After Xu Banxia dated Zhao Lei for a year, he decided to enter the palace of marriage with Zhao Lei.
Xu Banxia took Zhao Lei home to meet his parents, while Xu Banxia's father, Xu Youren, asked Zhao Lei a deep question:
Did you know she was once married? ”
Zhao Lei responded with a calm attitude:
I know the name Tong Xiaoqi. ”
In the work "The Wind Blows Banxia", Xu Banxia's first marriage has become a deep scar in her heart, and no one dares to mention it easily, because this unsatisfactory marriage caused the three of them to pay a heavy price for it.
Xu Banxia's deep pain in his heart.
Many years ago, Wang Quan was discovered by Xu Banxia because of his cheating and had an improper relationship with him, but the violence against Xu Banxia in Wang Quan's family has become commonplace.
In that era, Xu Banxia was not called "Mr. Xu". She's just an ordinary, often scrapped young woman. She treated Wang Quan wholeheartedly, and after earning some money, she even bought him new clothes. But when she returned home, she found that Wang Quan was intimacy with other women.
Wang Quan took violent measures against Xu Banxia, and Tong Xiaoqi, with the determination to protect Xu Banxia, kicked Wang Quan hard in an emergency.
In the work "The Wind Blows in the Summer", Tong Xiao's foot injured Wang Quan's lower body, causing Wang Quan to suffer a disability.
Wang Quan was sentenced to five years in prison because of an unbearable extramarital affair, which led to the "sexually impotent" Tong Xiaoqi, which also brought deep psychological trauma to Xu Banxia.
Although Xu Banxia decisively ended her marriage with Wang Quan, she did not dare to devote herself wholeheartedly in her new relationship, and even if she met Zhao Lei, who loved her deeply, she never had the courage to take that crucial step.
Xu Banxia's trust in a person is almost impossible, and Wang Quan's infidelity has become a thorn in her heart. She believes that once she encounters emotional trouble, her life will be full of tragedy.
Only when Zhao Lei resolutely chose Xu Banxia through practical actions did Xu Banxia have the idea of getting married again.
Just as Xu Banxia and Zhao Lei were about to enter the palace of marriage, Wang Quan suddenly returned.
Wang Quan's revenge operation.
After Wang Quan divorced Xu Banxia, he had to rely on taxis to make ends meet. Due to urinary incontinence, Wang Quan had to use a urinary catheter to connect to a plastic bottle, and this physical incompleteness distorted his psyche.
Wang Quan learned about Xu Banxia's recent situation, and learned the news of her remarriage, he even knew Xu Banxia's address, he wanted to take revenge on Xu Banxia, and settle the old account of "Tong Xiao riding that foot" with Xu Banxia.
Xu Banxia and Tong Xiao rode 100,000 yuan to find Wang Quan, Xu Banxia wanted to use the money to compensate Wang Quan, but Wang Quan said angrily
From the moment I was kicked, I couldn't hold back the urge to pee anymore. I need to have a plastic bucket in my car so that I can conveniently use it anytime and anywhere. I didn't dare to drink water every day, and sometimes I couldn't even bring a urine bucket, so I had to go and buy a diaper.
When I'm driving a taxi, you can't even change diapers and my crotch is rotting. You say, you're going to buy me a diaper! As a result, I couldn't go to the bathroom either. You say, can you make more money this way? You mentioned, then, how should you compensate? You say, I'm a very clean person. ”
Wang Quan resolutely refused to accept Xu Banxia's money, he believed that Xu Banxia ruined his entire life, which money could not compensate, and what he pursued was to let Xu Banxia live in hell with him.
Wang Quan seeks revenge on Xu Banxia because of her thriving business, wealth and fame, which makes her the center of attention, while he lives a humiliating life like an ant. Compared with Xu Banxia, Wang Quan's mentality has obviously become unbalanced.
