It's the depths of winter, and the temperature is getting colder and colder.
This is a season of great patience and perseverance.
Many people gradually gave up their fitness plans due to the cold weather, and many students who frequent the library were unable to follow their study plans on time.
Lying on the bed, the more the mobile phone is swiped, the more you swipe it, the more you open your eyes to play with your mobile phone, and then have a meal and continue to play with your mobile phone until late at night, which has become the weekend norm for many people.
But if you spend the day in such a state, it will become very empty by night.
As the writer Jiang Xun said:
This pleasure can be momentarily cool, but the result is often a feeling of loneliness and emptiness, which will become an irreparable black hole.Cheap pleasures at your fingertips are ruining people's ability to plan and execute.
The more we are "gradually losing our fighting spirit in the bed", the more we must be vigilant against the harm of "cheap happiness" to our lives.
What is cheap happiness?
The definition in the entry is happiness that can be easily obtained, but does not have depth and value.
They can bring short-term stimulation and satisfaction, but they do not bring long-term personal growth and development.
Many readers and friends may complain when they see this: "Adults are working and living so hard now, sometimes they want to indulge for a while when they go home, brush up on the short**, play games, and see**, what's wrong." ”
This kind of behavior is harmless in the short term.
But if it accumulates over time, you will deeply feel its negative effects on your life.
The most obvious harm of long-term indulging in the cheap pleasure of instant gratification is that concentration is greatly reduced.
In the past, when I was in school, my classmates could still focus on homework for an hour or two, but I recently found that today's children don't know if they are affected by the short ** Internet, and their concentration is very poor.
This is especially true for adults, many people used to be able to watch a small ** in their entirety, but now they will row away if they can't be stimulated in 3 seconds, and they will drive the drama at double speed.
The decline in concentration makes people's patience slowly decline, and even the way of speaking is very "labeled".
In the past, when people saw the scenery, they would praise "this lake is so beautiful and sparkling".
Now all that remains is "absolute, it's too good, and the beauty is overturned".
In addition to this detail, what is more noticeable are the physical changes.
Endlessly scrolling through our phones hour after hour, episode after episode before going to bed, can make us ignore our physical and mental needs.
In the long run, many people become inactive, lack of sleep, depressed mood, depression and anxiety, and even lead to some chronic diseases, such as obesity, diabetes, etc.
Cheap pleasure and instant gratification dissolve the meaning of effort and self-discipline, causing us to lose purpose and self.
In order to eat a big meal, regardless of their health and weight, in order to play a game, they do not care about their studies and work.
These behaviors often trap us in a vicious cycle, where we lose self-control and rationality, and fail to realize our potential and dreams.
When people reach middle age, we should understand that true happiness requires time and patience to water.
"Cheap happiness" no matter how pleasant it is, is just a flash in the pan and does not last.
These rewards seem great, but in fact, brushing up all night will only make you sleep worse and more tired the next day, and eating too much milk tea cake will only make you fatter.
Instead of looking for these rewards, be clear about your sense of purpose.
What kind of value do you want to achieve, what kind of life do you want to live?
You can divide your goals into long-term and short-term, write them down, and check your progress and results regularly.
This gives you a clear direction and a strong motivation to do something that is really beneficial.
The next step is to adjust your living environment.
Try to avoid the factors that can induce you to indulge in cheap pleasures.
Delete some boring apps, cut down on meaningless socializing, and stay away from entertainment behaviors that eat up your time.
Reach out to the factors that motivate you to pursue high-quality pleasure.
For example, developing hobbies, learning a new language or skill, participating in a meaningful social activity, and cultivating a healthy lifestyle.
All of these can help you enrich yourself, enrich yourself, and improve yourself.
Take learning a language as an example, insist on memorizing some new words every day, listen to some foreign news, and after long-term perseverance, you will find that your language ability has been greatly improved, and you can make basic words and sentences.
These behaviors allow us to experience the charm of high-quality happiness and delayed gratification, which can be of great benefit later in life.
In fact, every small step of effort has the energy to gather sand into a tower.
They may seem insignificant, but they are the building blocks of success;It's not immediate, but it's a way to accumulate success.
And those short-term pleasures are slowly consuming people's time and devouring our energy in a silent way.
It's like a kind of poison that makes people indulge in superficial satisfaction and ignore the emptiness of the heart.
These are all pitfalls in life that require us to use wisdom and courage to see through and get rid of.
Speaking of cheap happiness, what can be called high-class happiness?
I believe that higher levels of happiness are those that bring a lasting sense of fulfillment and satisfaction that benefits both oneself and others.
This kind of happiness often requires effort, self-discipline, creativity, and dedication, rather than simply satisfying one's desire to eat, drink, and be merry.
So how to truly embrace this happiness, here are a few effective tips for your reference.
1. Divert attention.
Whether you're looking to eat, drink, or consume, you can immediately shift your goals to other healthy pastimes.
Go out for a walk, call a friend, do a lot of laundry, do anything that makes you forget about it for a while.
2. Delayed gratification.
Many times our brains are hijacked by "instant gratification", reversing our preferences.
But research shows that making the brain wait 10 minutes on a regular basis can go a long way in changing the way the brain processes rewards.
If you have to wait 10 minutes before getting instant gratification, the brain will see it as a future reward.
But within 10 minutes, you must always think of the long-term reward to resist **.
For example, when I suddenly thought of eating sweets, I endured it for 10 minutes, and I thought that if I didn't eat it, I would gain a more beautiful body.
In the long run, a calm and wise mind can help you resist more ** and boost your confidence and satisfaction.
3. Establish a healthy living order.
Many people feel that having self-control leads to a healthy lifestyle.
But in fact, this cause and effect relationship can sometimes be reversed, and if you live an unhealthy life, it will greatly affect your self-control.
If you don't get more than 6 hours of sleep a day, chronic sleep deprivation will make you more likely to feel stressed, craving, and suffered.
Many people who don't get enough sleep have a hard time controlling their emotions, concentrating, and coping with the brain's "I want" self-control challenge.
Getting a good night's sleep and meditating from time to time can not only prevent illness and stress, but also help you build your resilience and resilience.
Enjoy the relaxation and pleasure of body and mind to improve your quality of life.
In addition to this, you can also try the "Seinfeld Strategy".
The book describes,If you mark the days of your successful delay of gratification on your calendar every day, forming a continuous chain, this can greatly increase your motivation and sense of accomplishment.
I hope that everyone will not blame themselves or give up because of some mistakes and deviations on the road to abandoning cheap happiness.
Facing up to the problem, analyzing the causes, finding solutions, and readjusting one's state will always reap the benefits in the end.
In this era of advocating efficiency, we often want to satisfy our desires quickly because of the pursuit of speed.
But this kind of "cheap happiness" is false and superficial, it will only make people lazy, negative, and miss more possibilities in life.
Life is not a game, nor is it a consumption, an entertainment, but a continuous struggle, creation, and realization of value.
Let's abandon "cheap happiness" and pursue "high-quality happiness".
With your heart and wisdom, do something meaningful and valuable.
And in it, we will harvest happiness, success, happiness, return to ourselves, return to society, and return to life.
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