In the Analects of Learning, it says:
A gentleman is a gentleman, and he is born from the beginning
A gentleman has no roots, that is, no roots, no way.
It can be seen that to be a person and do things, you must first establish a foundation.
Obviously, in life, everything needs to be taken precedently.
"First" is the foundation, "after" is on the basis of the foundation, and the trend is obtained.
Therefore, to behave in the world, we must do: be a person first, and then do things;Altruism first, self-interest second;First selfless, then selfish;It is to conform to the way of heaven, and if the order is right, life will be smooth.
Be a person first, then do things
The Mean: Chapter 20 says:
The benevolent, the people also, kissing is great;The righteous are also suitable for the virtuous
To be a man first, to be benevolent first, benevolence is to love others, that is, to push oneself and others.
First benevolence, then righteousness;Be a person first, then do things
In this way, we can know etiquette, proportion, and appropriateness.
Only with a benevolent heart can we care, care and care for the people around us, especially our relatives.
People who are not grateful, people who are not benevolent, will be unpopular, will be bumpy, and will be difficult to achieve.
Yes, to be a person in advance, the person is right, the thing is right;When people go well, things go well.
The Analects says:
The way is virtuous, all are courteous, shameful and qualified
Only when there is a sense of honesty and shame can we cultivate morality, etiquette, and character.
Throughout the ages, it is difficult for shameless people to become great weapons;
Unless, you can be ashamed and brave, and you can reach the peak.
Only when we know shame can we have respect, respect, tolerance, benevolence, righteousness, and courtesy.
And those who respect people, people respect;Those who love others, people love;
The Venerable One Establishes the World;Those who lose people lose power.
Zuo Qiu Ming's "Zuo Chuan: The Second Year of Xuangong" said:
People who have no faults can change after passing, and they are very good
Born as a human being, whoever does not make mistakes can be without fault.
To be a man, we are all in the mistakes of change, in the process of change, so repeatedly, there is growth.
Therefore, making mistakes, correcting mistakes, and growing are compulsory courses for people, and no one is exempt.
It is precisely because of mistakes that we will know the shame, and then we can know right from wrong.
If you know right from wrong, you can correct your words and deeds, conduct, and virtue, and then you can learn to be a man.
Therefore, be a person first, and then do things, so that you can gain respect, trust, and then stand in the world and succeed.
Altruism first, self-interest second;
There is a saying in the Analects of Liren:
The gentleman is in righteousness, and the villain is in profit
A gentleman values morality, and a villain looks at interests, but morality can last a long time, but interests are difficult to protect.
People who value profit will be anxious, will be short-term, will be narrow-minded, and often difficult to last;
A moral person is moral, righteous, and altruistic, so he can last a long time.
Throughout the ages, people who have a long-term status have all been altruistic first, and then self-interested.
Self-interest first is the opposite and will lose people's hearts;Only by benefiting others first can we approach the road and conform to the hearts of the people.
As the saying goes: there is much help for the righteous, and little help for the unjust;And those who win the hearts of the people can win the world.
It can be seen that only altruism can win the hearts of the people, achieve things, and be happy.
Tao Te Ching: Chapter 7 says:
It is the saint who comes after him
The same is true of saints.
It is precisely because of the saint that he puts others before himself, humbly retreats without fighting, but wins the hearts of the people and gains status.
Selfish people will complain and shirk their responsibilities when they encounter problems, and it is often difficult to make a profit;
People who are altruistic and beneficial to the people will be humble and considerate of others when encountering problems, and often achieve something.
Altruistic people are optimistic, transparent, open-minded, and positive, and will think about everything for the better.
As the saying goes: ".Good heart, good people;Think well, do good
And only by looking down on everything can everything be good and everything can be beneficial.
Obviously, only by benefiting altruism first and then self-interest can we make the right choice, make the behavior worthwhile, and make life meaningful.
First selfless, then selfish;
Tao Te Ching, Chapter 7 says:
Therefore, heaven and earth can last for a long time, and they can live forever because they do not generate themselves
Heaven and earth do not run for themselves, do not make a living for themselves, so they can last for a long time.
The company has been in existence for a long time, and it is customer first;
The country is stable and long-lasting, and it is people-oriented;
Heaven and earth can last forever, and they are never for themselves.
The same is true of being a human being.
Only by being selfless can we become selfish.
Yes, pay first, then there is a harvest;Give first, and then you will be blessed;
Obviously, only by being selfless can we become selfish.
As Fan Zhongyan said:
The worries of the world are worried, and the joys of the world are happy
Only when the country is stable can there be a family, wealth, fame, fortune and people.
The world is strife, or wounded, or killed, or displaced.
Therefore, the saint does nothing, this is an indisputable dispute, and it is also selfless first, and then selfish.
It can be seen that when people are in a high position, they must do good deeds and accumulate virtues, and cross people to be good, so as to win respect and maintain their wealth and status.
As the Tao Te Ching says:
Not because of its selflessness?Therefore, it can become its own selfishness
If a person can be selfless, he can achieve himself.
For perfecting others is tantamount to perfecting oneself.
As the saying goes: those who are good will also be helpful;Those who love others will also return love.
When you become famous, you will learn to cross others, and you will cross yourself in the future
When something is achieved, a good person is kind to himself, and helping others is to help himself.
Therefore, when you have the ability, show kindness, release warmth, and pull people, and you will naturally be blessed in the future.
It can be seen that when things are done, when the position is high, and when the weight is heavy, we must be selfless in order to keep the original intention, otherwise, sooner or later, the material will be reversed, and it will be difficult to last for a long time.
You have to understand: the longevity of accidents depends on luck, attitude, and hard work;
Inevitably, it depends on the bearing, vision, and pattern.
Therefore, if you want to succeed, you must first learn to be a man;If you want things to go well, you must first be altruistic;If you want to be long-lasting, you must first be selfless, only in this way can you take the right path with righteous thoughts, get the right heart, and then be at ease, keep to yourself, and stay first.