I still remember that particular skiing experience, it was a sunny winter morning. My friends and I arrived at the ski slopes early, skis on our backs, and ready for the challenges and fun of the day. In the biting cold wind, I felt refreshed and invigorated both physically and mentally. Skiing is an intoxicating sport, and I enjoy the feeling of speeding through the snow as if I am flying freely in the world. And that exercise also filled me with courage and hope for life.
This is the dilemma I've been facing lately. As a second marriage, I have always treated my stepson with the system. He was not young but did not have a house of his own, so he approached me for help.
Stepson, you know what?Money is not a bottomless pit, and I really have no obligation to help you buy a house. I said.
But Dad ......The stepson's eyes were full of anticipation and helplessness.
I can understand your difficulties, but I also have my difficulties. After all, we are not biologically related. I tried to reassure him in a calm tone.
But you and Dad have been married for so many years, and I also treat you as family. The stepson's voice was a little choked.
I know, but you have to be independent and you can't always rely on others. I also have hard-earned money, and I can't just take it out and buy you a house. "I'll try to explain.
The stepson nodded silently, as if he understood my position. I know this issue isn't resolved, but I don't want to compromise on it. After all, I also have my own life and needs. Although the decision was not easy, I am sure that I will not regret my choice, at least, I can still be worthy of myself.
This incident also made me more determined to stand my ground. I don't feel like I'm wrong, and I don't change my decision because of his attitude. I believe that everyone should have their own bottom line and principles. My bottom line is that I don't burden too much on other people's things, especially in the case of a stepson. I built my own life, ran my own business, and I didn't need to be dictated by an outsider.
This experience also made me think a lot. My marriage, my family, my future, I need to be more determined to stand up for my interests. I am not a person without principles, and I am not a soft persimmon to be slaughtered. I will be more determined to go on and not be swayed by external pressures. I believe that I will be better off.
Stepson, I understand your difficulties, but I also hope you can understand me. I looked at my stepson affectionately and said.
I know where you stand, but I hope you think about it, I really need this money. The stepson's tone was a little heavy.
I understand, but this issue is not only about money, but also about family relationships and responsibilities. I tried to explain, "I don't want to create dependencies for you, I want you to be able to solve this problem independently." ”
The stepson nodded silently, his expression still a little heavy. I know he must be very tangled inside, but it's part of his upbringing, and he needs to learn to take responsibility. Maybe the decision will disappoint him, but in the long run, it will be good for him.
Mom, don't persuade anymore, I can understand your position. The stepson said softly.
I know that this issue is not resolved for the time being, but I also know that I am in the right position. Although this incident will affect our relationship, I have no regrets. For me, making the right choices is more important than maintaining relationships. There are many choices in life, and I chose to stick to my principles and bottom line. It may have been a painful choice, but I believe that I will be stronger because of it.
One day, I suddenly received a ** from my stepson: Mom, I want to apologize to you, I didn't come to you for money, but I wanted to rebuild our relationship with you. ”
Hearing this, my heart was shocked, I didn't expect my stepson to say that at all, it was the result of my dreams. So I asked, "Do you really think so?"”
The stepson said firmly: "Yes, Mom, I want to make up for my previous mistakes, I also understand your position, and I will not embarrass you again." ”
I took a deep breath, tears rolling in my eyes. This sentence made my heart ache and feel moved, and I tried my best to calm my emotions. "Stepson, I accept your apologies and hope that we can re-establish our family relationship. ”
From this moment on, I understood that not every choice will leave us with regrets, and sometimes, sticking to our own principles and bottom line will reap more precious touches. This experience made me more convinced that only by sticking to the bottom line of my heart can I win respect and understanding. It was an emotional sublimation, and it was also a reflection of my growth and tenacity. I will continue to walk with determination and not be swayed by external pressures. Because I believe that the power of justice will eventually break people's hearts.
Thank you, Mom, I will cherish this family affection. The stepson said, his tone full of gratitude and guilt.
Did you know?I want you to be an independent, strong person. Don't always expect others, you also have to learn to take responsibility. I whispered, hoping he would understand my struggle.
I will, and I will work hard to live up to your expectations. There was a determined glint in the stepson's eyes.
Time flies. In the blink of an eye, the stepson got married. He specially found me at the wedding ceremony, and his eyes showed a look of gratitude: "Mom, thank you for your continued support and love, I will treat my wife well and strive to be a competent husband." ”
I shook his hand and sighed with emotion: "You have grown up and matured. I hope you can be a loving husband and wife, and be happy. ”
In that moment, my heart was filled with satisfaction and joy. It is precisely because we have experienced that tortuous relationship that we have made us cherish everything we have now. This experience is no longer a pain point in my heart, but has become the most precious part of my life. Just as the challenges and pleasures of skiing, the difficulties and challenges in our lives are also a kind of growth and gain.
I learned to be tolerant, I learned to understand, I learned to persevere. This experience also made me more aware that every step in life is a trace of growth, and every experience is a wealth in life. No complaints, no regrets, sincere and frank, this is my attitude towards life and life.
And when I saw my stepson and his wife standing happily together, my heart was also bathed in happiness and contentment. This journey may be tortuous, but the growth and family affection of the harvest are irreplaceable after all. It's all worth it because each of us is on the way forward, getting better and more mature. And I, because of this experience, have become more resilient and determined. That's life, that's life.
In the days that followed, the relationship between me and my stepson slowly became more harmonious. He has gradually learned to be independent and responsible, and I have more understanding and understanding of him.
Mom, my wife and I are ready to have a baby, and we hope you will always support us. The stepson said, his eyes full of anticipation and trust.
I smiled and nodded, "Of course you will, you have to prepare well and be ready for a new life." ”
This emotional story also made me stand firmer. Be cautious about getting involved in other people's families, because each of us has our own bottom line and principles. Just like my insistence on the second marriage system, only by sticking to the bottom line of my heart can I gain respect and understanding. This is a manifestation of ethics and responsibility, as well as respect for oneself.
And deep down, I will still silently bless my stepson and his family. No matter what happens, I will always be here to support them. I firmly believe that love and respect are the most important bonds between people, and this emotional story has made me understand this more deeply. I will be more tolerant and tolerant of everything in life, because I believe that we are all growing and we are all getting better.