Wang Quan's jealousy of Xu Banxia reached a crazy level, and he glared at her angrily
Mr. Xu, your business is really successful, I heard that you are about to enter the palace of marriage again, right? As long as you're happy, my heart will be uneasy. I came back this time to get revenge on you! ”
Xu Banxia still has the possibility of entering marriage again, and the injured Wang Quan has lost the love that is completely integrated with her heart, and has experienced nine years of ruthless and unrighteous days, which is deeply depressed by Wang Quan.
In the depths of Wang Quan's heart, embarrassment and pressure gradually accumulated, turning into deep hatred. He urgently needs an emotional outlet and puts all the blame on Xu Banxia, which is also the way Wang Quan has been looking for to release his emotions.
In fact, Wang Quan understands very well that he has borne a huge responsibility in the past events. If it weren't for the fact that he betrayed his marriage and also took action against Xu Banxia, Tong Xiaoqi would not have kicked him.
Wang Quan, a person with an extreme mentality, is no longer willing to face the truth in order to make himself feel comfortable. Therefore, he followed Xu Banxia at night, causing Xu Banxia to suffer from brain ** and be sent to the hospital.
When Xu Banxia woke up, Zhao Lei told her that he wanted Wang Quan to pay for it, but Xu Banxia responded to Zhao Lei that she did not plan to file a lawsuit against Wang Quan again.
Xu Banxia not only forgave Wang Quan, but also handed him a bank card. Wang Quan wept bitterly outside the gates of the detention center, but Xu Banxia succeeded in "reforming" him and dissipating the resentment he had accumulated over the years.
In the work "The Wind Blows Banxia", Wang Quan failed to understand until the end of the story, and Xu Banxia chose to take the initiative to reach a "reconciliation" with him. But in fact, this is Xu Banxia's most cruel strategy to him, and his "overture" is actually his witty "killing four birds with one stone".
The strategy adopted by Xu Banxia.
Wang Quan was imprisoned in the detention center for a whole month, and Xu Banxia decided not to file any more lawsuits against Wang Quan, so Wang Quan was released from the detention center, and Xu Banxia went to visit Wang Quan with Zhao Lei.
Xu Banxia's dress looked a little vicissitudes, and she sat in a wheelchair and said to Wang Quan:
Can all these things be over? Wang Quan, it was a mistake for me to marry you ten years ago, and there are both your faults and mine's faults. I hurt you before, and you hurt me now, and all the legal responsibilities you should bear have been borne as well. We should reconcile, right? I hope we can all let go of the past and start over. ”
Xu Banxia's sincere confession this time accurately touched Wang Quan's weakness.
After Wang Quan fought Xu Banxia, the dissatisfaction in his heart had been alleviated by more than half, and Xu Banxia's humble attitude made Wang Quan gradually let down his guard.
It is worth noting that when Xu Banxia was hospitalized, the doctor diagnosed it as "mild brain **" However, Xu Banxia came up to Wang Quan in a wheelchair, the purpose was to make Wang Quan mistakenly think that her actions were too harsh, which brought serious physical harm to Xu Banxia.
Wang Quan's affectionate pursuit of Xu Banxia stems from his extreme envy and jealousy of Xu Banxia's career, and he knows that if he had known that Xu Banxia would achieve such brilliant achievements, he would never have had any dealings with other women back then.
Wang Quan's hostility towards Xu Banxia actually hid his regrets.
The more arrogant and superior Xu Banxia's attitude in front of Wang Quan, the more unbalanced Wang Quan's mentality becomes. Xu Banxia knew this very well, so she chose to sit in a wheelchair and face Wang Quan weakly.
Xu Banxia handed Wang Quan a bank card and said that he would transfer money every month to support him and his adopted child's daily life.
Xu Banxia's strategy is really ingenious, she uses the least amount of money to achieve the best effect, which is more economical than giving Wang Quan 100,000 yuan at one time.
Wang Quan depends on taxis for his livelihood, and he has to live in the most dilapidated country house in the city. Although he was not ostensibly in it for money, he had to face the fact that Wang Quan was indeed in great need of money.
Xu Banxia will subsidize every month, and will not give Wang Quan too much, this is the so-called boiled frog in warm water, so that Wang Quan can live a down-to-earth life, and Xu Banxia's monthly payment will gradually consume Wang Quan's ambition.
