Regarding whether **Ying really loves Rui Xiaodan, there has always been controversy. Rui Xiaodan called **Ying on his deathbed, but **Ying did not leave any words to stay, nor did he ask Rui Xiaodan about the situation at that time, but remained silent.
Rui Xiaodan's work partner Zhao Guoqiang went to **Ying's residence with his colleagues to inquire about the specific content of **. **Ying retold what Rui Xiaodan said in full. When asked what he said to Rui Xiaodan, **Ying responded: I didn't say anything, just paused for a few seconds, and Xiao Dan hung up.
Few people would be convinced by such an answer. Zhao Guoqiang felt that ** Ying must have something to hide, probably because his feelings for Rui Xiaodan were not deep, so it was impossible not to have any chance of persuasion.
Zhao Guoqiang said to ** Ying before leaving: "Mr. Ding, I really didn't expect you to treat Xiao Dan like this. As Xiao Dan's comrade-in-arms, I am very disappointed in your behavior and regret that Xiao Dan cares about you so much. ”
The love relationship between Rui Xiaodan and **Ying has not been understood and accepted by most people, and they feel that this relationship is both ridiculous and ridiculous.
A delinquent teenager wandering the streets.
Rui Xiaodan describes **Ying as a wandering gangster, who deepens his heart to be free, but in this complicated world, he has to constantly search for the place known as "paradise". His dream is to be a woman with a story, a man with a story. While everyone else is looking for an opportunity to get into Vanity Fair, Ying always manages to keep a low profile to avoid attracting the attention of others.
He's just a little bit of a speculative guy who can only earn a few ordinary coins at most. "If it weren't for his efforts, I wouldn't have been able to get into that circle. "*Ying's evaluation of himself is this: with his outstanding talent in ** trading, he has won a certain popularity in the business field, won Han Chufeng's deep trust, and finally won Lin Yufeng's admiration.
I'm always looking for someone to be myself. *Ying does not pursue these, he hopes to achieve a state of transcendence through personal cultivation, and finally spend the rest of his life in a peaceful place, but he finds himself more and more immersed in it.
* Ying is no different from ordinary people, he longs to earn a lot of wealth and marries a wife, but chooses to divorce after only half a year of marriage. Unlike others, Ying is a rebellious person deep down and doesn't want to be too "cheesy".
When Rui Xiaodan arrived at **Ying's residence, her eyes fell on the simple decoration in **Ying's room, which reminded her of a certain aspect of psychology:
Those with simple thinking tend to need more decoration and additions, while those with complex thinking are more inclined to pursue a simple lifestyle.
If **Ying wants to live a rich life, he will definitely be able to enjoy a luxurious life with his social network and wisdom. But surprisingly, he now lives in a rental house that doesn't even have air conditioning, and he is very satisfied despite the simplicity of the equipment inside. "I want him to have a comfortable home, but I don't want him to feel lonely. Rui Xiaodan not only understood him, but also noticed his unique side.
A woman born in heaven.
Han Chufeng used a certain sentence of Nietzsche to evaluate **Ying:
The philosopher of the higher order is alone, not because he longs for solitude, but because it is difficult to find his companions in his life.
Rui Xiaodan and **Ying have similar personalities, their souls are unrestrained, they don't want to be bound by the world, and strive to make their lives more in line with their souls and not interfered with by the outside world. In her opinion, her soul is like a "puppet", and many "small worlds" can be found in the "puppet".And in this world, what she wants to do most is to make herself happy. Rui Xiaodan has an attractive appearance, but she has not become a "puppet" under this appearance.
If you look at your face closely, it really doesn't look like it was from birth, it's like a heavenly creation. Looking at your slender waist, slender legs, plump breasts and wide hips, coupled with your cold temperament, which woman would be willing to approach you?"Yes, I'm in good shape. Rui Xiaodan's appearance is not only eye-catching, but the temperament she exudes is more like a transcendent atmosphere.
*Ying had contact with many women, but in the end he decided not to be influenced by women. Xiao Yawen and Han Chufeng both understand that ** Ying will not make the same mistake again, that is, she will no longer have too many emotional tendencies towards women. This seemed to her to be a normal thing. However, after learning about Rui Xiaodan, **Ying expressed this opinion:
For a woman like you, neither gold nor silver nor jewelry is enough for decoration. ”
There are not many women as intelligent as you, and similarly, there are few extravagant women like you. ”
In this life, it is enough to have your confidante. ”
*Ying is completely attracted by Rui Xiaodan's charm, women are born with greed, hatred, and stupidity, which is the most unbearable for **Ying. But Rui Xiaodan is different, she lives a simple life, pursues a high-quality soul, and her current state is something that **Ying has failed to achieve even if she works hard.
