My name is Li Xiaofang, I am 25 years old this year, and I am a post-90s girl who has just entered the society. After graduating from university, I rented a small house to live and work in the city. As someone who values personal space and alone time, I really enjoyed living alone in the beginning.
I hurriedly relieved: "Mom, you and Dad, don't worry, the community I live in is very safe, and there are security guards patrolling downstairs 24 hours a day." My route home from work every day is also very regular, so you don't have to worry about my safety. ”
Of course I trust you, baby is a good girl. It's just that you live alone, what if you encounter something urgent and no one helps?"Mom is nagging on the other end of the **.
I hurriedly found a reason: "Mom, I have you and Dad's *** here, you can call ** immediately if you are in a hurry." Besides, my colleagues and friends all live nearby, we all have a good relationship, and I have made a large group of friends who can be trusted, and I will not be in danger. ”
However, my lie did not fully convince my parents. A week later, I received a message from my mother, who introduced me to a cousin, Wang Xiaoming, and asked the two of us to live together in the city and take care of each other. I was actually reluctant to share a room with others, but for the sake of my family, I agreed.
He put down the box and laughed: "It's only been a long time since I saw you, cousin, you have become the tone of the eldest sister!."I'm not just out of society, I'm just a good age to grow up!”
I looked at him with a smile and said that my cousin was indeed a lot more mature and reliable. In this way, I can also take care of my life, and my parents can rest assured that this arrangement is not bad.
In the first week or so of living together, I felt that Wang Xiaoming was a very good person and took good care of my daily life. Every day before I go to work, he prepares a simple breakfastWhen I come home from work at night, I often see him buying vegetables and cooking homely meals.
For example, when I woke up one morning, I saw that the milk, eggs, and bread were already on the table. I hurriedly thanked: "Oh, my cousin's breakfast is ready, thank you so much!".”
He was pouring the coffee into the cup and said with a smile: "This is all the right cousin, you can have breakfast, I just bought this bread this morning, it's super fresh!".”
But the good times didn't last long. After spending a long time together, some bad Xi that I couldn't stand were exposed. I originally thought that my cousin would be like me, a person with a regular daily routine. However, he slept until he woke up naturally during the day, and at night he played games and watched movies until the early hours of the morning. In addition to such a chaotic routine, he has very low requirements for life, and his room, kitchen and bathroom are almost everywhere dirty and messy.
I couldn't help but remind, "Cousin, you played the game so late, you should clean up, right?"Look at the mess in your room. ”
He didn't look back: "I know, cousin, you go to sleep first, I'll clean up soon!."”
I couldn't bear it anymore, so I cleaned up the living room and kitchen, knocked on my cousin's door, and shouted: "Wang Xiaoming, it's already ten o'clock, don't you get up yet?"It's all at this point, and I don't clean up!”
I pushed the door open and said to him solemnly: "Xiao Ming, I know that you are a free and loose character, but when two people live together, they must establish some rules of life. At the very least, you should wake up and go to bed at a fixed time, and keep your room tidy. ”
Gradually, these incongruous Xi of life led to many quarrels between us. For example, when I go to work during the day, I need to go to bed early and get up early to ensure eight hours of sleepHe stayed up all night, and the sound of playing games and watching ** made it difficult for me to sleep. Another example is that he has three random meals, and after eating, he throws dirty dishes in the sink and lets them pile up;I came home from work and couldn't bear to see these messes.
One night, I came home from overtime again and as soon as I opened the door, I smelled a foul smell. I walked to the kitchen and saw that the dirty dishes in the sink were piling up, and the bottom few were already green moldI couldn't stand it, so I immediately got gloves and thoroughly cleaned the sink and cleaned all the dirty dishes. Just as I was washing the dishes, my cousin staggered out of the room, and I couldn't help but explode: "Wang Xiaoming!."Your plate has been growing in the sink for a week, and I can't stand it!You're a big man, why can't you even clean up your own things?”
He said nonchalantly, "Oh cousin, it's just a few plates, don't be nervous." I've been busy with work lately, and I'm a bit too lazy to clean up my house. ”
I was angry: "I've always been putting up with your messy life Xi, how can you take it for granted?"We said we would establish a regular life!”
Okay, cousin, don't be angry," he smiled, "I'll clean up the kitchen, okay?"”
I was so angry with him that I was speechless. The following week, I was cynical and completely devoid of the friendliness I had when we first met. I began to question myself how my cousin, who had been in a small coat to reach out for food and open his mouth, could develop such a sloppy and casual Xi of life. At first, I also tactfully reminded him a few times, hoping that he would change his routine and clean up his mess. But he didn't seem to care about my bitterness, and continued to do his own thing.
Cousin, it's been a year since you graduated, how are you going to arrange your job search?"One day at the dinner table, I couldn't help but speak.
Alas, let's not be in a hurry to find it yet. "I want to rest for a while and gain some knowledge." ”
I put down the dishes and chopsticks and said solemnly, "Xiao Ming, you can't just hang around at home all day with nothing to do. Youth will not stay forever, and when it is time to forge ahead, you must plan your life well. ”
Cousin, don't keep preaching," he said impatiently, "I naturally have my own plans, and I don't need you to point fingers." ”
Hearing him make such an unreasonable fuss, I could only shake my head and sigh. He is such a big person, he doesn't worry about his future and fate, and I can't help it as an outsider.
I woke up early that day and slept only 5 hours in order to work overtime to catch up with the schedule. In the morning, I looked a little haggard, but I still got up on time to wash up and prepare simple cereal and milk for breakfast. Just as I was gobbling up and eating, my cousin Wang Xiaoming slowly shook out of the room.
I ignored him and ate to myself, ready to go out early. Who knew that he suddenly came to say: "Hey, this cereal looks unpalatable, why do you eat this every day?"I put down the spoon suddenly, and the anger that I had suppressed for a week finally exploded: "Wang Xiaoming, are you finished?".I can't sleep well all night long, I don't know how to clean up my room early, and I criticize me every day!”
What kind of attitude do you have!I'm still your cousin!"He seemed to be irritated by me as well.
What's so great about cousin?Sharing a house is a business activity, I pay for you to contribute, have you fulfilled the responsibilities of a roommate this month?"I didn't flinch and was determined to reason with him to the end.
Thinking of this, my heart immediately softened. Actually, my cousin usually treats me very well, but there are some problems with Xi habits and routine. This big quarrel may be a misunderstanding, and I shouldn't blame him so excitedly, but I should sit down and communicate slowly. Coupled with the exhaustion of the day's work, I decided to go home after work and discuss with my cousin. We're all adults, and there's always a way to find a way to get along that is acceptable to both of us.
I got home from work early that day and apologized for buying my cousin's favorite Kung Pao Chicken. My cousin was also a little ashamed, and took the initiative to greet me: "Cousin, it's my fault that I made such a big noise this morning, don't be angry with me, okay?"”
I hurriedly waved my hand: "I'm also at fault, I shouldn't have quarreled with you." Let's talk better than anything else. ”
That's what it looks like!To get along is to communicate more, not to fight because of some small problems. This incident taught me that the most precious thing between adults is mutual respect and understanding.