One trick to cure "appearance anxiety".A few days ago, X-chan saw a post on the Internet, which was quite interesting and shared with everyone. After reading it, it is estimated that it can cure your "appearance anxiety". Blogger @Internet crazy people don't follow me posted, saying that he has been quite ordinary since he was a child, but he is naturally not anxious, on the one hand, it is the reason for family education: I don't care about other people's opinions, and I belong to the kind that has no heart and lungs. There is also the factor that I suddenly realized one thing one day:
The five senses are also organs!This incident directly stifled the signs of appearance anxiety in the cradle. What's going on?The blogger realized that these noses, eyes, eyebrows, and whatever, first of all, are "practical attributes" as organs of the human body, and they exist there, whether you say they are good or not. When you look at your own face with this mind, you look at your own organs: eyes: myopia, astigmatism;Nose: mild rhinitis;Ears: Hearing has gradually become obsolete after being bombarded by ** for a long time;Teeth: Because I ate too many snacks and had multiple deep caries, I am estimated to have a root canal**;The only thing to sing and cry about is the eyebrows, which are relatively thick, although I often hope that this only advantage will be transplanted to the scalp, but thinking about how healthy people are already there, I can't bear it!And, not surprisingly, we had to use these original tattered organs all the way to the coffin planks. So, are you too embarrassed to complain?
Anxiety that your eyes are not big enough and dark enough, your hair is not dense enough, and your nose is not straight enoughA little conscience, you can't criticize a patient, the same is true of the diseased organs, it's all like this, you still think it's not perfect?When you realize this, your heart is filled with only gratitude. It's true that these things exist only as organs, and they serve as "practical value", not to be the standard of good-looking that you think. On the other hand, even if you have a pair of super beautiful double eyelids and big eyes, you laugh at your girlfriends every day."The eyes are small, godless, and drooping", but a sentence from others".My eyesight is 50"I can blow it in front of you for a lifetime. When you think about it, is your appearance anxiety gone?In fact, using this "pragmatism" method can not only break your "appearance anxiety", but also save "social anxiety", "body anxiety", "identity anxiety" and other miscellaneous anxiety problems.
There is "social anxiety":Disenchantment for others: Here we talk about a "social anxiety" that many people have. Social anxiety is the persistent fear of embarrassing or negative comments in social or performance situations (Matthai et al.)., 2022)。Not liking to contact strangers, being uncomfortable in any public setting, being afraid of authority figures, etc., are all manifestations of social anxiety. 
Why do people have "social anxiety"?According to a certain philosopher, we all recognize some kind of fixed "social value order" in our hearts, which is a sacrosanct rule of the game. To put it simply, we are easily "allergic" to those powerful and powerful characters, and are intimidated by their powerful aura. But we must also admit the fact that human beings have social attributes, as well as animal attributes. So, we have to have a social circle, otherwise it's easy to have problems. So how to use a "pragmatist" approach to break "social anxiety"?How to break through the psychological shackles?There is a concept in psychology called "disenchantment", which is the same as the core of "pragmatism", we must learn to "disenchant" others. 
There is a proverb in the West that is called".There are no heroes in the eyes of the servants”。To put it simply, it doesn't matter if you are a great hero who has gone to heaven and earth and has made great achievements in the world, or a sage and aspirant who is admired by thousands of people and has a magnificent spirit, as long as you take off your armor and go home, and let the servants serve you to eat, drink, and sleep, in the eyes of the servants, you are just a pile of meat, no different from any ordinary person. The fundamental distance of disenchantment lies in "distance", distance can produce beauty, but it can also destroy beauty. Scholar Li Ao once said: Beauty is constipated, no different from ordinary people. This is a good case of "disenchantment". The fairy-like Hu Yinmeng was shattered in Li Ao's heart, and I don't know if he was frightened by the embarrassing and embarrassed image of the other party, so that the marriage was broken in the endIf you want to disenchant someone, the fastest way is to "rip off the other person's clothes". Don't be shocked, X-chan doesn't have any quirks, and it's not **, it's picking off each other's clothes in my heart. For example, when you are with a person with a strong aura, try to restore the original attributes of the person as a natural person as much as possible, you can imagine the situation when the other party sits on the toilet and poops, and picks the nose when you are bored, instead of being bluffed by the other party's high-tech identity labels. When you put your mind into practice, the anxiety disappears.
