As we all know, if a boy wants to chase a girl, the first impression is too important. This happens quite often. Because of the bad fight, a beautiful fate is the first time men and women meet.
When a girl agrees to her date, the boy is happy, thinking that this is the kindness that the girl promised her. In fact, this is not the case. Girls just give you a chance and then investigate and even test what kind of person you are and if you're a good fit to be your boyfriend. Therefore, the performance of the first meeting is not only a decision on whether or not you can achieve your wishes, but also the foundation. What should we do to make the other person feel good about themselves and make the other person feel good?
Today, let's talk about two people on their first date, what should a guy do to make each other feel good?
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Plan your day.
When many boys go on a date with a girl for the first time, they may respect the girl, so they can go anywhere and do anything. As we all know, girls don't like that. They often feel that such boys are indecisive and have no opinions of their own. Therefore, it is very important to plan a day trip. But how should we arrange it?
The first is the time, preferably around three or four o'clock in the afternoon. Why?Because if the first meeting is too late, the girl will be insecure. At three or four o'clock in the afternoon, not only did it give the girls time to take a nap and put on makeup, but it was not too late, giving the girls enough security.
Secondly, if you have a car, you can go out and pick her up. Talk to the girl about the time in advance, and then you'd better arrive ten minutes early. When a girl goes out and sees you waiting for her, she will be happy.
Then it's time to eat. Where to eat, try to choose a quiet place, neither noisy nor closed, convenient for communication. Then taking into account what the girl does not like to eat, open the seat for the girl before sitting down, showing the gentleman.
Finally, if a girl wants to watch a movie, she can watch a movie. If she doesn't want to see it, she can send the girl home.
3. Don't be embarrassed to chat.
As a boy, we should take the initiative to stir up the atmosphere of the venue. We should know that a good atmosphere can easily make the other person have a good impression of themselves. So, how should we move the atmosphere?
First of all, in order to avoid long awkward chats, we should take the initiative to ask some questions. But don't keep asking, and don't ask questions that are too intimate. As follows:
Man: "How much do you get paid a month?"”
Female: "5000." “
Man: "Oh, how many people are in your family?" ”
Woman: "Three mouths." ”
Man: "How many pounds do you weigh?"”
Woman: "One hundred pounds." ”
You see, such a chat is like interrogating a prisoner. I understand that boys want to know more about girls when they first meet them, so they ask a lot of questions. I also understand that the boys don't want to be embarrassed, so they always ask questions.
But have you ever thought that such a chat would be counterproductive, because for the girl opposite, such a chat is very painful.
Therefore, when it comes to the topic of dating, it is best to say something that can make the atmosphere happy, the content of the conversation should be simple, do not talk about some esoteric topics that the other party does not understand, preferably this topic, and the other party should also be interested. Dating must maintain a happy, happy mind and mood, because dating is not a classroom and does not require preaching, let alone stimulating personality, so the topic must be happy. Because by talking about some happy and funny questions, you can pull in the strange distance between the two of you.
4. Know how to listen.
If she likes big discussions, don't interrupt her discussions. Be a loyal listener. At the same time, don't talk about some academic topics.
In the course of chatting, I often want to talk about my own topics, but it's also important to exchange each other's stories if I want to continue. It is only through my past exchanges that you can find more common ground.
Even if there is a difference of opinion, we should give the other side room to speak. Maybe we're not particularly good at talking, but at least start with a good listener.
You should know that everyone's upbringing is different, so everyone's three perspectives are different, but those who are able and willing to listen to others tend to be very cultured. Because usually when chatting with others, start with the role of listening, find common ground from the process, and then expand to other topics, maybe it's a question, or my personal thought feedback, giving a small response at a break point in time, but also giving someone a stage to express.
Good listening not only gives the other person respect, but also makes the other person feel good about himself.
5. Chat topics.
When meeting for the first time, it's best not to talk about topics that are too deep, too heavy, or involve privacy. What should I say when I meet and chat for the first time?
Everyone has their own interests and hobbies. Even if a person is a reticent person, as long as she talks to someone about his interests and hobbies, she will immediately open up the conversation. However, when you first meet, you don't know what his interests are. What should I do?Never mind. You might as well start by talking about your own interests and hobbies, then find resonance in each other's interests and hobbies, and then talk deeper.
Talk about social life. Social life is all-encompassing. You always have some of the deepest experiences, the things you want to say the most, the people and things you hate or like the most, the things you care about or want the most. You can have some opinions on a few things, but the most important thing is to put the topic aside and wait for her to speak.
Talk about topics that interest her. Now that you've made an appointment to meet, you must have a basic understanding of social software. At this time, you can try to talk about some of the topics she mentioned earlier.
There are many useful ways, but as long as you do the above and have a sincere heart, the other person can feel it. However, all love doesn't happen overnight, you need to slowly accumulate kindness, first date, second date, third date, so, don't be impatient, come on!
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