My name is Lin Hao and I live in a small town. Our family has been farming for generations, and although the family background is average, the family is harmonious and lives peacefully. Since I was a child, my parents taught me to be kind and honest with others. However, they also often tell me that "two neighbors don't make friends, and relatives don't leave", which is not superstition, but a talk of life experience.
Everyone in our town knows that Uncle Zhang and Li Bo have been neighbors for many years. Uncle Zhang is loyal and honest, while Li Bo is a narrow-minded person. Although the two families have been adjacent for many years, their relationship has been lukewarm. There is no other reason, but because Li Bo always suspects that Uncle Zhang's family will occupy his family's land and rob his family's water. He often finds fault and stirs up trouble. Although Uncle Zhang has been tolerating, finally once, the two had a big fight, and since then they have been married.
My parents once told me to be careful when dealing with my neighbors. Don't be too close, and don't be too distant. Keeping the right distance is the key to maintaining a long-lasting relationship. Therefore, when choosing a neighbor, I pay special attention to their character and conduct. If I find that they are narrow-minded and fond of fighting, I will choose to stay away.
Interaction between relatives is also a science. I have three cousins: Da Ming, Xiao Ming, and Xiao Qiang. Da Ming is upright, Xiao Ming is shrewd and flexible, and Xiao Qiang is a little selfish. Although we used to grow up together, I found that our personalities were getting more and more different as time went on.
Once, Xiaoqiang betrayed our friendship for his own benefit. He secretly told my secret to others, which caused me to fall into an embarrassing situation. Although Da Ming and Xiao Ming didn't say anything, I understand that the relationship between some relatives is destined to be difficult to maintain.
My parents told me that "relatives don't leave" refers to three kinds of relatives who can't go: one is selfish and disregards family affection;The second is those who are not right-minded and play with right and wrong;The third is ruthless, unrighteous and treacherous. Associating with such relatives is not only unhelpful, but harmful.
After these experiences, I have better understood the truth of "neighbors don't make friends, relatives don't leave". This is not a superstition, but a summary of life experience. To get along with people, you need to observe and feel with your heart. Only by understanding the character and conduct of the other person can the relationship be better maintained. At the same time, we must also learn to maintain an appropriate distance and not get too close or distant.
In my dealings with people, I also learned how to protect myself. I no longer trust people easily, and I don't reveal my secrets at will. In my dealings with my neighbours and relatives, I will always pay attention to their words and deeds, and if I find that they have bad habits or misconduct, I will choose to keep my distance to avoid being harmed.
In addition, "two neighbors don't make friends, relatives don't leave" also taught me how to deal with conflicts and disputes in interpersonal relationships. When there is a conflict with a neighbor or relative, I try to communicate calmly and seek a mutually acceptable solution. If I can't reconcile, I will choose to remain neutral and avoid getting involved in the dispute.
With the passage of time, the old adage of "neighbors don't make friends, relatives don't leave" has been deeply imprinted in my heart. I believe that this wisdom of dealing with people will stay with me for the rest of my life. Whether in the family or in society, I will keep in mind the teachings of this sentence and work hard to maintain harmonious interpersonal relationships.
In short, "neighbors don't make friends, relatives don't leave" is a kind of wisdom and experience summary of life. It teaches us how to get along with others, how to maintain relationships, how to protect ourselves. While some people think it's superstitious or outdated, it seems to me that it's very practical and realistic. It is very necessary to maintain proper distance and vigilance in interacting with people. We should observe and feel the people and things around us with our hearts, think and deal with problems rationally, do not blindly believe others, and do not believe rumors and legends, so that we can better protect ourselves and better maintain harmonious interpersonal relationships.