Body anxiety: Is the good body you envy really good?Let's talk about "body anxiety". It can be seen from various online platforms that topics such as weight anxiety, body aesthetics, and fast ** have always attracted much attention, and the popularity has not decreased, and even developed in the direction of deformity. WhatA4 waist, right-angled shoulders, comic legs, peach buttocks, clavicle fish, backhand belly button. ...Good guys, one is more ruthless than the other. But don't forget, other celebrities rely on their bodies and faces to eat, if anyone can give me a daily salary of 208w, X sauce can do it. Don't be deceived by the good figure rendered by others, and then look down at yourself:Elephant legs, swimming rings, bye-bye sleeves, flatbread faces. I was ashamed of myself, and I was so anxious that I couldn't do it. 
But is the good figure seen in the mobile phone and computer really worthy of envy?Let's "disenchant" the body. According to the BMI body mass index method commonly used in China: 20-23 is normal;>23 is overweight;More than 30 is obese. Many people control their body according to the standard of "thinness" passed by **, but this "thinness" is equivalent to "very thin", which is 15% lower than the DSM-IV-TR standard for anorexia on the BMI index. It's lower than people with anorexia, isn't it scary?And the models and stars on the screen that you envy are usually 20% or even more lower, and they may really be a "skeleton" in the real world. 
So, the kind of good body standard that you envy is unlikely to reach the goal for most people, is it necessary for you to be anxious?There are also those Victoria's Secret models, they are for the service of "selling underwear", they are selected as one out of ten thousand, and their innate genes are tall and thin, and you can't fight hard.
And they don't have much to do with us, the only connection may be."Whether to buy the underwear they wear or not". The backward value of "must be thin" has now lost everyone's recognition, and the Victoria's Secret marketing officer once said that he would never consider using plus-size models, but it is not soon to slap in the face!Not long ago, they also shot a campaign for British model Ali Tate-cutler. 
Therefore, when you use things like "pragmatism", "physical objects", "concreteness" to break the "illusions" in your mind, the anxiety may be gone. Therefore, for the body, "health" is the most important, and the rest is secondary.
The opposite of anxiety is concreteThis is true for any "anxious" mood. Let's start by looking at what anxiety isAnxiety is "fear", which is part of the "fight-or-flight reaction", which is a vague, worried, fearful, and unpleasant subjective emotional response when an individual encounters an internal or external threat (Scheerer & Goldstein, 1941). Almost everyone has this sentiment. In the process of natural selection, this ability to react immediately when perceived danger is preserved from generation to generation, and it can be said that "fear" has greatly increased our probability of survival. However, in today's work and life, there are not so many dangerous beasts or harsh environments to threaten our lives, we are more anxious about whether we are doing well: we are worried that we will not be able to gain love;Fear of not being recognized;Worried that you won't be able to achieve anything in your career;I'm worried that I'm going to get sick and die;I am worried that I will not be able to complete my studiesAll worries are fear of "uncertainty". 
The Harvard Psychology Laboratory has done research on the sources of anxiety and found that 40% of anxiety comes from worrying about the future, 30% comes from things in the past, 22% comes from some trivial things in life, and only 4% comes from what we are doing now. So, do you see what's coming?From the above data, it can be found that anxiety mostly comes from "uncertainty about the future", and it is difficult to be anxious about "doing concrete things in the present". This principle is the same as the essence of "pragmatism" we mentioned above, when you look at something rationally with something "concrete", "practical", "visible and tangible", anxiety no longer exists. This is also known as "disenchantment". Teacher Zhou Yijun of "Round Table Pie" once talked about ".The opposite of anxiety is concreteThe opinion went viral on the Internet, she said: "Anxiety is a very illusory emotion, it is something that is indescribable and makes you uneasy, you need to break through that fog, and then find a specific path, step on that specific path, step by step, and there is no such anxiety." ”So do you have any "anxiety"?Enter the [Solution X] applet The following test can help you detect your anxiety level, come and find out about yourself [Free].
Write at the endThe external world is ever-changing, and "anxiety" is like an infinitely changing cloud in the sky, with 10,086 postures. Some people are anxious about work, some people are anxious about their body, some are anxious about life and death, some are anxious about their studies, and some are anxious about interpersonal relationships. Anxiety can be bizarre. But anxiety is not terrible, you feel terrible because it is too empty, too far away, too elusive, close the distance, give it disenchantment, you can break the illusion. Author: kkTypesetting: kk