In traditional Chinese culture, the family has always been regarded as the most important social unit, and family relationships are also regarded as an important foundation for personal growth and happiness. Therefore, maintaining family harmony and stability has become an important responsibility of every family member. In this context, family ugliness should not be publicized, which has become an important value in traditional Chinese culture.
Family ugliness should not be publicized, which means that family members should not tell the outside world about conflicts and problems within the family, especially in front of relatives and friends. This is because family problems often involve personal relationships and emotions between family members, which, if known to the outside world, may cause unnecessary speculation and misunderstanding, further exacerbate family conflicts, and even lead to the breakdown of family relationships.
However, in real life, some family members do not know how to properly handle family conflicts, and may even amplify family conflicts because of emotional agitation or personal interests. Not only is this detrimental to family harmony and stability, but it can also cause permanent damage to trust and affection between family members.
Professor Tsang Sze-keung is a well-known management scientist and family education expert, and he has emphasized on many occasions the importance of family ugliness not being publicized. He believes that family members should learn to properly handle family conflicts, especially the following three kinds of family ugliness, which would rather rot in the stomach than say:
The first type of family ugliness: conflicts and dissatisfaction between family members.
It is very normal for family members to inevitably have conflicts and dissatisfaction. However, if these conflicts and grievances are known to the outside world, they may cause unnecessary speculation and misunderstanding, further exacerbating family conflicts. Therefore, family members should learn to properly deal with these conflicts and grievances and avoid escalating them as much as possible.
Professor Tsang suggested that when there is conflict and dissatisfaction between family members, the following measures should be taken:
1.Communicate privately: Family members should communicate privately with each other to get to know each other's thoughts and feelings as much as possible. In the process of communication, you should avoid using excessive words and tones, and instead solve problems with a calm and rational attitude.
2.Seek compromise: Compromise should be sought when conflicts arise between family members. This means that family members should learn to let go of their own obsessions and personal interests and think from the perspective of the whole family.
3.Use external forces: If conflicts between family members cannot be resolved through private communication, external forces can be used to help resolve the problem. For example, you can ask a professional psychological counselor or family counselor to help mediate conflicts.
The second type of domestic ugliness: privacy and secrecy within the family.
Every family has its own privacy and secrets, which may relate to the personal feelings, financial situation or other aspects of the family members. If these privacy and secrets are known to the outside world, it may cause harm to the relationship between family members and even affect the stability of the whole family.
Therefore, family members should learn to protect the privacy and secrets of the family and not disclose this information to the outside world. At the same time, if others try to inquire about the privacy and secrets of the family, they should firmly refuse to answer or change the subject. This avoids unnecessary troubles and losses.
The third type of family ugliness: children's education and growth problems.
Children's education and growth issues are one of the issues that every family faces. However, some parents may tell others about their child's education and development, or even talk about them in public. Doing so is not only detrimental to your child's growth and education, but it may also cause resentment and ridicule from others.
Therefore, parents should learn to properly handle their children's education and development. If these problems cannot be solved by the parents themselves, they can seek professional help. For example, you can ask a professional education counselor or counselor to help you solve your child's problems. At the same time, parents should also avoid talking about these issues in public as much as possible, so as to avoid causing resentment and ridicule from others.
In short, it is a very important value that family ugliness should not be publicized. Family members should learn to properly handle family conflicts and other problems and avoid escalating them as much as possible. At the same time, parents should also learn to protect their children's privacy and education issues and avoid talking about them in public. This can maintain the harmony and stability of the family and promote trust and affection between family members.