As with effective customer management, the key is always to lower their expectations.
The key to effective relationship management is the same: the less expectation, the better the harmony with each other.
Because desire itself is an unpleasant experience, even mild anticipation is somewhat less comfortable.
Unless the reward we can give is really big, the more we expect from each other, the greater the disappointment.
All emotions in this world must be vented, including disappointment. There is nothing willpower can do to stop this process.
Because as soon as the idea of doing a certain behavior arises, a voltage accumulates between the two neurons, ready to be discharged. Unless the act is complete, the voltage will accumulate there all the time.
This process is also known as the Tsai effect.
Indeed, willpower allows a person to temporarily follow the basic rules of intercourse between people. But the accumulated voltage will make it look for other ways to satisfy itself.
For example, people tend to eat big meals when they are disappointed, or more often, to vent negative emotions on others – a top-to-bottom transmission path that is common in pyramidal social structures.
Or, worst of all, the venting of emotions has not been satisfied, so it becomes a torrent of a person's subconscious, inadvertently influencing his behavior.
Lust can be exciting, not joyful. People just mistake this excitement for happiness.
It's easy to awaken people's desires. To bring this false happiness to the other person, it is enough to make some kind of hint or promise.
But everyone has to pay for shortcuts.
If unfulfilled expectations are always associated with the person who awakens the expectation, the excitement will turn into disgust for the person.
Because the human neural chain can be initially formed after three complete behaviors.
It would be better to have a different relationship.
Like who, although it is not irritating and makes people have no desire to experience it, they will feel comfortable for a longer time after drinking it.
And in this regard, willpower can indeed be effective. It is to have less hints and promises and more tangible actions with each other.
Don't think about how good tomorrow will be, just look at what we have to do right now, how we can really take responsibility for each other.
It's not exciting.
But a reliable and comfortable relationship is always not about excitement.
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