The French writer Victor Hugo once said, "Humility is much more powerful than pride."
Cultivated people know how to be humble, they never show off, and they never show off their achievements.
Instead, put yourself in a very low position, be humble and respectful, and be courteous and courteous.
Only by knowing how to converge inwardly can you win the favor of the people around you and save good contacts.
Being humble is not to make you bow your head and give up your dignity, but to be polite and courteous, and give up pride.
Throughout the ages, those who have achieved success in everything have followed this principle, which is the wisdom of being a human being, and it is also the secret of success.
Be calm and don't argue with anyone
Zhuangzi has a saying:
Well frogs can't speak about the sea, summer insects can't speak about ice, and ordinary people can't talk about it. ”
In the face of people who are different from their own ideological realm and vision, they do not need to be persuaded or taught a lesson.
One day, Ji Xianlin and his friends were having dinner in a restaurant, and a mother and son were sitting next to them.
Because the mother needed to go to the bathroom, she left the child alone in the seat.
The child was naughty and active, and accidentally fell from the chair to the floor, crying in pain.
Seeing this, Ji Xianlin immediately went over to help the child up and asked him if he was injured.
At this moment, the child's mother saw this scene from a distance and thought that Ji Lao was bullying her child.
Driven by anger, she reprimanded Ji Lao indiscriminately.
and continued to make a lot of noise in the hotel, and even said that his child was injured and wanted to go to the hospital for examination, and he needed Ji Lao to compensate for medical expenses.
In the face of such unreasonable trouble, Ji Lao did not respond from beginning to end, but silently returned to his seat and continued to eat.
A friend asked Ji Xianlin:
Why are you misunderstood by others, but you are silent?”
Ji Xianlin replied with a smile
Isn't it self-inflicted trouble to reason with someone who only scolds when he opens his mouth, and it will only lead to endless entanglement?”
Quarrels require time and effort, and can be a huge drain on energy.
Wise people, who fight without fighting, seem to lose "face", but in fact win inner peace.
As the Tao Te Ching says: "If it is indisputable, the world cannot compete with it." ”
Indisputable, not a loss, but a kind of tolerance;Not arguing, nor is it cowardice, but a pattern.
Really powerful people know how to be self-explanatory.
Be in awe and know how to show weakness
To be a man, you must know how to make trade-offs and know how to hide your edge.
We should maintain a sense of reverence for all people and things, and appropriately hide our clumsiness and weakness, so as to better protect ourselves.
In Dream of Red Mansions, it is written that when Lin Daiyu first entered Jia's mansion, Jia's mother asked her what she was reading.
Lin Daiyu replied: "I just read the "Four Books". ”
When asked what the sisters in the Grand View Garden were reading, Jia's mother only said, "I just recognize two words, not a blind man with my eyes open."
When Baoyu asked her again if she had ever studied, she replied:
I didn't read, I only went to school for one year, and I had to recognize a few words. ”
It is this kind of modesty and weakness that makes Lin Daiyu not only not rejected in Jiafu, but very popular with everyone.
People who are good at "showing weakness" know how to give the focus to others and give others the opportunity to perform, which is a kind of respect for others and a kind of protection for themselves.
Showing weakness is not really weak, and being reckless is not necessarily really strong.
Writer Wang Yuan once said: "Raising eyebrows is a kind of ability, but lowering eyebrows is a kind of courage." ”
The truly strong are always in awe, know how to show weakness, and do not strive for temporary glory, but look at long-term victory.
You don't have to show off, you don't have to be the center of attention, you don't have to covet the scenery of the moment, you don't have to be low-key and modest, and you don't have to be calm.
Jia Pingwa once said:
There are not many things that can be done in life, and everything you do is looking for your own position. ”
When he was young, he was ignorant of the world and longed to be the center and center of the world, to show everything he had in front of others.
As I grew up and saw the diversity of the world, I realized that the fundamental thing to live in is to put away the edge and learn to "stand aside".
May you and I be able to find our place and live a calm and transparent life.
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