My name is Li Mei, I am 28 years old this year, and I have been married to my husband Wang Qiang for 3 years. At the beginning of marriage, life was quite harmonious, but the relationship between my husband and me has become more and more stiff over the past year.
Wang Qiang's personality is relatively lazy and a little selfish, always thinking about how to live a more comfortable life. As for me, I am more traditional, and I always want to be filial to my husband and family. Now my husband wants me to buy a car for his aunt, which is too much.
One day, my husband suddenly said to me: "Daughter-in-law, if you don't buy a car for my sister-in-law, I won't go home." ”
I asked him in surprise, "Buy a car?".Why did you suddenly say you were going to buy a car for your aunt?”
The husband said impatiently: "She has always wanted a car, you buy it for her, otherwise, I will go back to live with her." ”
Before I could react, my husband threw the door and left.
I was shocked that my husband had never mentioned that he wanted me to buy a car for his aunt before.
I chased out the door, grabbed my husband who was about to leave, and asked anxiously: "Husband, why have you never mentioned this car purchase?"Our financial conditions are limited, and buying a car is too heavy a burden for us. ”
The husband said impatiently: "What's the burden, it's your responsibility to make money to support your family, didn't you agree when you first got married?"My aunt said last time that her car is old and she has always wanted to change to a new one, so you can fulfill her little wish, is it difficult?”
I felt very uncomfortable, when we first got married, we really promised to support each other, but buying a car for my husband's aunt was really beyond my ability. I'm also afraid that my husband will leave when he says go, after all, he has a precedent of going back to his parents' house before.
I rubbed my forehead in thought, my mind raced. Seeing that I didn't answer, my husband paced back and forth impatiently, looking restless.
My husband clasps his hands to his chest, and he has a proud look that you must meet my requirements. I felt very bad in my heart, and I couldn't hide the loss on my face.
Husband: "I'm leaving, let me know when the car is bought." ”
Me: "Wait, won't you discuss it with me again?"”
Husband: "It's not negotiable, I'll do what I say." ”
Me: "But we're still talking about it, and you're leaving?"I need time to think about it. ”
Husband: "What are you considering?".I've made it very clear, if you don't agree to my request, I'll go back to my mother's house, and you can't stop me. ”
I hurried to the door in three steps and two steps, and stopped my husband who was about to go out.
My husband looked at me in amazement, as if he didn't expect me to stop him. I made up my mind, put on a resolute expression, looked into my husband's eyes and said, "Okay, you go, I'll help you pack your luggage." ”
Me: "I mean it very clearly, if I have to buy a car to keep you, then you can go." ”
Husband: "You ruthless woman, how can you do this to your husband?".”
Me: "I'm your wife, too, not a servant for you to call around!"I have my own problems, and you should think about me too. ”
I prayed in my heart that my husband would realize the seriousness of the problem. I didn't want to divorce him, but his attitude was hard for me to accept.
My husband's face was ugly, he threw his luggage on the ground fiercely, and turned around to leave.
I didn't expect my husband to really leave, and I felt very uncomfortable, but I still pretended to be strong and watched him leave.
A few days later, my husband called** and said that he wanted to come back. I calmly asked him, "Have you figured it out?"You can't keep threatening me with running away from home. ”
My husband said guiltily: "I'm sorry, I was wrong, I shouldn't have put pressure on you." Let's sit down and have a good talk. ”
I said, "Then come back, let's talk face to face." ”
Listening to my husband's tone soften, I was also relieved. We really need to communicate well with each other to solve this problem.
After hanging up**, I started cleaning the room and getting ready to welcome my husband home.
The husband soon returned, and he had an apologetic look on his face. I put down what I was doing and sat down with my husband to discuss the matter.
The husband is no longer the arrogant appearance he used to be, he reflects on his attitude, takes the initiative to admit his mistakes, and his expression reveals sincere apologies. I no longer blindly obeyed, but put forward my own ideas, and the two of us were finally able to communicate on an equal footing.
I said, "Husband, I understand your aunt's feelings about wanting a new car, but we really can't afford it now, and the cost is too great." ”
The husband said: "You're right, we still have a mortgage and living expenses to pay, I shouldn't force you." I'm sorry. ”
I said, "I'm glad you understand me." As long as we can discuss and solve problems together, there is no hurdle that cannot be overcome. ”
My husband nodded and took my hand.
We talked for a long time, and my husband said that he would discuss it with my aunt and would not unilaterally pressure me again. I also expressed my own difficulties, but I am also happy to take proper care of his family in the future.
The husband said: "Daughter-in-law, the relationship between our husband and wife is the most precious, I can't just think about myself and my aunt and ignore your feelings." I promise that when I encounter such a thing in the future, I will definitely discuss it with you, and I will not force you. ”
I said, "As long as you can respect me, we can slowly understand each other and solve problems." After this incident, I also have to reflect on where I can be more considerate of you. ”
After this period of calm reflection, I realized that a marriage can only last if we understand each other and live together, rather than pleasing our family unilaterally. My husband has figured this out as well, and I'm sure our relationship will become stronger.
My husband put his arm around my shoulders with a smile on his face. I was touched by his willingness to admit his mistakes, and his candor. I also held his hand tightly and felt like we were one step closer.
My husband looked at me tenderly at this time, and his eyes revealed a deep sense of guilt and love. I also nodded lightly to show that I forgave him and believed in our future. At this moment, I saw a happy expression on his face.