Who do you think is the most regrettable person in your life?
Some say it's children, some say it's parents.
Maybe in the process of getting along with each other on a daily basis, there will always be some details that we owe to our children and parents. But on the long road of life, what we regret the most is actually ourselves.
In Lu Yao's book "Ordinary World", there are two such characters.
One is He Xiulian, who chose a poor family without hesitation for love, regarded her husband as her pillar of life, had no regrets, and accompanied him in any situation.
But just when the good days came, he vomited a mouthful of blood, became ill, suffered a life, and died regretfully.
The other woman is Tian Runye, who longs for a happy love, but can't be with her beloved because of her family background.
Angry people choose to love themselves, but not themselves, and regret it after marriage, preferring to work far away from home and in other places than to stay with their husbands.
The torture full of love has been unable to let go for many years, until the husband broke his leg, and it suddenly dawned on him that the man in front of him was very good to him.
There are many other women in life, such as how Xiulian ;Rutian Runye, for the sake of family, for love, for parents, for children, pays without regrets, but never puts his feelings first.
Time is ruthless, in the blink of an eye it is a lifetime, it is true to pay for the people you care about, but don't forget to leave a kindness to yourself.
As the saying goes, if a woman is not willing to spend money, there will naturally be other women who will spend your money.
In daily life, of course, it takes to pay for loving a man, but it is also worth spending reasonable money on yourself.
Women should know how to be kind to themselves, and whenever there is a festival or season, don't be reluctant to buy clothes to wear;A bad mood may be a drink and a big meal to adjust, don't feel sorry for your other half's money and make yourself sad for too long.
Just like "Thirty", the wife who is reluctant to spend her husband's money accompanies her husband from scratch, works hard, and when her youth and beauty are gone, she becomes a yellow-faced woman, and her husband has extramarital love, even if he has invested more emotions, it is not worth talking about.
When you realize that you are the most important person in your life, you spend a lot of money on a set of jewelry and taste the happiness of the rich, but it is too late.
It may seem like a big deal, but the most precious things in life don't come back.
The lost youth and love can't be bought back with money, instead of being sad and heartbroken, it's better to treat yourself well when you still have it.
What do you want, do you want to go, within the scope of your financial ability, enjoy to achieve, the more you love yourself, there will be others to love you.
When a mother loves her child, the best thing to do is to never. Pampering and unlimited indulgence, on the contrary, can lead by example, guide the child's positive direction, cultivate the child's good habits, and let him develop integrity, kindness and good character.
In the same way, a woman who loves herself is definitely not enjoying herself, she only knows how to eat, drink and be merry, and beg for the love of men, but she always has a sense of distress and never gives up on herself at any time.
In my opinion, the best expression of a woman's love for herself is not to waste time and always focus on what is most meaningful.
Even if you are married, you should have this awareness, actively promote yourself, and do something that you can appreciate and make it easier for you to be happy.
In this life, after all, people live on their own bodies, no matter how many people come and go around them, the rudder of life is always in their own hands. Many women think that everything will be fine after marriage, and the bet of fate is placed on their partner, but the result is that the deeper the level of trust, the greater the chance of failure.
is like Luo Zijun in "The First Half of My Life", who relied on men to live a carefree life as a rich wife, and when the man decided to take it back, the whole person was immediately pushed into the abyss of no return.
Another way to understand that being kind to yourself is not to obey yourself, but to be ruthless, and you can live well no matter what life situation you are in.
There are many truths in life, which may not be understood when you experience it, and it will not suddenly wake up until after the experience.