Husband and wife are like two captains of the same ship, although they are in the same car, they need to work together to ride the wind and waves, even if they are a community of interests, they have to face a truth:
No matter how good the relationship between two people is, they are two different individuals after all, with two bodies, two heads, and two minds.
Even if the mind is connected, it is impossible to think that everything is the same, everything is the same.
This also means that when running a marriage, you can't expect to go with the flow, feelings can tie two people closer and closer like glue, but you need to pay seriously to manage the marriage better and better.
In real life, there will always be a person who becomes the missing person in the marriage, and uses busy work as an excuse to throw everything in the marriage and family to the other half, and in the long run, under huge pressure in life, the other half will inevitably be dissatisfied.
No one wants to accept a widow marriage, and a really good relationship between husband and wife is to keep the other half in mind at all times, even if there are three things to do often.
The movie "Like You" says: Eating is a very personal thing.
When eating, regardless of the image in order to satisfy one's desires, is the most real time for a person, and it is also the time when a person is the most relaxed.
In most households, relationships between family members who eat at the same table often are much better than those who rarely eat at the same table.
In this life, eating is a very important thing, and for couples, if they can often spend time eating together, it means that each other's hearts and each other are in a very important position, and the relationship is naturally easy to stabilize.
On the contrary, if you are reluctant to eat together, or even always use busy work as an excuse and do not cherish the opportunity to eat with your partner, the relationship between two people can be easily hurt.
is like Zhong Xiaoqin and Chen Yu in "Only Thirty".
Divorced when she quarreled with Chen Yu, Zhong Xiaoqin cried and complained, saying that she could feel that Chen Yu still loved her before, and she even had to sit next to each other when she ate, but gradually, eating and dating became unimportant, obviously Chen Yu didn't love himself enough.
Although it turns out that the two still love each other deeply, it has to be said that couples who can't eat together often rarely have the opportunity to communicate with each other, and are more likely to have suspicions and misunderstandings.
There are always those who think that as long as two people are together, they don't need to say anything to see if the other person can understand each other, but in real life, it is difficult to achieve such a level, even if the two have become husband and wife, they must also communicate effectively, in order to be able to collide and exchange ideas, if you are silent, just let the other person guess your thoughts may be a bit overwhelming.
When managing a marriage, smart men and women will be aware of this, and when they feel uncomfortable, they will calm down and talk to their partner, in the right way and with a sincere attitude, not just quarrel with their partner, and see some of their partner's behavior and do not try to say their feelings, but feel disgusted and cut off the feelings between the two.
Just like the marriage of Chen Junsheng and Luo Zijun in "The First Half of My Life", many readers think that the problem of their marriage lies with Luo Zijun, because the woman is satisfied with the status quo and stops advancing, which leads to the dissolution of the two steps.
In fact, as a husband, Chen Junsheng is also responsible, knowing that if his wife does not reach out to pull the other party, he will find problems in the marriage and communicate efficiently with the other party, but subconsciously choosing to escape is also an extremely irresponsible performance.
Problems will arise in any couple's marriage to a greater or lesser extent, and the best way to deal with them should be to communicate calmly and effectively, and reach an agreement to solve them together. Frequent communication can give the other party the opportunity to understand themselves, there is no need to guess the other person's thoughts when getting along, words and deeds are not burdened, and feelings are more harmonious.
For children, the best family education is the love between parents, and father's love and mother's love cannot be obtained in children, children who grow up in a loving environment are easy to have good thoughts, more confident, and able to face the future life calmly.
At the same time, when couples are willing to spend time with their children often, the children will become an emotional bond between the two people, and the process of getting along will bring the relationship closer and closer.
Especially when there is a dispute, no one ignores the other party, spending time with children, and having to make contact in the process of getting along, and indifferent relationships are easy to break the ice.
In other words, after marriage, two people are not only individuals, but also the lives of the other person, and when either party sees that the other partner is willing to spend time with the child, work hard, and do their duty, they will be encouraged to do their best to play their role in the family for the child.
This is why the older generation often says that two people should have children as soon as possible after getting married, and the marriage relationship with children is easier to last, and if there are no children to make a stumbling block in the middle, the marriage will be fragile.
Spending time with your children can not only give them enough love, but also feel a better way to manage their marriage and achieve self-healing.