"Young couples and old companions, hand in hand to remember the sunset. ”In this world, your spouse is arguably the only person in this world who is not related by blood, but is your closest person.
When we were young, we went through ups and downs together, and when we were old, we were each other's company.
Unfortunately, we will eventually come to the end of our lives, and the once vows will become empty with the passage of time, and the most sad and painful of them is the death of one of the husband and wife.
But in my country's funeral culture, there has always been a rule that is puzzling, that is, "if husband and wife do not send a funeral, the funeral will suffer." ”
So, why can't husbands and wives give each other a funeral?
In a quiet mountain village, there is such a loving old couple, and their love story is passed down as a good story in this small mountain village.
Unexpectedly, the usually healthy aunt passed away due to an accident, and her husband couldn't accept this reality at all, and washed his face with tears every day.
On the day of her aunt's burial, her husband was busy for fear that he would miss something.
But I didn't expect that on the way to see off, my aunt's husband passed away due to excessive grief.
Since then, the village has begun to spread the saying that "if the husband and wife do not send a funeral, the funeral will suffer".
But if we look up the information, we will find that in fact, in China, the Xi of "husband and wife do not send funerals" has been around for many years.
And the formation of this concept is inseparable from the spread of religious culture.
As we all know, in ancient China, everyone admired the ideological concepts of Buddhism and Taoism, although the two schools of thought are very different on the issue of life and death, but it is undeniable that the two religions have many similarities in the concept of life and death.
Buddhism regards birth, old age, sickness and death as human suffering, and they believe that people are destined to leave from birth, which is a rule, while Taoism has always emphasized not to talk about death directly, but to see death as a natural process.
Therefore, under the influence of these concepts, everyone always believes that death is a process that people must go through in this life, and funeral is a necessary ritual for the relatives and friends of the deceased to free the deceased and sublimate the soul.
But in the process, if the spouse goes to the funeral, it is very likely to disturb the soul of the deceased and prevent him from resting.
After all, as the pillow person of the deceased, the two have had too many memories and bonds in this life, and if the spouse goes to the funeral, it is very likely that they will be entangled by the deceased.
In addition, there has always been a saying of "Yin and Yang Theory" in China, that is, life is yang, death is yin, there must be yin and yang, yin and yang can be converted, and the two will lose the other.
Therefore, many people will think that there will be a situation of soul possession in the body of the deceased, and if unfortunately it is contaminated, there is a high probability that various diseases will occur, and it is even possible to take the spouse away directly.
Although from the perspective of modern science, we all know that there is no soul and there is no such thing as being taken away by a spouse, so why should we be so convinced that "husbands and wives do not have funerals"?
In fact, in real life, the Xi of "husband and wife do not send funerals" is not based on everyone's superstitious views, but a kind of adherence to the feelings of husband and wife.
After all, as a husband and wife, the two have known each other for decades through ups and downs, experienced joys and sorrows, and tasted all the ups and downs, which can be said to be the most important existence in life.
Therefore, once either of the two parties dies, the other party will naturally have to endure a thousand times the pain.
If you go to the funeral, the living party will have to drag your already unsound body for several days, and this will put the living party under both psychological and physical pressure.
Therefore, many people will think that "husband and wife do not send a funeral" will suffer a lot of bad luck, which will make the living spouse sick.
In fact, it is more because relatives and friends are afraid that their spouses will touch the scene in the process of funeral, so now more people will advocate the Xi of "husband and wife do not send funerals".
In modern society, people are generally more educated, and many people have begun to change their beliefs about these secular gods.
However, in some places, many people still practice the Xi of "husband and wife do not send funerals" to show their cherishing of life.
Nowadays, with the development of the times, more people have begun to waver in the Xi of "husband and wife do not send funerals".
In fact, this also reflects that everyone has a deeper knowledge and understanding of funeral culture, and will not be limited by the traditional concept of rules and regulations.
What we need to do most is to be more open and inclusive to understand everyone's ideas.
But this is not a complete denial of those who respect traditional concepts, after all, forced funeral, it is very likely that they will be overworked, touching the scene, and thus endangering their own health.
After all, there is still a certain reason for the concept of "husbands and wives do not send funerals" handed down by the older generation, whether we believe this view or not, we must respect personal choices and do not leave regrets for ourselves.
Therefore, when we face this problem, we must maintain a calm attitude, not only respect the choices of others, but also take into account our own responsibilities.
Life is fragile and precious, and we must maintain a sense of reverence at all times.
When the funeral ceremony is agreed, we must arrange each process reasonably to avoid all kinds of problems.
At the same time, we should also respect and understand traditional culture, so that traditional culture can be integrated into our daily life.
At the end of the article, I would also like to ask you, what is your understanding of the traditional concept of "husband and wife do not send funerals"?And do you think this Xi should be kept or abandoned?