Wang Quan no longer had too high expectations, so that he would not feel inferior because of his illness, and he would no longer trouble Xu Banxia.
Xu Banxia has made it clear many times that she knows that Wang Quan has adopted children, and the purpose is to hope that Wang Quan can return home and raise them wholeheartedly. Wang Quan's ability to succeed*** shows his deep expectations for his family. Therefore, Xu Banxia's use of the emotional card must be fruitful.
Xu Banxia expressed his views to Wang Quan:
Please accept this card and live each day well, your life goes on, and you must take care of yourself. ”
Xu Banxia completely destroyed Wang Quan's psychological defense, and when Xu Banxia left, Wang Quan couldn't control his emotions and cried loudly.
Wang Quan burst into tears, which was not only a catharsis of his emotions, but also a sense of guilt and self-blame for himself, which symbolized that he had finally let go of the tragedy nine years ago, and also let go of the grievances with Xu Banxia.
Xu Banxia's creation of "four eagles with one stone".
Xu Banxia carefully presented an emotional drama of "reconciliation" in front of Wang Quan, and there was a deeper intention hidden behind Xu Banxia.
First of all, Xu Banxia decided not to file a lawsuit against Wang Quan, because even if Wang Quan was imprisoned, he would be re-released, so that Wang Quan's temper might become more irritable, which undoubtedly brought him a huge potential risk.
In order to stabilize Wang Quan, the most effective way for Xu Banxia to have a pleasant conversation with Wang Quan and move him.
Secondly, Xu Banxia not only made up for Wang Quan's mistakes, but also eliminated the guilt in her heart. Wang Quan's cheating behavior back then was indeed problematic, but he didn't pay too much for it.
The third point is that Xu Banxia released Wang Quan and provided Zhao Lei with a reassuring heart. If Xu Banxia will repay his predecessor, Zhao Lei will definitely be wary of Xu Banxia. However, Xu Banxia's tolerance only strengthened Zhao Lei's determination to marry her.
After Wang Quan left, Zhao Lei accepted the "premarital property notarization" proposed by Xu Banxia, which showed that Zhao Lei couldn't wait to marry Xu Banxia.
Fourth, Tong Xiaoqi was imprisoned for five years to protect Xu Banxia. Xu Banxia and Wang Quan both let go of their past grievances, and Xu Banxia blamed himself for all the harm done to Wang Quan, while also protecting Tong Xiaoqi and further consolidating his loyalty.
The real situation behind Wang Quan and Xu Banxia's divorce.
In the work "The Wind Blows Banxia", Wang Quan and Xu Banxia have experienced nine years of separation, Wang Quan's life seems to have regressed, and Xu Banxia is no longer the innocent girl who sells scrap.
Xu Banxia's vision and strategy have greatly exceeded the festival.
Only by seeing the differences between the couple can we understand why Wang Quan cheated back then.
From Wang Quan's point of view, he didn't see Xu Banxia's excellence, but focused his attention on **. He married a good woman but didn't value her, and he didn't know how to follow Xu Banxia's growth and progress. Therefore, the marital relationship between the two is bound to have problems.
There's a saying that's very well said:
The bond in marriage is not just about children or money, but more importantly about the mutual progress of both parties on a spiritual level. A harmonious marriage, in addition to deep love, also requires sincere friendship, consistent tacit understanding and deep affection. ”
Wang Quan, a short-sighted person, is not worthy of Xu Banxia, and for Xu Banxia, his betrayal is actually a sign of luck.
Wang Quan's marriage to Xu Banxia happened at an inopportune time, as they met an inappropriate partner. Xu Banxia chose to marry Zhao Lei, which truly reflects the evenly matched and spiritually matched relationship between them.
Wang Quan eventually had to rely on his ex-wife's handouts to make ends meet, all of which was the result of his own suffering. When he saw the situation after Xu Banxia's success, he realized what he had missed, but unfortunately he had been eliminated.