Recently, there is a topic in Xiaohongshu that has exploded.
I want to hear the advice of my sister in her 40s for a 30-year-old girl
The sisters in the comment area really treat everyone as their own people, and they have appeared to say it.
The pits he has stepped on, the detours he has taken, and the life experience he has accumulated are unreservedly shared with the younger generations.
After watching it, I sighed:
Why didn't I see it sooner. ”
If someone had told us these real-life experiences earlier, some mistakes might have been avoided, and life would have avoided a few years of detours. ”
And this generation of young people, the main focus is to listen to persuasion.
If there is a pit in front of you, you must not step on it, and if there is a south wall in front of you, you will definitely not hit it;
There is a ready-made answer in life, and it must be a true copy.
Because, only those who have been confused understand:
At the critical moment, it would be rare for someone to point out a clear path;
Only those who have been in the middle of it know that
How lucky it must be that someone pulls a hand before falling and bleeding from the head.
Below, let's take a look at the life advice and life insights of 40+ sisters.
Remember to remind yourself that you should never answer questions and hand in papers indiscriminately, and always stay rational and sober.
@miss c ：
Married women should not spend their time and energy on meaningless parents, family relationships and relationships.
Working well is king, it's an iron law.
In life, we must learn to grasp the big and let go of the small.
Others may be unreliable, but work can be relied upon;
Men may not be able to help, but the money in their wallets can.
No matter how well you get along with the people around you, if you don't have the real earning ability and work strength, you can't win the real respect of others;
When you are very capable of working and making money, even if you do not maintain the relationship with the people around you, others will look up to you.
The so-called interpersonal relationship, the strength you have, is the best social business card.
Remember, don't give up your job and earning ability easily, this is your ** and armor to defend yourself after marriage.
Work hard and make money, this is the capital to settle down.
@miss c ：
Be cautious about fertility. At all times, you must be prepared to bear all the consequences that you can bear, so as to decide whether you will have children or not, and how many you will have.
Prudent childbearing refers to a reasonable assessment of one's child-rearing strength and resources before giving birth.
If the strength is not sufficient, please be cautious about giving birth.
Because childbearing is an irreversible process, once a child is born, it is responsible for it.
This requires not only money, but also manpower.
Therefore, before giving birth, you need to ensure that you have enough financial ability and agree on a division of labor with your childcare partner.
Make sure that your partner in marriage is a person who keeps the agreement, otherwise all plans will be classified as 0.
And even so, life is full of uncertainties.
Women who are about to become mothers need to prepare for the worst:
In the absence of the help of others, do you have the psychological preparation and financial strength to raise your children?
Although childbirth is not a woman's business alone, most of the consequences of childbirth are borne by women.
The only thing we can count on is ourselves, and this statement is not outdated at any time.
@星光灿烂:
On the premise of not violating the law, not violating morality, and ensuring health and safety, you can do whatever you want.
Life is limited in length and infinite in width, so don't leave yourself with regrets.
Some time ago, there was a popular saying:
Life is a wilderness, not a track.
Everyone's life is not a fixed template for what must be done at a certain point in time.
By the age of 30, it's okay not to get married.
It's not a big deal to get married and then divorce.
Everyone has the right to live the life they want to live without disturbing others.
Do what you want, and go for what you want.
In the end, you will understand that the meaning of life is the superposition of various experiences.
After experiencing everything, there is nothing to regret.
@冬十一:
When choosing a life partner, you don't have to love it very much, but you have to like it.
Find someone with a strong contract spirit, who will not abandon his teammates without permission, and the two of them will be able to talk, and they will not be stabbed at you.
A marriage without love is immoral, but love is by no means the whole story of marriage.
In addition to love, we should also have the most basic consideration for the selection mechanism of our partner.
You're looking for someone with a good heart. That way, even if there is a crack in the marriage, he will not hurt you;
You have to find someone who is responsible. The road to marriage is long and obstructive, and the roadblocks appear one after another, don't run away if you encounter a little difficulty.
