Regardless of whether your pension is high or not, in your old age, beware of this person
Later life is as inextricably linked as it is financial and family relationships.
has a certain economic foundation, but lacks harmony with family members, and may face the problem of loneliness and old age in old age. However, if the family relationship is harmonious, but there is a lack of sufficient financial support, it is very likely to become a "poor couple".
Even more unfortunate, family relationships are strained, economic conditions are poor, and in old age may not only be a problem of loneliness, but may also face a situation of "difficult life".
Nowadays, when it comes to retirement, the first thing that comes to mind is pension. However, in reality, for the average person, pensions are not crucial.
Imagine if you don't have a certain amount of savings, and just rely on those few thousand pensions to support your old age, does it really make sense?Frankly, a lack of savings, a lack of income, and strained relationships with family can make it much harder to make ends meet.
The heavy burden of old age often stems from the problems of children, this is the voice of an old man.
The old couple, Uncle Chen and his wife, are both retired workers, and their combined pension is as high as **1,000. It should be enough to sustain them, but the reality is full of uncertainties.
The son did not hesitate to use his parents' savings in order to get married, buy a car and buy a house. Once the son started a family and had children, they began to use their parents' pensions.
The daughter-in-law persuaded her husband: Your parents' money is also yours, we are living in a difficult situation now, why not use their pension to help us and our offspring?
After listening to his wife's words, the son became more and more unscrupulous. At first, he only asked for 5,000 yuan, leaving only three or four thousand for his parents to support their parents. Gradually, he asked his parents if they could give him the pension passbook for safekeeping.
Uncle Chen and his wife listened to their son's request and were conflicted. On the one hand, how can he take his parents' pension after he has already used his savings for his son's car and house purchase?On the other hand, after all, his son is his own flesh and blood, how can he bear to let him get into trouble?
After some hesitation, Uncle Chen and his wife finally handed over the pension passbook to their son. Today, they can barely make ends meet every month, and their lives have become struggling, which is embarrassing.
Is the relationship between Uncle Chen's wife and his son good or tense?At first glance, the parents are kind and the sons are filial;But in reality, the son seems to just use his parents as an ATM.
Right now,"Gnaw the old"The phenomenon is becoming more prevalent, and many parents are complaining that their children in the past were not as openly dependent on their parents as they are now, and they wonder why modern children care so ruthlessly for their parents.
This is an era of the supremacy of money. For the sake of wealth, people may give up feelings, fate, and even family. In this society, people flock to it for personal gain.
There is a question worth pondering for parents, whether they should put their money into helping their children buy a house and make their career successful. However, many parents who did this a few years ago now mostly regret it.
The reason for regret is simple, not only did they spend all their savings and lose a lot of money for their children, but they also developed the habit of dependence on their children. Once this habit is formed, parents will continue to be oppressed by their children.
Today, the parents have spent all their savings. Tomorrow, the children may continue to claim their pensions. No matter how generous the parents' pension is, it is just an ATM for their children.
In a high-pressure and materialistic environment, parents may lose a good old age, and children may also lose their filial piety.
Regardless of the size of your pension, you should beware of children who may become overly dependent on their parents in later years.
Moderate dependence on parents is not a big problem, but the problem is not to rely too much. Taking parents with 1 million as an example, moderate dependence means that the children take 500,000 yuan and still leave 500,000 yuan to their parents. This is a relatively reasonable way.
If the child not only takes away 1 million from his parents, but also asks for a monthly pension, this is overdependence. Such behavior can seriously affect the quality of life of parents in their later years.
There is an eldest sister who is one such example, because her husband died young, she pinned all her trust on her only son. When she just retired, the eldest sister transferred all the real estate in her name to her son, and at the same time handed over the pension passbook to him. She naively believed that her son would make her happy and healthy in her old age.
The relationship between the daughter-in-law and the eldest sister is not good, and she has been playing right and wrong, which leads to conflicts between the son and the mother. Nowadays, the elderly have become free nannies, not only losing their property and savings, but also often receiving the white eyes of their sons and couples.
This is exactly the so-called "human affection is like water, and the world is like a cloud." ”
There is an old proverb in Guangdong: "Your own children may not be as close as the money around you." "Although biological children are related to each other, they can betray their parents. In contrast, while money is cold, it is definitely not unfaithful to the owner.
In order to maintain family ties and ensure peace in old age, we must keep a firm grasp of our property, possessions and pensions. Take your wealth into your own hands, and instead of giving it to others, you should take it yourself.
When wealth is in their own hands, children will be afraid of money, and will be more willing to be filial to their parents and maintain family harmony. However, once the property is not in their own hands but is transferred to their children, they may not have much scruples. This is exactly the portrayal of real human nature.