People who have endured great hardships are often "out of place."
As the saying goes, "only when you eat hard can you become a superior person".
But those who have suffered a lot, when they recall the past suffering, are still like frightened birds and frightened.
The days of hardship are so difficult, how many people can't hold on until they get through the way. "If you don't go through one thing, you won't grow wiser."
People who have suffered a lot are often very lonely and "out of place" with their surroundings, and they will have four different characteristics.
1. Very silent, but not lonely, has its own hobbies, does not like to talk, and is obscure.
The wise do not speak, and the speaker is not wise. ”
People are like this, the more they don't understand, the more they talk about it, but those who know everything clearly, are obscure, don't like to talk, and seem very special. Because they have suffered from "straightforward and quick talking", and have offended people, they don't know it;was even hated by others, and later got the "resistance" of others and suffered a loss. Only then did I realize it.
Wise people know very well in their hearts that they do not talk about others, they are silent or they just point to the end.
They have experienced many difficulties and setbacks, so they know how to avoid offending people or causing trouble.
They are quiet and peaceful inside, not disturbed by external changes, even if they encounter major events, they can remain calm and silent, they have had some similar difficult moments, and they have become Xi to all kinds of changes.
Although they are silent, they are not lonely in their hearts, because they will use their silence to observe others, reflect on themselves, and organize their thoughts. They have a peaceful mind, like clear water, and do not feel lonely, but enjoy such a peaceful time.
2. I like to be alone, cry secretly, and be quiet as if I don't exist.
Loneliness is not innate, but is gradually learned as you grow up.
Being alone allows them to get to know themselves more deeply. Be free from external distractions, think about the meaning and value of life, and reflect on your past and future. This contemplation and introspection helps people gain insight into their deepest desires, needs, and potentials.
When a person has suffered a lot, he may release negative emotions in his heart, such as tears, when he is alone. It is an emotional outlet, through tears to release stress and pain.
People who have suffered a lot often learn to run with tears in their eyes, and when faced with difficulties and challenges, they no longer easily show weakness or retreat.
Through the hardships they have endured, they have developed tenacity, courage and adaptability, and can face the hardships and setbacks of life more decisively.
Although their hearts may be full of tears, they will cheer themselves up and persevere in the face of adversity alone.
3. Know how to endure, insist on being kind to others, and have a sharp edge. When you have enough strength, you will resist.
Knowing how to endure does not mean completely compromising and resigning, but facing difficulties and setbacks firmly and striving to overcome them.
People who have endured hardships become stronger, they know that suffering is a process of growth, and believe that through hard work and struggle, something will be rewarded.
Enduring hardship is not to stop and wait for others to save you, but to take the initiative to change your own life. When individuals are strong enough, they will actively resist injustices and injustices.
When enduring suffering, protect yourself in a smart way and tolerate the white eyes and gossip of others. If you are bullied and hurt by others, resolutely resist and no longer endure it.
Being kind to others does not mean being trampled on, but maintaining one's own principles and positions on the basis of kindness. People who have endured hardships will look at those who are weaker than themselves from another perspective, and know how to help each other and face difficulties together.
It is often easier to get help from people who are suffering because they understand the hardships of life. Miserable people don't look down on others or put on a posture of superiority. Miserable people are not easy targets for bullying, and they will not always be in a vulnerable position after experiencing losses.
For those who do not deserve kindness, the bitter may remain indifferent in order to protect themselves. Hard-working people are kind-hearted and have the ability to protect themselves.
Fourth, there is a big gap with other people's words and deeds, and the thinking and cognitive models are also different.
When your family members oppose you doing something, he will support and encourage you because he knows that hardship is necessary in life and is willing to let you grow from it.
People who have suffered a lot often speak more deeply and may not be understood by the general public.
In practice, people who endure hardship may choose unconventional ways and do the opposite, because they deeply understand that success is achieved through "sideways".
People who have endured great hardships have strong hearts, love and sincerity, and are worthy of association.
Only by going through hardships can we truly experience life, and by persevering through difficult moments, life will become more exciting.