You also need to find someone you can talk to. Only when two people have something to talk about can they live a long time, and their lives will be enjoyable.
On the subject of marriage, you must not be fooled, you must always be sober, and finding the right life partner is responsible for life.
@风光不与四时同女士:
Look inward, not outward.
Don't worry about whether your husband and children love you or not, love yourself and pay attention to your spiritual world.
Satisfy yourself first, then love others.
The psychologist Carl Jung said, "The person who looks outward is the person in the dream, and the person who looks inward is the awake person." ”
Most people spend their whole lives pursuing only the material, fame, and love of the outside world, which are all projections of inner desires.
When we stop being obsessed with seeking outwardly, but start cultivating ourselves, improving ourselves, and loving ourselves, everything you want will follow.
When the cup of your heart is full, it will overflow and pour out others;
When you stop paying attention to external evaluations, you have a stable kernel.
When you start to love yourself, the whole world will come to love you.
@大敬子:
If you don't feel like you're ordinary, work hard for your goals;
If you feel that you are just an ordinary person, then don't roll for the sake of rolling, health and happiness are the most important.
One of the most terrible things in life is that you have a misplaced perception of yourself.
Obviously he has good talents, but he doesn't do what he is good at, but he stumbles in the world he is not good at, wasting his talent in vain.
is obviously ordinary in all aspects, but he has to push himself forward desperately, not only will he gain little, but he will also be scarred.
The things that make you do so smoothly are actually your life's mission.
The levels you can't beat may just not be the right fit for your goal.
The most important thing in life is to know what you want to do in this life.
Obeying one's destiny and being self-consistent is the best way to avoid internal friction.
@zoey_0205：
You must have friends who can talk about your heart, and don't hold it in your heart when you encounter things.
Many times, it's easy to make bad decisions when you're alone.
No one is an island.
As human beings, we have families, partners, and confidants.
If you can't say something to your lover or family, you can talk to your friends. As long as you say some things, you will find that they are not a problem at all.
It is easy for a person to think about things, and it will suddenly become clear to you when multiple friends help you analyze it.
@玲玲peter和四只猫:
In this short life, all interpersonal relationships such as family, friendship, and love are all served by the beautiful experience of our journey.
Any relationship that doesn't provide a good experience can be discarded.
You are not anyone's vassal, your destination is yourself, please hold the steering wheel of destiny firmly in your hands, please explore, gallop and realize yourself to your heart's content.
Go to a higher, farther and wider world and never look back!”
If Life is a big online game, then many of the people you meet in life are NPCs (non-player control characters).
They all exist to enrich the protagonist's gaming experience.
As a player of the Life Account, you have absolute control over your life.
Anything you can do to add to your gaming experience, you can try it to your heart's content.
Whoever upsets you, invite them out of their lives.
You are the only protagonist of your own life script, don't go into the role that others have arranged for you, find the mission in your own plot, and have fun.
When you are young, you lack the wisdom and experience to deal with things, and you will inevitably take detours and fall into deep pits.
But remember: no matter how bad things you go through, no matter how dark the bottom is, don't be discouraged and disappointed, don't be confused and anxious.
You still have a lot of opportunities for trial and error.
And after the age of 30, it doesn't matter if you don't fulfill society's expectations.
Everyone has their own rhythm and time zone, and it is important to find your own pace in life.
After reading the life advice of 40+ sisters, you will find that all the truths are, in the final analysis, to teach you to learn to love yourself.
To love yourself is not to fool yourself, to be honest with yourself, to live up to yourself, and to live every moment seriously.
Loving others is like raising flowers, and we ourselves are the best florists.
Take back the energy that has been placed on others and return it to yourself.
Start cultivating yourself and watering yourself today.
I believe that in the near future, the garden of your life will be rich and fragrant.
Click[Follow]., may you listen to their reasoning and live your life well.
What real life experiences do you have that you can pass on to the younger generations, welcome to share them in the comment area.