They always say that good men are hard to find, but there is no shortage of good men in the world.
They are gentle gentlemen, responsible companions, kind and considerate.
They could be the young man next door, a hard-working employee, or a late-night reader who has returned home late.
But a rather puzzling phenomenon often happens - good men always seem to be not cherished by women.
Why is such a phenomenon so widespread?The answer may be more complicated than it seems.
First, traditional gender roles often define how a man should be "good."
Cultural conventions tell us that men should be strong, independent, and at the same time not show affection.
However, modern society has gradually recognized the expression of emotions, and perception and empathy are increasingly regarded as important communicative skills.
But unfortunately, when looking for a partner, many women are still unconsciously influenced by traditional concepts, favoring those who are rigid and typical "manly", and ignoring those good men who know how to care and express their feelings.
Their kindness and gentleness ironically became the reason why they were not cherished.
Secondly, ** and pop culture often reveals the image of bad men.
The popular "bad boys" in movies, the stubborn protagonists in the literary scene, and the rock stars who sing provocative melodies on the stage have a subtle influence on people's view of love to a certain extent.
For some women, bad men seem to represent adventure, excitement, and irresistible glamour.
And the steadiness and decency of a good man are not so eye-catching, and it is difficult to become the focus of attention.
Then, a good man in reality may also lack confidence and charm in the love market.
They may be comfortable in other aspects of their lives, but show excessive humility and even self-deprecation when pursuing their passions.
This behaviour is often misinterpreted as a lack of self-confidence or lack of strength, which is a key element in attracting women.
Their goodness is sometimes silent and gentle beyond people's perception.
What's more, good men are often determined by a relationship, but in early relationships, they do not easily show the desire and passion to pursue, and are afraid that too strong emotions will scare each other.
However, what many women seek in love is a clear and strong sense of pursuit.
Sometimes, just the right amount of aggressiveness is the catalyst for love to develop, and good men may invest too little in it.
Even so, the fact that good men are not cherished does not mean that they do not change themselves just to meet the expectations of some women.
In love, it should be the mutual attraction between personality and personality.
The good attributes of a good man — loyalty, stability, depth of involvement in the relationship — are all the building blocks needed for a long-term relationship.
In this world, everyone has the right to be truly known and cherished.
A good man may not be discovered for a while, but he will eventually meet a partner who really knows the goods.
Their kindness, steadiness, unhurried outlook on love, as well as their care and commitment, will eventually shine in the eyes of those who know how to appreciate them.
As a result, their goodness will no longer be an unseen landscape, but a beautiful and lasting expression of true feelings in this world.