*Ying told Rui Xiaodan: "Your nature is real, you don't need to know it. It's just the concept of the root, not the tools or wisdom of the root. "He's a principled person and he doesn't change easily. Therefore, he decided to accept Rui Xiaodan and gave up his previous life plan for Rui Xiaodan.
Rui Xiaodan may have a similar personality to **Ying, they both attach great importance to their inner experience and pursue the perfect combination of knowledge and action. But when their thinking and cognition reach a certain height, the number of people who can really understand them gradually decreases. In the process, they will slowly integrate their emotions into each other. Rui Xiaodan and ** Ying are not lovers in the traditional concept, they are more like companions in the depths of the soul.
3. The ruthlessness shown by Ying".
Xiao Yawen is a very wise person, she only respects **Ying, and does not have too much emotional investment, because she knows that falling in love with a man like **Ying is difficult for any woman to bear.
Every pore of him is full of tolerance for the high and lofty of secular culture, which can be unwilling to argue with you, or it can make you feel vulgar and inferior. When you feel like you're about to suffocate, when you're about to collapse, there's only one word you can think of: Run!”
*Ying never loses control, he never gets angry, his mind always makes you guess, but it makes you think that he is a boring person at a glance. You don't know, all he has in his heart is you. Even if you make a mistake, he won't be angry with you. He will promise you what you want him to do, and he will not share your worries or double your happiness. Therefore, Xiao Yawen will say that living with such a man is unbearable for ordinary women.
Women tend to be emotionally driven, but Ying doesn't like things that are too cumbersome and procedural, and she prefers to pursue a simple lifestyle. She said that she is a very assertive woman who likes to use a more rational way of thinking to deal with things. From a woman's point of view, Ying is like a "machine" devoid of emotion, and here, I must mention another experience of Ying Ying.
In a TV series, **Ying's father may be reduced to a vegetative state due to cerebral hemorrhage, but he can last for a period of time only on a ventilator. So, he asked the doctor a question: "What should I do to make my father lose his life?".The doctor replied, "You call him to the ward." After hearing this sentence, in our own words: Is this something that humans can express?
When his eldest brother questioned him, Ying responded:
If it is determined that the patient is in a vegetative state at the dying stage, then please stop paying and I will take out the oxygen tube. ”
The eldest brother said angrily: "As the eldest son in the family, you should not speak in this family. I can't let others criticize us for our unfilial behavior as children, and I can't let them find fault behind our backs. Even if the family still has some wealth, I want to make sure that my father's dignity is not compromised. ”
The words of the eldest brother touched the hearts of many children, and after careful consideration, they realized that things are not simple. Is it really out of concern for the elderly, or is it in order to satisfy one's conscience?
If my filial piety is based on my father's pain and dignity, then I really don't know anything about myself. In Ying's point of view, true filial piety should be built on the basis of the elderly, and only if you are truly good for the elderly, can you be regarded as true filial piety.
*Ying's mother told him: "You can also say such ruthless words as pulling out the tube, raising a child to prevent old age, and he ended up like this, and his own son wants to pull the tube for him." ”
*Ying calmly and quickly said to her mother: "Mom, if you are raising your child just to prevent old age, then please don't overemphasize the greatness of maternal love, after all, you are constantly raising for yourself, this is just an exchange!"She's real. Although Ying is harsh in words, his filial piety is unquestionable, because all the medical expenses are borne by him. His sister told him that without Ying's financial support, it would not be possible for the doctor to go to the hospital to get a bowl of water.
In addition, the younger sister has always intended to renovate the teahouse at home, but Ding's father does not approve. She hoped that Ying would persuade the old man to change his mind, but Ying retorted: "I don't think so, it's not because the property rights of the teahouse belong to my father."
If you set the threshold of the teahouse too high, so that the average tea customer in the family cannot afford it, the original market atmosphere of the teahouse will disappear. The elderly are always busy with trivial chores and live a full and happy life, which is undoubtedly the most cost-effective way to consume. ”
Although ** said that he wanted to remove the tube, he was really filial. Because the old man of the Ding family has become a vegetative person, he knows nothing about everything around him, and life has become meaningless. The rest of his time was left to his children to show his "filial piety" side, which made everyone else feel that the three children of the Ding family were truly filial. Even though the old man has become a vegetative state, he is still unwilling to let go.
From **Ying's interpretation of the concept of "filial piety", we can see that he is not the kind of person who likes to pretend, and he will not change his decision because of the evaluation of others, let alone change because of the contempt of others.
Make wishes come true. 
The reason for writing down ** Ying's "filial piety" behavior is that only by truly understanding his "coldness" can we truly feel his deep feelings for Rui Xiaodan. He is a man with a lot of personality, he is difficult to be moved, but as long as he can be moved, there is a lot to say. His feelings for Rui Xiaodan are not cold, but he loves her deeply and loves someone sincerely, it should be for his happiness, not for change, **Ying's way of love is different from others.
In view of the risk of the working environment of the criminal police, **Ying once proposed to Rui Xiaodan to resign. But he did not explicitly ask Rui Xiaodan to resign, but told her that she should consider resigning, rather than expecting Rui Xiaodan to resign voluntarily. If he really hopes that Rui Xiaodan can quit his job, then he hopes that Rui Xiaodan can make some changes for him and become the person he wants in his heart.
If I don't belong to me, but to you, then my love for you loses its meaning, because it is your love for yourself, and so the love is gone. ”
*Ying knows that Rui Xiaodan is not an "object" attached to him, she is an independent thinker, and if she is asked to change her decision, it will be tantamount to ruining her.
Rui Xiaodan is very ambitious, ** Ying also said: "It is because she is brave and visionary that I will not think about her future." ”
Whether it is in terms of family affection or love, **Ying has shown the same "cold" attitude. He does not upset others with his selfish behavior. Rui Xiaodan once said that it is very difficult to reject **Ying, because she loves **Ying deeply, and she neither wants to make **Ying sad, nor does she want to deviate from her original intention.
*Ying understands this, so he will never let Rui Xiaodan fall into trouble, nor will he let her turn her away from his beliefs in order to keep her. He is a responsible person. He understood that Rui Xiaodan's only purpose in calling him at the critical moment was: farewell!Because she is a very good girl, she will use her way to tell him not to hurt this girl again. She was not seeking advice, nor did she intend to persuade her to take hedging measures.
In the original work, Rui Xiaodan's feet were blown up, and the right side of her face was also seriously injured. When rescue teams arrived at the scene, she chose to shoot herself to end her life. Afterwards, people came up with a variety of ways Rui Xiaodan could avoid danger, but no matter what, she was able to complete the task while saving her own life. Everyone didn't understand why Rui Xiaodan committed suicide.
*Ying understands the reason behind her actions: "She feels like she's lost her value. "Are you really out of a choice?*Ying expressed this point of view: "The ** call from Xiao Dan only conveyed a message, that is, farewell. How should I respond to such a farewell?I knew I couldn't stop her, and Dan knew I wasn't going to stop her. I don't make a choice just because Dan was stopped by me, and I don't choose not to stop Dan because I can't stop her. ”
Rui Xiaodan thinks that **Ying is her soul mate, and the most sincere love should be to fulfill her!
* Ying has put in a lot of effort for Rui Xiaodan, but these efforts are not worth it in the eyes of others, because there is no real money and foreign cars. Rui Xiaodan doesn't like these, what she really likes is the spiritual support that **Ying gave her. What truly loves someone should be what she desires, not what she wants.
The final stage: Few people can really understand **Ying's deep affection for Rui Xiaodan. Rui's father forbade him to attend his daughter's funeral, nor did he know where Rui's grave was. Ying didn't explain too much, he knew that he was destined to be an outlier who was not understood. The people who knew him best were gone, and he behaved as usual. When he learned that Rui Xiaodan had died, he wanted to swallow the tea, and suddenly felt that his throat was blocked by something, which turned out to be a mouthful of blood.
The company is on the right track, and if **Ying wants to get a piece of the pie, he is willing to stay. This is the "myth" he created for Rui Xiaodan, and those **"myths" have disappeared, and **Ying has also lost the meaning of staying, so **Ying left the ancient city.
Some people, even if they complete the task, will not have a good result. Ying is such a person, because he said that he wanted to unplug the oxygen tube, he was considered unfilial. However, because he took Rui Xiaodan's last **, but did not persuade her to calm down, he was considered to be Rui Xiaodan in love with the wrong person, which was a bit difficult.
Actually, just be open-minded, because each level is unique and you can't explain it to everyone, just make sure you have a clear conscience!